Wendy Duffy heart breaking but understandable

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What a brave lady i hope she's holding her son right now.

I think you're very short-sighted and naive, then.

My heart goes out to you @LadyMacbethWasFierce ❤️

But I won't care. Only people left behind will care.

I find the thought of death very unbothersome, only the way that's going to happen. I think i have that in common with many neurodivergent people.

So, you can't answer, then, what is so utterly dreadful about just not being alive any more?

In what way? Please remember we are talking about assisting someone who wants to die to make that happen safely and killing someone out of revenge who does not want to die at all.

Hah - fellow neurodivergent. I don't think it's utterly dreadful, but I do think that considering you're going to die anyway, you might as well put suicide on hold, and see what happens tomorrow. It's not like death is a train you'll miss catching if you don't hurry up.

That's how I got through it, anyway.

It strikes me as odd that people are trying to argue against coping mechanisms that depressed and suicidal people have used to make it through, and are insisting that suicide is the best/a good and positive choice.

Like seriously? What a weird argument to put forth.

What did you want her to do? She tried everything.

I think that giving a government the power to kill people who may not be guilty of their crimes, and also normalising the killing of the depressed, disabled, and otherwise vulnerable who may get better or be being coerced into it, are two sides of the same coin.

People decide to take their own lives every single day, but when it’s institutionalised llike this, no that’s wrong.

It's not brave. Of course its desperately sad but I don't think these circumstances should be used to support the case for legalising euthanasia.

It might be the right choice for her now. But it possibly wouldn't be in the future.
I don't think it's a brave decision either a brave decision would be to carry on and live her life. Perhaps try and help others
This is why I worry about assisted suicide.
She is physically well and could live for many more years.
Grief is terrible and no one should make decisions like this in the middle of it.
Its wrong for clinics to allow assisted suicide in cases like this.
And sadly of course she won't be holding her son tonight.. That's impossible

Thank you for writing this post. I’ve read it a few times now. I don’t have words that would be appropriate in the face of what you are suffering. But I think it is so important that people read and take in other people’s real experience like yours, as a counterpoint to what can sometimes be too easy ideology.
I just can only say that my heart goes out to you.

I think that's an incredible pressure for anyone to be under. I hope you neve ever communicate that to your child even if they're an adult. That's a kind of dependence which is hard even for an adult to live with.

I understand your fears of extension, but in Switzerland you have to be able to trigger the process and deliver the drugs to yourself.

I see no conflict between assisted suicide, (not coercive murder), and the death penalty.

One is a kindness, the other is revenge.

So sorry

Your post sums up beautifully how bereavement is not a mental illness, it is a torment to endure. I understand how some opt out. Not because their life is less worthy as a pp suggested but that they don't want to live it anymore.

Is that a joke? It was four years. As a pp said, that's no time at all when it comes to that kind of devastating grief. But that's not to say that given more time, she wouldn't have ended up being glad to have lived on, even with that sadness and loss.

And as another pp said, I can only imagine that's not what her son would've wanted either. But the issue is more the normalisation of commercialised suicide for a completely normal reaction to trauma, or for depression, or other mental health issues.

And now she is going to put her mother through the same pain that she has been through. She is going to lose a child. And to lose a child through suicide is terrible because you are left with a huge amount of guilt by not being able to help them and prevent it

Heartbreaking. RIP to both

Wendy going public with her decision to advocate for assisted dying… she should have put that energy into spreading awareness on choking. (Always sit up while eating)

that’s where my focus would have been. On my child that had a tragic but preventable death. RIP Marcus

Very selfish, she has just done the same thing to her own mother.

She is physically well and could live for many more years.

But why should she? You can't regret missing something after you're dead.

What do you feel is so important about her living just because she physically could?

Well, no. One might arguably be a kindness (although sometimes what people want is not what they need), but the other is not necessarily revenge.

And in reality, mission creep happens, coercion or corruption occurs, and innocent people are killed.

Her family all supported her choice. We're all selfish at times, to opt out of her torment was her decision to make.

https://www.dailymail.com/lifestyle/family-parenting/article-15756029/too-heartbroken-carry-mother-swiss-suicide-clinic.html

archive.ph isn't working for me today but if you try putting this link into it, you can read an interview Wendy gave to a journalist.

The way this has been written about seems to contradict the Samaritans media guidelines for suicide reporting.

https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/media-guidelines/guidance-for-reporting-on-assisted-dying-assisted-suicide-and-euthanasia/

Wendy going public with her decision to advocate for assisted dying… she should have put that energy into spreading awareness on choking. (Always sit up while eating). that’s where my focus would have been. On my child that had a tragic but preventable death

Christ Almighty.

He deserves to rot in prison in fear of his life from all the other prisoners for every single day that they can keep his body in one piece. I hope it's a very long time.

Death is far too easy.