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What a brave lady i hope she's holding her son right now.

What specifically have I said thats insensitive

The op has posted politely tnroughout?

I completely agree with this. OP's attitude on a such a sensitive topic has been appalling. Particularly as bereaved parents are reading this.

Being as OP has stated she is not interested in other people's views but started the thread because the story on tik tok made her cry, I can only imagine she posted to enjoy compassion and solidarity from others who agreed with her whilst not been prepared to show any sensitivity or feeling to those with different views.

Extraordinarily self-obsessed way to behave.

This is about real life and real suffering of real people, including those reading the thread. Its not an opportunity for what appears to be self-indulgent performative grief vulturing.

I have read everyone's views I don't have to agree with them. This story needs sharing people need to know about it.

The tone of your responses in general is insensitive. But you were particularly dismissive towards @Freysimo, even though she was clearly speaking from her own personal experience of having lost a child.

It is perfectly fine to disagree and hold a different opinion. But if you're going to start a thread like this, I think you should be prepared to express your opinions with a bit more sensitivity and respect.

No point in crying about a story about a stranger on tiktok if you show a minimum level of compassion towards someone who has experienced something very similar.

Thankyou. Im really confused on what everyone is suddenly saying

What did I specifically say i genuine have no idea what you are talking about

If posters just click on 'read all' they can see you've been pleasant throughout whilst disagreeing politely with a couple of posters which is obviously fine.

You start a thread about grief and then explicitly say you have no obligation to listen to other people's views.

Can you really not see how that is callous and inappropriate?

I find that astonishing.

You can read your own posts. If you can't see the issue for yourself, then there is probably little merit in trying to explain.

I hope you don’t mind me saying but I remember your posts from that time about the loss of your boy. I had a different username then.
Now, as then, I’m hoping for some peace for you 💐

Thankyou

She disagreed politely with a couple of comments. It is what happens?
The op has not been callous or inappropriate at any point.

I've stated where she was callous.

You may disagree but frankly I find that disagreement astonishing too.

You don't start conversations about grief and then announce you have no obligation to listen to those engaging with you.

I disagree.

Did you the read the post i was replying to and why i wrote that?

It doesn't matter why you wrote what you wrote. Your tone was completely devoid of compassion.

Why should they learn to live with it? Life was cheap until very recently in terms of human existence. Why can’t people choose? I think if you want to die you should be allowed

Well it kind of does as it gives context.
Edit I've just looked back and see it was you i was replying to now it makes sense why you have taken it so personally. People post on here all the time and sod off completely i haven't done that i have read everyone posts. But I didn't post this specifically for opinions its not in aibu, I've not asked any questions. I just shared something that I felt needed sharing as its significant

Grief is part of life and is natural but losing a child isn't natural and isn't something all of those who go through it can or want to learn to live with.

My child survived against all of the odds and that experience was traumatising enough but to actually lose him? I wouldn't want to learn to live with it either.

@endofthelinefinally thank you for the solidarity. I had looked for but not found a bereaved parent thread specifically on here. Could you signpost me please.

But your response was inappropriate regardless of the context.

It isn't an issue to disagree at all. This is a difficult subject and we're all entitled to our own feelings and opinions about it. But there are ways of disagreeing, and there was no need to be so coldly dismissive towards someone who was sharing their own experience of having lost a child. You yourself have acknowledged that this is one of the very worst things that can happen to someone, so why the callous response?

What callous response you are not telling me what i actually said.

I have no idea what you're talking about now. It wasn't me that you were replying to, and I haven't taken anything personally. On the contrary, I have already named the poster to whom I thought you were really insensitive, but whatever. You don't seem to be interested in reflecting on your own posts so there seems little point in continuing this discussion.

I can only hope that you might take some time to reflect on how you have approached this thread and learn from it in future.

It's not a question of courage or cowardice. It's one of full bodily autonomy and individual choice.

Would I be devastated if this poor woman had been a sibling of mine? Yes, of course. I'd be horrified if my loved one enacted such an extreme solution to a problem which, whilst it might never be a temporary one, has other possible methods of healing available to her. Grief does mellow, and people live with it all the time.

Does this mean that an autonomous decision as to what she believes to be in her own best interests should be removed from her? On that point I'm less certain. But it certainly doesn't alter my support for voluntary euthanasia; a law which IMO has been a long time coming in the UK. Having watched someone close endure protracted suffering and die from a terrible disease like MND - an illness with only one assured outcome and a lot of suffering beforehand - I could never do otherwise than support the individual patient's decision as to when it's time for it to end.

This case is very, very sad both for the woman and her family. Her suffering at least is over: theirs is now compounded, and losing a child at any age is a terrible thing.