How attractive do you think you are?

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Inspired by a conversation I had about the sub Reddit ‘Rate me’ where people put a picture of themselves up and ask strangers to rate them out of 10 based on how physically attractive they are. Screams of either insecurity or narcissism to me, but got me wondering - how physically attractive do you think you are? What would you rate yourself out of 10? How did you arrive at that number? Eg. What evidence do you have for it? Do you think you’re average or above or below average? Do you think most people perceive themselves as more or less attractive than they actually are? Most of the time, are you happy or unhappy with what you see in the mirror?

Couldn't care less what people think of how I look to be honest. I have a 10/10 personality though 😂

I don't think I’m a 9/10 but compared against those in my “type” I think 8. If a man likes Margo Robbie he probably would think I’m not that attractive but if he likes the dark and spooky vibe I think I’m an 8. That’s how I would score it anyway. I think she’s an absolute smoke show by the way but to compare myself to her is like apples and oranges.

I feel like most normal people come into the 5-7 range TBH. Average people are generally average looking, although some people really know how to dress and present themselves well so they look more attractive.
Also I think your personality can affect how people perceive you.

I've always been on the ugly side of plain but it really doesn't bother me. I still like dressing up and make up.....I just don't expect miracles.
(Incidentally I did see a girl today who id class as a 9. She was working on a building site and looked so out of place I was looking around for a film crew....it was the only explanation!)😂

I’m not sure, I think you can think Margot is attractive,,as let’s face it most people do, and find other types very attractive.

christ im straight and i look at that woman and think wow she’s incredibly beautiful, like mesmerising to look at type. But my husband looks nothing like her,,

I was a 5 when I was young and now at 55 I'm about a 2. i've got dark circles under my eyes, a double chin, and a face scarred by acne (and picking). I've never been a beauty so the only way for me to go was down, down, down lol

I think you can appreciate different types of beauty and a lot of it comes down to “is this fake symmetrical” from a biological standpoint. But I think most people and most people (especially men) have a type. I have a distinctive look that people either love or don’t like. My sister looks a lot like me but has a very natural and non alternative style and most people would rate her higher, but the ones that would like me more would have a very strong preference for me. Not sure if that makes sense?

Solid 3.5 maybe 4 at a push. I've got a big nosh and a slightly wonky smile, and I'm obese. Maybe 6 years ago before that happened I'd have said a 7

I checked the study I recall reading an article about once, and discovered it's women in their mid-twenties that men will always be statistically most attracted to, so not 18 and early twenties as I misremembered, but still young women at the peak of their fertility and youth:

Young men (aged < 20 years) are interested in somewhat older partners than themselves, but as time passes and men age, the interest in partners in their mid-20s is maintained. The result is that older men tend to be interested in women younger than themselves (Antfolk et al., 2015; Kenrick, Gabrielidis, Keefe, & Cornelius, 1996).

I admire your poor attempt to imply I must be unattractive and bitter; as my first comment on this thread said, I'm regularly found attractive enough to lech at (yuck) and am perfectly happy with my looks. But I think a number system is silly, and age aside, I think that beauty is generally subjective enough that people's tastes can vary a great deal.

I also think it's ridiculous for you to think that 'beauty' is required for survival and procreation, as it clearly isn't the case. I'm not sure why that's disturbing? Perhaps you place too much value on subjective and changeable standards of beauty.

I think it's compared to what you think is attractive yourself. Some people would say Margot Robbie was a 10 so when they "rate themselves" they'd do it against her 10. Personally, I think she's pretty enough but I wouldn't say a 10 so if I was saying I was a 9 it would be against soneone else who other people possibly wouldnt think was a 10. It's so objective.

As I said earlier though, I have realised that I look like I should live under a bridge at the moment so I'm nlt compating myself to anyone! 🤣

I'd give myself a 2 with no makeup or effort, a 3 if i try

Its so sad how society is fixated on looks. I dont rate myself at all but if I did it would change on different days 🤷‍♀️
My DP cant keep his hands off me, i still fit in the same clothes I did when I was a teenager and im fit and healthy. I couldnt give a monkeys about what anyone else thinks

I’m OK. Probably on the more attractive side (comparatively, within my own age group) I’d say but certainly not amongst the ranks of ‘beautiful’ people.

It’s frustrating never being able to see yourself in real life in 3D. I hate myself in pictures, so am either not very photogenic or mirrors are a less accurate reflection of how you truly look. My husband tells me it’s the photos that aren’t very flattering but I’m not sure if he’s just being nice!

Either way, physical beauty will always fade with age, so you have to learn to be comfortable with not prioritising physical attributes.

When I was younger solid 9 /10

Now 7/10 on a good day, better than average I'd say

11/10

Maybe a 7 but i know my clothes are always good so can be kind of elevated

I am a 2. In size 8 but not that tall and look fat and my legs are very short compared to my torso. I’m mid 40s now and my hair has always been ratty but now it’s worse and my face has always been ugly. I do try and look nice but as someone once said to me you can roll shit in glitter but it’s still shit. 🤣
That’s me with make up and nice clothes on.

It does make me sad because I approach new people and new situations aware that I’m very unattractive and I think if you are more attractive life is easier in that way. I start on the back foot because people do value what you look like and if you are ugly people do make snap decisions about your worth - even subconsciously. But I cannot do much about it. My parents are just average normal looking so I’m not sure how I ended up like I did but I’ve been ugly since I was a kid and it’s not likely to get any better now!

Well I'm over 50, so while I'd give myself an 8 relative to general population of other 50-55 year olds, I'm probably only like a 4 relative to the whole population because younger people are generally more attractive based on how we are hardwired to asses attractiveness. Like if it was me vs a 30 year old 5 then most blokes would choose the 30 year old.

Out of ten- a certified 20
Not really- I just love the song!
Honestly? In my 20s I was probably a 3 but as I’ve got older I’m much healthier and look after myself well so in my current age group probably a 7.

Age 14-25 Easily an 8, possibly more but I wasn't conventionally beautiful, more striking, so not to everyone's taste.

Now, middle aged, probably a 5. Not unattractive but slightly overweight and my teeth have gotten overcrowded and crooked since my wisdom teeth came in. I can still scrub up well but definitely gone down significantly in attractiveness.

An 8 now in my 50’s (fit, healthy, slim, energetic, smile all the time)

MUCH less in my younger years

From the neck down? a 5 or 6 (I have a good pair of legs), from the neck up without make-up? barely a 1.

zero - ugly, flat chested and short with a wrinkly stomach following childbirth.

I’d actually rate myself quite highly, but “naturally pretty” so I don’t look too bad if I pop to the supermarket with a mum-bun and no makeup. But then I look at selfies of other people when they’re all dolled up and feel like I’m not particularly beautiful. I do get turned heads when I walk into a bar/restaurant but then again I do have quite an alternative style so it could be that sometimes!

I think though honestly it’s because I’m happy and content and confident. I have a nice figure, always been slim but curvy, decent skin, I like my hair, look a bit young for my age (always have). I mean, I’m pushing 40 and happy with my body, how many people can say that? So I do think that shows on the outside.

Do you think people usually underestimate or overestimate their own attractiveness? Or do you think it differs depending on the person? As one pp said, you can never see yourself in 3D!