Inspired by the lady on Instagram What are you no longer tolerating since menopause.

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Supervising my husband's meals
Pills
Life
People who cough or throat clear loudly
The news on repeat...I heard you the first time.
People who don't bother with me.
Cheap clothing I need proper fabric to cover my lumps and bumps.
How about you my post meno ladies.

My dh asking questions like 'which bowls should I get out for the pasta'. Why are you asking me, why can't you decide, what does it matter?

This x infinity

Oh yes. And people who say ‘ladies’. It’s not the 1930s.

Arseholes at work - especially misogynism and mansplaining

I must say I have had my patience seriously tested this afternoon as DH wanted me to sit with him while he went though all the possible options for a new car boot protector and some golf accessory he was wanting. I said to him go away and look yourself and then email the link of what you want and I will order it but no he needs me to check the reviews and point out things he's missed!

I really don't mind giving him my impute on big purchases like a car or new TV and I just spent hours during the week to find us the best deal on new mobiles but I felt quite aggrieved at having to wade through the golf stuff and boot protector reviews!

Speech impediments

Also noticed that I rarely people please either nowadays, and I used to be a complete doormat

It's so curious that being a huffy besom has become some badge of honour for the "women don't grow up they just have hormonal fluctuations" brigade

God I long to reach that stage. Sounds like heaven.

Im in full on irritation mode still

Idiots

I don’t think I’m less tolerant (except of wine and onions and disrupted sleep) but I’ve become searingly clear sighted. Gaslighting doesn’t register for me anymore. Bullshit is incredibly obvious. Manipulation couldn’t be clearer. It’s like the world has subtitles now.

Bad manners
Shoplifting, people walking and talking when on the phone.
Drivers who don't indicate or drive up your bum.
I better stop there as I am about to have dinner and at this rate my blood is starting to boil

I’ve got a real problem as for the first time in my life I am in a relationship with a truly helpful considerate man, who deserves a bit of fussing over in return, just as I have hit a quasi metabolic inability to do the fussing. I gave all my fussing away to
selfish arseholes at home and at work over the years, and now, when this nice man just wants a bit of an audience and some supportive cooing for his various little
faffs, I can’t be arsed and leave him to it.

Friends who aren’t true friends
mouth noises (never have but definitely got worse)
alcohol
dickeheads in general
keeping my mouth shut when people are being dickheads
heights and confined spaces

This 😂

Hello Tess😃

Work dramas.
People who let their ill-mannered dogs approach mine. Train your dog properly.
Cyclists on the pavement or shared paths. No, I’m not moving over, lycratwat. I will, however, give the full overtaking distance to cyclists on the road even if Impatient Twat behind me would rather I drive into/over them to shave 30 seconds off the journey.
Men who want to talk to me when I’m out and about minding my own business.
Mediocre service in shops and online. There’ll be someone else selling what I want so, Bye.
Women who moan their husbands are useless. Train your husband properly.

As a people-pleaser of 53 years standing .. I am LOVING not tolerating Other People's Shit.

(my mother. Her sisters. DH's best friend who for 20 years has stayed with us for 8 days every summer and criticises how I run my household. Dh's other friend who did not invite me to his wedding, his sons christening etc etc etc because he said I would not last the distance and so he did not see the point of getting to know me.... 23 years and counting).

I fucking love the menopausal me.

@Hammy19 I suppose you can't control what irritates you but a bit harsh on speech impediments, most people who have them can't help them.

I have reached the calm stage now. Up my arse in the outside lane flashing me because I’m not overtaking at the speed you want to go to?

don’t care. Field of fucks is so barren I’m completely unbothered. I love it.

men’s opinion of my physical attributes? Don’t care.

husband can’t find his wallet, no immediate urge to fix this for him. I can’t help, I haven’t seen it 🤷‍♀️

I'm not tolerating surly bastards. Just cannot be arsed. They'll either get a blank stare from me or zero acknowledgment.

Good manners mean so much.

🤣🤣 nailed it! Although for me the cherry is my horrible MIL who doesn’t mind telling my teen daughter with eating issues and autism that she needs to lose weight and cut out biscuits … whilst she’s shaking her tummy with her hands 😵 and she also called my DS7 that he was ugly whixh was why the cat jumped down away from him … that’s the tip of the iceberg! Needless to say there was a big blow up, she’s made herself the victim, FIL is an enabler so we’re very hands off with them now … their loss because none of us care as much everyone hates seeing them

Sharing a bed.Seperate rooms all the way.
I will wake up when I want.With my choice of colour bedding, cushions decor.

It’s like the world has subtitles now.

@Haffway What a wonderful way of putting it.

‘Oh but you’re the only one who can work Sky/Netflix/Amazon/the volume’. Do.It. Yourself.

my periods haven’t stopped but I’ve suddenly started getting more disgusted by things like bad table manners. Im
assuming perimenopause is behind it.