How attractive do you think you are?

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Inspired by a conversation I had about the sub Reddit ‘Rate me’ where people put a picture of themselves up and ask strangers to rate them out of 10 based on how physically attractive they are. Screams of either insecurity or narcissism to me, but got me wondering - how physically attractive do you think you are? What would you rate yourself out of 10? How did you arrive at that number? Eg. What evidence do you have for it? Do you think you’re average or above or below average? Do you think most people perceive themselves as more or less attractive than they actually are? Most of the time, are you happy or unhappy with what you see in the mirror?

An 8/9 on a good day, make up, hair done, good clothes etc etc. I'm not tall though

For my age, a solid 7.5 when I've done my hair and makeup and looking in my bathroom mirror in good lighting. In Asda self checkout camera, barely scraping a 1 so depends really 😉

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I sometimes look at people and think love is truly blind.

Those self checkout cameras are brutal arnt they. Give me a one..
I’ve never been a beauty, always average and worse as I’ve aged. Just invisible these days.

For my age 8/9. In general a 5. Before I open my mouth 😤😂

I’m not photogenic either and I have round shoulders.
I either end up grimacing or it’s my bad side. I tend to avoid photos. Too self conscious. Some people look fabulous in photos even if they are fairly average looking!

I really like this post and agree wholeheartedly

I am probably a 7 if I make an effort. On my swamp witch days I’d barely scrape a 2!! I’m small blonde and petite and probably described more as cute which annoys me. I want to be smoking hot but you need to be tall leggy and 8 stone for that 😂😂

Definitely depends on the day 😂

Before I got pregnant (4 years ago) I’d have put myself at a 9. But I also get that people have different tastes. I was dancing, figure was great, my boobs were so amazing. Great smile (I’ve always been told this)

After pregnancy and aging (I’m 40) my skin has lost some elasticity. I’m a different shape than I was. I’ve lost weight recently and more back to my old self (ish) but struggle with my new body. Some days definitely still a 7/8 but some days a 3. I’d like to think I would average between 6/7

A 9 but I also spend a lot of money to be a 9 (hair done regularly, facials, skincare, makeup) and have had a nose job and upper bleph, so it’s not a natural 9. I’ve always been conventionally attractive though, but I probably sit at around a 7.5 if I still had my own nose

I used to scrub up well. Maybe an 8 when I really made an effort? I used to get quite a bit of attention and because I've always dressed quite modestly, I always figured it was how I looked rather than because I was flashing my boobs. I'd never say this irl obviously.

These days I feel like I look like a troll on normal days. When I make an effort I feel like a troll in make up. My face is melting, I've got a bad haircut and I've lost my sense of style.

Yes we definitely disagree.

I really don’t think men would pick teenagers given a chance, sure some men would, but many men would not.

and looks do come into procreation; as we need to have sex to procreate. Very few people have sex with someone they find unattractive just to have a baby. Although some do.

I find your view point quite disturbing to be honest, that you think these things. I’m not going to ask why you think this but will assume your experiences shape your answer, as mine do mine.

Not attractive enough for men to notice me out and about but not unattractive enough for others to say mean things. So invisible. Which i like.

I was definitely a 9 in my 20s when out clubbing. Nice and slim despite numerous Sea Breezes. We used to fool ourselves they were healthy because of the cranberry and grapefruit juice. Ha!

-7.

I find it strange that so many people think tall = attractive, bizarre

I am perfectly fine. I’d say a 5 and that I’m average although it would depend on how everyone else rates themself of course! I’m quite glad I’ve never been stunning as there is only one way to go from there

Are all the people saying they are an 8 or 9 comparing against the likes of Margot Robbie, Victoria secret models etc?
I.e the 10 out of 10s in most of society's standards.
That's a lot of very attractive mumsnetters! Or is there another comparison scale being used?

I realised when I was about 17 or 18 that I was never going to be a beauty in any sense. I find it quite liberating really. I simply don't care because what is the point in chasing something I know is unobtainable? I look like my brothers, there's no getting around this.

Bizzarely I've had multiple partners mention my as one of my more attractive traits.

I feel much more attractive than my lying mirror says I am.

That's a lot of questions!

Short answer, pretty low. Perhaps a 3? I've been pretty much invisible all my life. But you know what? I have tons of friends and family, who love me regardless, whose faces burst into smiles the moment they see me. I'm happy with that.

Millions can’t take HRT and don’t fall to pieces during and after the menopause!

I am approachable and easy to talk to and enjoy having entertaining and/or interesting conversations. So my sparkling personality wins me a clear 10/10 in the human scale of attractiveness.

In terms of fanciability I neither know nor care.

I mean, I am always washed and in clean clothes. I don't really care what other people think in terms of how I look or what I look like. It doesn't bother me a huge amount, nor does it impact on my day to day life.

If you look around you, most people are plain, ugly even, and they get on ok, get partners, married etc. You can only do so much, present as clean and tidy , look after skin, teeth and hair, diet etc. I was speaking about someone to a neighbour, and she showed me a photo of her on her phone which was nothing like her, smooth glowing skin, even features, big eyes. The beauty of filters! Look at Katie Price- a photo on MN yesterday, her skin was rough, uneven nothing like the image she puts out. I don’t mind myself in the bathroom mirror, but in mirrors in changing rooms, hairdressers etc. I wonder who the old woman is-oh, it’s me!

I’m a 0 or 0.5 on a good day. I’m fat, 67, wrinkly and my hair is thinning.
But you know what - I couldn’t give a toss what anyone else thinks.

Me? I’m drop dead gorgeous. Anyone who can’t see that is clearly an idiot. There are an awful lot of idiots around…