12 year old ds disturbing Google search

[SusanSHelit]

I have just checked my voicemail this evening and had a message from 12yo ds head of year (y7) about 'something offensive which was picked up by smoothwall on the school laptop while he was logged in'. In the voicemail the hoy said that no requirement for a set of educational sessions and that he assured her it was a one off.

The message didn't detail what was picked up. I obviously had a conversation with ds about this and first he said he didn't remember what he typed. Then a few minutes later he revealed that he typed in 'is it illegal to put an animal in a blender?'

Im honestly really shocked and very disappointed. I would never have expected this from him. His father and I are separated and have been for a few years and he has pets in both houses (gerbils in his dad's, a cat at mine).

I've spoken to his dad about this, we have a pretty good coparenting relationship. Ds is going to his dad's after school tomorrow as I'm working nights for three nights from tomorrow. I'm going to call the school in the morning obviously but I don't even know where to begin with this.

Ds said he was just messing about with his friends but that he would even think about this has really disturbed me. He's a good kid at home, and this seems very out of the blue. He didn't say his friends typed it in, he said he did.

He's been banned from his PlayStation tonight and I've taken his phone too. I don't know if he will be allowed these in his dad's tomorrow

Cool.
No child deserves to be shamed like that for asking a question, kids ask stupid things like that. As I said I bet he won't forget this feeling even though he didn't do anything wrong.
If he'd googled 'animals being tortured' that would be different.

Hopefully he won’t forget. And he won’t google stupid shit at school

Thats how it can start. Then pictures. Then videos. Then real life.

Ah yes because that feeling of shame is so healthy for a child. Awful that you'd want the poor kid to think he did something really bad and deserved that feeling when he didn't.

Well he did a stupid thing and he got punished for it. It’s kind of how life works

I put animals in blenders quite regularly along with vegetables to make soup. First I have heard it could be illegal but good for him for checking!

Does no one else remember rotten.com

Yes unfortunately. My friend showed it to me. I was very sick 🤢

He didn't really.
His mother just overreacted.

And that’s fine for you to think that. Of course she knows her own son but don’t let that stop you slating her

I shared my opinion.

I wouldn't even be commenting and 'slating her' anymore except for you responded back to me and are making out that this boy deserved it.

Either way, the OP should try to limit the damage because shaming her son for this is not good.

I completely understand that feeling of shock — never expecting your own child to search something like that. My daughter is only 10, and reading this I'm already thinking about what I might be dealing with in a couple of years… You've handled it really well though — you've talked to him, contacted the school, and told his dad. Hopefully it really was just a stupid one-off moment.

This question wasn't showing that he had an interest in doing it.

The other day I searched for 'Is it illegal to refuse to give a leprechaun dinner if they knock on your door?'

I obviously would NEVER refuse to give a leprechaun dinner if they knocked on my door 😛I was just googling to see what came up because this is a jokey Irish law that people say we have.

Googling 'is it illegal to put an animal in a blender' is obviously not in any way the same as putting an animal in a blender and then blending them like the story you mentioned.

Next we'll have people worrying their child is a little psychopath because they check out a 'horrible histories' book from the library.

This is why kids have MH disorders, if the adults around them over react and view every normal kid thing as some safeguarding matter or indicative of psychopathy or some disorder, the kids internalise this and copy the naval gazing.

This thread is bizarre.

Couldn't agree more. What a huge overreaction, and unfortunately it's the poor boy who suffers.

I typed ‘is it illegal to’ and it came up with ‘talk to dolphins’ 😂 down the rabbit hole I go

Who's talking about ACCEPTING? He is being supervised, it has been flagged up, parents informed, what else do you want? No one is "letting" the kid do anything.

I would absolutely not sent him to a psychiatrist or despair that my kid is a potential rapist a dangerous pervert and whatever nonsense has popped on this thread.

because i am not deranged 😂

If anyone brought their child to a psychiatrist based off of that they'd be more likely to judge the parent and their reaction than anything.

If you mean he will have learn to wait until he's home to search for stupid shit, you are right.

If you mean he will have learn not to search things in general, that would be a stupid consequence

Don't you remember the old Joe Cartoon animation Frog in a Blender? They made a whole load of similar flash animations back in the day which became well known memes

I wouldn’t worry about this op. I remember way back when being in school and having a debate about whether animal would explode if put in a microwave.

This was pre Google but someone would of looked it up. It’s not like it was a plan just random teenager chat.

Agree 100%. If there is one lesson he should learn from this it is not to search for anything unusual on the school computer as it is monitored. Do it at home on your own computer.

That's right. There's a thread today about Afghan men selling their daughters. I've done several google searches today about the legality and prevalence to child and forced marriages in Afghanistan and other countries, which shows I am now fully invested in selling my 6 yo to a Yemeni family.

I've spent quite a lot of time lately reading about statistics on abortions, laws in different countries, and routes taken by women who can't access legal and safe abortion. Sadly, I'm not pregnant, so I'm going to have to suspend my obvious deep desire to experience a back-street abortion in Ghana.

Oh, and I also recently looked into the laws on corporal punishment of children worldwide which shows that I'm on a slippery slope to beating unlucky children I encounter.

It's setting the bar rather low isn't it? I don't suppose Putin/Trump/Farage has ever put an animal in a blender. Well, probably not.