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Why has this upset me so much?

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MyDogIsBetterThanYou · 19/05/2026 01:50

I am a surgeon and am not usually phased by anything. When I’m at work absolutely nothing gets to me in the moment. I am focused on doing my job, things can go wrong and I just fix them.

Today I was driving on the motorway and saw and heard the most horrific crash I’ve ever seen. It felt like it was in complete slow motion. It was on the opposite carriageway to me so I couldn’t stop safely and help, so I immediately called 999 and told the police dispatcher, there was an awful accident and gave the what 3 words thing as I was on the hard shoulder. At the end of the call I said to her she need ambos and fire and she asked why so I reiterated lorry v 3 cars with traffic trying to drive round the cars that had hit each other.

I got back on my way and the ambulance rang me and asked me more information and I repeated I wasn’t at the scene I was on the opposite carriageway and I suspected 5+ casualties. I think I must have been the first person to call 999 as it quite literally was still happening as I was on the phone.

I got to the restaurant and I realised I felt really shaken by it, I googled it out of interest and the motorway was closed and still is.

I feel so shaken up by it, still even like 8 hours later. I felt so calm on the phone but I was probably not very calm!

I just don’t know who to speak to ? I wish I was able to help more. I just knew immediately it was bad. Has anyone else experience something similar?

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 19/05/2026 11:16

You’ve just reminded me of the whatthreewords app. I never did download it 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

JessicaPeach · 19/05/2026 14:56

@MyDogIsBetterThanYoudo you live in the north west? If so I’ve just seen a post from Cheshire police about this accident asking anyone who saw it to contact them

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