Wendy Duffy heart breaking but understandable

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What a brave lady i hope she's holding her son right now.

The pain of losing a child is horrendous. I am 10 years on and still struggling. I can't find words to say much more really, but my heart breaks for her and I hope she is at peace.

The only thing that matters is what she believes.

Sometimes its ok to he selfish her mum will understand. I have someone close to me who made a similar choice and I don't blame them for that i hold no resentment I just hope they are at peace

her mum will understand.

Honestly, stop now OP.

This is a public forum and her mum could well end up reading this one day.

You have no right to make this statement.

It's a terribly heart breaking tragedy all round, but please don't speak as though you know the family and their personal feelings.

I don't believe in life after death but I do believe in assisted dying as a choice. She made that choice and its completely valid.

I'm interested in the organisation Pegasos which helps people who don't have a terminal illness. I hope one day we can have something like that here as I think most people do support it.

I sincerely hope we don't.

I don’t think it’s brave. I do think this women was in a tremendous amount of pain that she could not longer live with. It’s incredibly sad but i do agree with assisted dying even in situations like this.

Her mum has dementia

@endofthelinefinally my heart breaks for you.

I cannot even imagine how brave you've been, to get up every day, and move forward with every fibre of your being, tortured by your loss.

How you must have struggled through @endofthelinefinally, to me, is what brave and courageous looks like.

My purely personal opinion of course, I do accept it may not have consensus though.

Agreed.

I’m not religious. I don’t believe it. But if she does, and that thought finally gave her some peace and she died with that peace, then who am I to say no.

And to be honest, even if she didn’t believe it and just wanted her suffering to stop, that’s her choice as well.

"And to be honest, even if she didn’t believe it and just wanted her suffering to stop, that’s her choice as well"

Imo, it should not be state sanctioned in these particular instances though, @WhatAMarvelousTune

And this means you 'know she'll understand', does it?

Yes but was she mentally competent to chose?

I know when people lose a child it irrevocably affects them. I don't think anyone truly gets over it.

But my experience is that although I think of my son daily there is enough pleasure in small things in life to make me glad to be alive.
And I know that many many people who have been on the brink of suicide and who have attempted suicide are actually profoundly glad that they didn't kill themselves because they come back from the mental depths of despair .

If this poor woman had committed suicide independent of medical professionals I would have found it very sad. But I wouldn't feel the disgust I feel that health professionals helped a mentally ill woman to end her life. I think that is obscene

After losing dh I totally understand. £10k is a bargain.

It’s what I’ll be doing one day. So tired of people who haven’t been through it saying it gets better. It does not. You just can’t comprehend it but unfortunately I can.

There isn't a single person alive that hasn't or won't experience loss and grief at some point in their lives, you find a way through it and carry on.

Does anyone know if she had grief counselling and support?

That is such a sad story why have they shown a picture of her son as a child, whilst absolutely heartbreaking her son died the article states her son was 23, not the young lad pictured. I firmly believe adults have the right to choose if they want to live or not. I don't believe she is with her son though.

Most people won't suffer the loss of their only child

The articles say she did attempt suicide previously, closer to the death of her son, so it sounds like she isn’t someone who attempted suicide and was glad it didn’t work.

Yes the bar for having capacity is ridiculously low

What do your children think of your plans @ThisHazelPombear?

How devastating, for them, to lose both parents.

Maybe not, but I'm not playing the who's loss is greater game.

I think we can all agree the loss of a child is the greatest loss anyone can suffer. I don't think anyone would question otherwise

I have more than one child and a husband so this is not an option for me, but if I were alone after the death of my child this is a choice I know I would consider. Rest in peace.