Inspired by the lady on Instagram What are you no longer tolerating since menopause.

[whatisforteamum]

Supervising my husband's meals
Pills
Life
People who cough or throat clear loudly
The news on repeat...I heard you the first time.
People who don't bother with me.
Cheap clothing I need proper fabric to cover my lumps and bumps.
How about you my post meno ladies.

What am i not tolerating?

It would be easier to list what i AM tolerating ! 🤣

People who talk about menopause incessantly

Love this lol

i don’t tolerate anyone who isn’t loyal as a friend anyone who hasn’t got my back

I used to be a lot more generous with time and money to others now selfish and tight people irritate the hell out of me.

Oh this thread is going to make my day! 😄 (as long as it stays light-hearted!)
I'm way past the meno and getting less and less tolerant as time goes on!
Sadly, I don't tolerate wine as well these days 🙁

😆same!

Red wine. I used to love it

I agree with everything here, especially supervising my husband meals...

Do you mean the WDNC club @whatisforteamum?

Yes it is hilarious 😁.
Also I'm not purposely not tolerating things I can't due to my tiredness..or lack of time left on planet earth.

Vernon Kaye

🤣🤣

Answering other folks queries and sorting stuff for them.
"What are we having for tea" being the current one.
I don't know, what do you want to make/order/fetch from the shop?
"Where are my xyz" from earlier.
Not a clue, where did you last have it?
Or, a long run of 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️.

I feel I’ve come through the ‘fuck me, everybody/everything is so IRRITATING’ stage (and believe me, I had that) and now I just - don’t care. I don’t get wound up. I don’t respond. I feel remarkably calm.

In a meeting with the most annoying colleague yesterday? Detached disinterest.

My boss rewriting something in bastard Copilot? Crack on.

Someone flashing me for having the audacity to do 30 in checks notes a 30? You’re behind me, son, so we go my speed.

I didn’t notice this happening til recently. It is oddly freeing.

Noise and crowds. Can't stand noisy bars and screaming women. Went on a hen do last year and had to leave cos I just couldn't stand the noise.

This!

It's not the menopause, it's just that we are growing up!! We are mature women, of course she take no shit and have more clarity, it is not necessarily to do with hormones, FFS!

Conferences
Long meetings
Crap films

Bad parenting and kids behaving badly in public.

Yes I’ve turned into THAT sort of customer in a pub

Kissing/sex scenes on tv or in books, cue me rolling eyes and turning off/donating book to red telephone box library.
Older men, I don't really like them anymore but will tolerate some to be polite.
Children, not interested at all, done my bit and then some - burnout.
Gluten, refined sugar, oats, white carbs.

Love triangle storylines. Just choose.

james bond films. Just give me the ick now.

any old stories or films with terrible female parts eg miss saigon. I don’t want to watch something that perpetuates the patriarchy and pretend it’s entertainment. F that, I just get the rage.

I have to say mine is very much menopause as it revealed I have ADHD with sensory issues like misaphonia and lack of sleep has made me less tolerant.
I used to be a right people pleaser.🤣

Oh yes James bond.

Frends who are not reciprocal - if I initiate contact with you more than twice and don’t hear from you unless I do that then you’re out

Certain “friends” usually friends of friends tbh that I just don’t gel with, especially those that complain or dominate conversations

A friend of mine who can meet for coffee and talk about herself for the whole hour without showing the faintest interest in my life - gone

Loving this thread btw!!!

Men.

Women who prioritize men.

Body shaming.

Hiding my sexuality.

Shame of any kind - it’s too fucking late in the day to worry about it, and I feel that way whether I die in six hours or 40 years.

Framing realism as negativity, so someone’s opinion can be dismisssed as “a negative Nancy”; it’s just more misogyny - why the fuck isn’t it called a negative Norman?

Misogyny.

Discrimination - I used to stay quiet but I don’t anymore. Silence makes us complicit, even though speaking up IS hard and feels unnatural.