Inspired by the lady on Instagram What are you no longer tolerating since menopause.

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Supervising my husband's meals
Pills
Life
People who cough or throat clear loudly
The news on repeat...I heard you the first time.
People who don't bother with me.
Cheap clothing I need proper fabric to cover my lumps and bumps.
How about you my post meno ladies.

Why should women have to train men? Why can’t men punch their weight as equal members of society and relationships?

I’m not tolerating other peoples shit behaviour anymore after a lifetime of it.

I'm 70 - I tolerate no shit.

That just about covers it for me.

If you interrupt what I am doing I WILL ignore you.

I’m finding it increasingly difficult to tolerate watching films made by men or reading books written by men. They’re always so juvenile or obvious somehow. No depth. I think the last time I read a book written by a man was about three years ago.

I watched the Frankenstein film recently and thought it was utter shite because it was directed by a man. It would’ve been so much better if a woman had directed it.

Also, strangely I can’t tolerate kissing any more. Still love and fancy DH but really don’t want to snog him. It suddenly feels all weird.

Not post menopause yet but I've found since I got to the age my MIL was when I met her I now have zero tolerance of her treating me like I am a child and she knows best.

Is that you Tess

Yes! Also male singers/bands, I mean I've obviously always noticed misogynistic lyrics but I literally can't tolerate it now. Tried to listen to Appetite for Destruction (an album I've always loved) recently and had to turn it off before track one had ended, it just sickens me these days the way women are spoken about/treated/objectified.

Here is a weird thing:
I have much more patience for some people now: seniors, children, people with disabilities. Lots of absolutely genuine patience.
Zero patience for arrogant and pompous men, attention seekers, those who weaponise incompetence and generally are incapable and annoying for no good reason.

A decent pub is no place for a child anyway. The type of pub that encourages children is probably not the sort of pub I want to go to. You shouldn't have to be considering behaviour and parenting in the pub. Certainly not past early evening. So I'm THAT sort of customer too.

100%

Wine
eating food too late before bed
Indian food
Chinese food
basically any rich, delicious food
Lots of alcohol in any form
repetitive sounds
loud people
people who talk with vocal fry (girl on my team I’m looking at you)
people who need telling things more than once (husband I’m looking at you)
poor sleep conditions (uncomfortable beds, light rooms or noise)
travelling too far to the airport. I’d rather pay a few hundred quid more and travel from my local one

Lateness, when it happens again and again.

Waiting for someone for over 20 minutes is irritating. If it is a one off thing, then no problem. If it happens a few times, I start to lose any interest in wanting to meet up with them in the future.

Wine - although I want to drink it, it keeps me awake and sends me into an insomnia spiral

People - I am no longer prepared to people please. I've shrunk my pool of people and I no longer care if someone doesn't like me for no good reason. I've stopped going about my day smiling at strangers. I now just ignore everyone when I am out and about. In fact I've started wearing my headphones out.

I genuinely no longer care, if someone who is not in my camp e.g. in-laws, don't like something I have done/ not done/ said. Having gone along with things for the sake of peace, I now find myself saying -well no, because "I" doing want to.

Men - except for my DH and DS's, who are lovely (or am I wired to not notice they are annoying) I'm done with men. They are rude, selfish, think women are an appliance and most of them are ugly.

Work - I am good at my job. I am very professional and hardworking. However, it is not my job to be a counsellor/ parent your kids/ listen to people for an hour about their lives. I now do my job, smile, be uber professional then move on. Other people are no longer allowed to emotionally drain me.

In a nutshell, I have turned my amazing nurturing skills on myself.

I assume you are putting the world on notice that you simply don't care that much any more. That lady. Melani Sanders.

I don't care about people who are flaky, time wasters, can't stick to an appointment time and are always late. Fuck em. My time IS valuable.

I don't want to hear time and time again about the same old problem you won't deal with but keeps bubbling under. Deal with it or don't - I don't care - but don't moan to me about it.

I don't care about trends or fashion or make up. Or music.

I cant be bothered with folk who aren't bothered about me or mine.

It is hilarious 😂

Meno-bores. HRT makes me feel as good as new!

Mind you I’ve never been particularly tolerant!

Bad service
Anti social people on public transport
100s.more

People.

Reform voters. I just can't be arsed any more.

Children! Mine are now adults. Little kids grate on me. I've done my bit so have zero interest. (I'm sure I'll change my mind when grandkids come along!)

Meetings. Why travel 2 hours, to spend a day talking about things that could have been sent in an email? And I have one colleague who Jo just drowns on and on and on.....

alcohol. Gone right off wine

This, exactly, with very few exceptions (including DH, who is lovely). I like my beaches empty, quiet country lanes, birdsong and wildflowers. I love watching sunsets from my kitchen window.

'Friends' who haven't asked how I am in decades, despite my efforts to stay in (remote) touch.

Fashion - if it's not a T-shirt and leggings, if it doesn't have some stretch in it, you can keep it.

Going to the theatre or cinema - again, it's the people!

Red wine, although I've not given up on it yet, just have it as a treat from time to time when I know I can lie in the next day. I'm still fine with spirits though, thank gawd!

Wearing heels - but I gave up on those about 30 years ago :)

Fools, things that don't work- and l swear a lot more.