12 year old ds disturbing Google search

[SusanSHelit]

I have just checked my voicemail this evening and had a message from 12yo ds head of year (y7) about 'something offensive which was picked up by smoothwall on the school laptop while he was logged in'. In the voicemail the hoy said that no requirement for a set of educational sessions and that he assured her it was a one off.

The message didn't detail what was picked up. I obviously had a conversation with ds about this and first he said he didn't remember what he typed. Then a few minutes later he revealed that he typed in 'is it illegal to put an animal in a blender?'

Im honestly really shocked and very disappointed. I would never have expected this from him. His father and I are separated and have been for a few years and he has pets in both houses (gerbils in his dad's, a cat at mine).

I've spoken to his dad about this, we have a pretty good coparenting relationship. Ds is going to his dad's after school tomorrow as I'm working nights for three nights from tomorrow. I'm going to call the school in the morning obviously but I don't even know where to begin with this.

Ds said he was just messing about with his friends but that he would even think about this has really disturbed me. He's a good kid at home, and this seems very out of the blue. He didn't say his friends typed it in, he said he did.

He's been banned from his PlayStation tonight and I've taken his phone too. I don't know if he will be allowed these in his dad's tomorrow

Let’s not forget the context that this thread is explicitly about animals in a blender. I’ve already said, it’s not a fact I’ve boasted about before now 😂 there’s many other immoral things I haven’t done and have never articulated, as there hasn’t been a specific Mumsnet post about, say, pushing an old lady over in the street. There’s also many good things that I have done (and still do) in the world of charity, healthcare, social mobility and justice that mean I objectively know I’m a good person - not just because I haven’t blended furry creatures…. I wasn’t setting the bar there.

That was so funny 😁 literally laughed at that. As an adult you can do that assuming your mental health is well balanced and your searching for research or information. So well done you for doing all that stuff. I hope you sleep OK after reading all that horrible stuff too.
Hopefully children, who dont have the experience of adulthood won't do that though. As we know childrens minds can be damaged by childhood trauma by such as you have researched/read for pleasure.
Let hope no children are damaged by seeing/reading/researching how to microwave/blend and animal.

God bless you for all you have done so far as an adult ... 🙄

He didn't see/read or research how to blend an animal.

Summat like that... not sure now was days ago. Didn't stay on my radar tbh. Just replying to the other drivel

It was yesterday evening.

I think you're confused. You were the one drivelling on about how a child looking up a law was going to lead to them searching for videos and eventually perpetrating animal abuse.

@WheretheFishesareFrightening "DH and I had a lengthy chat the other day about what would happen if we put our very loved and cherished dog in the tumble dryer. "

Why would you have a lengthy chat about trying to kill your "loved and cherished" dog in a particularly vile way. Or any way?

It was a thought experiment. As in - what would happen. The dog was wet, we joked to the dog that she’d have to go in the tumble dryer, then explained to her why she wouldn’t like that. As part of that one of us said she’d drown in there, the other corrected to say it’s a dryer not a washing machine. Then a debate around whether she could run round it like a hamster wheel. But it would get hot, cue debate about how hot it is in the tumble dryer. Then would it be the tumbling action that would be more dangerous, or would it be the heat. And she likes warm things so would she actually enjoy it in there with enough blankets and cushioning to stop the tumbling being dangerous. Would it be more preferable if we laid the tumble dryer on its back first, as I’d quite like to go to sleep wrapped in blankets in a warm, slow spinning machine with a white noise background.

We may have gone on other tangents that I don’t remember now. It wasn’t a graphic discussion about murdering our pet.

I assure you though, actually putting the dog in the tumble dryer never crossed either of our minds.

Oh well, I guess that all checks out. Next time you're at a loose end maybe you could chat about putting a baby in the tumble drier, just to switch things up a bit.

We don’t have access to a baby so that would never come up in conversation. And tbh it’d be the same outcome as the previous discussion so it’d also be pointless.

Genuinely out of interest though, if someone says to you “don’t do something”, do you always accept it without any critical thought? You’ve never thought about why something is a terrible idea? Or ran through a hypothetical scenario? I also have a relatively worked out plan for what would happen if we went into nuclear war… or if DH died in a tragic accident. Things I think are unlikely to happen and I hope never will, but I have chatted through the practical implications. Also “happy” things like what if we open the lottery, bought an abandoned church, had a baby… again things that are unlikely to happen, but I can still hypothesises about.

Having worked for an animal shelter for many years I don't need to discuss the hypothetical implications of putting a dog in a tumble dryer, sawing off their paws or pouring petrol on a kitten and setting fire to her. I've seen the effects and, if I ever did have any curiosity, it is thoroughly satiated thanks. Musing on how to survive post nuclear war or being widowed (I was) are common human threads and understandable. Likewise winning the lottery.

He's showed no other alarming signs so I'd chalk it off as random curiosity.

If someone looked at my search history they'd probably think I was a psycho. I often ask strange questions, usually after watching crime documentaries to get further detail about the case.

So because you've had some bad experiences, nobody else who hasn't ever encountered such things isn't allowed to think about it in an abstract way? What planet are you on? You're not the thought police and you don't rule the world.

OK. But I really can't imagine anyone thinking in an "abstract" way about burning a kitten to death or sawing the paws off a dog. Maybe I'm the weirdo and on a different planet as you say. If other posters see this comment perhaps they'd like to say whether they would find those kind of thoughts perfectly average.

This game is hugely popular. I doubt most people who enjoy playing this game would actually explode any kittens.

Sawing paws off a dog doesn't really fit into the kind of exaggerated comedy violence of blenders and fire/explosions.

Honestly sounds like a silly boy messing around. As long as he doesn’t start literally placing animals in a blender, I’d say you’re fine. Christ, at 13 my friends and I were watching horrendous videos online… Happy to say we’re all completely normal people, we were just curious kids.

Maybe it came up in conversation? It doesn’t automatically mean this was something he was pondering.

I’m sure a lot of my searches out of context would be weird too.

Yip. Didn't Ted Bundy's mummy say he was a good boy? He started torturing and killing animals! I'm shocked the amount of people putting this down to "kids having a laugh" and "you should see what I Google". Disturbing is an understatement!

Torturing and killing animals is completely different to googling is it illegal to put an animal in a blender.
I'm sure Ted Bundy and the likes would never have even have asked that question because they wouldn't have cared if it was illegal or not.