What have you done in the real world that MN disapproves of?

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As per the title.... what have you done in the real word that would have Mumsnetter's frothing at the mouth?

I will start.
Someone reversed into my (parked) car and we sorted it out ourselves (without informing insurance!😲) with them paying us to get it fixed (which has now been done).
Gosh..... aren't we naughty!🤣🤣🤣🤣

I've just remembered another one. When I go into a self-service cafe with DH, one of us sits down and the other one goes to the counter if it's quite busy.

Yes, it’s considered too common and if it is hyphenated or spelled Mae, it’s chavvy. My daughter is May unhyphenated so small mercies, lol. Both of my DH’s grandmother’s were May, one first name and one a middle, so not one care do I give. I don’t get this whole ‘the name cannot be in the top 100” thing, but each to our own.

Or the same upbringing and experience. There was a comment on here about grandparent childcare expectations and about all these "boomers brought up by their grandparents"

I don't know about everyone else but my boomer parents came from enormous extended families, all four of my grandparents were from families of 9+ siblings. My mum was one of 26 grandchildren on one side, her grandmother wasn't bringing them all up!

And on a side note I don't view my relationships on a transactional basis. The help I'll give my parents isn't calculated on the amount of child care they've given me. I also don't think their selfish should they want to go on holiday whenever they want.

I thought everyone did this! Is it a faux-pax now somehow?

Hope so, I always do it too.

Claimed benefits and had a job helping others to claim benefits (often simultaneously).

Bought my dog from a backyard breeder

I gave my small children a choice about deliberate bad behaviour and smacking. "I tell you once. I tell you twice. The third time you WILL have a smack." They often got to number two, but hardly ever got to three as they knew what would happen - a light smack on a clothed bottom. On Mumsnet, the unbelievable number of people who equated this with child abuse was amazing. Some said I'd never smack an adult, so why would I smack a child - but they forget that one doesn't always treat a child as one would treat an adult because they are not at the same stage of development. And our children always knew that they could choose whether or not to have a smack!

Is it legal where you live?

Yes. It's legal where we live.

I smacked my son across the face (he was about 13) and was totally ruining a long awaited holiday abroad with his cheek and his attitude.
I was mortified after I had slapped him, he was shocked because it was so out of character for me to raise a hand to anyone.
However, after him being quiet for an hour, and me feeling horrible about it all...things improved, my son went back to being his normal funny, lovable self, and the rest of the holiday was great.

So in retrospect, I’m glad it happened.

This isn’t ok.

Found two good men, and lived happily with them. 😂

both at the same time ?

I didn't say it was OK, but it worked and no lasting harm was done, quite the reverse in fact.

Gone on several hen do’s abroad and attended weddings abroad and had a bloody fantastic time!

I love football.
I think women's football is shit. I wouldn't watch a women's match if you paid me.

I also enjoy spending time with both my in-laws and my own parents. I actually make the effort to see them, at a weekend (sometimes see them both on the same weekend!)

The amount of posters I see here saying grandparents can only build a "bond" with their grandchildren if they are prepared to carry out childcare during the week is quite unbelievable. Apparently now, relationships and bonds can only be built with grandparents during the week and only if it benefits the parents and convient for them. I see parents say that they work all week, so they can't possibly see the grandparents then as it will disrupt "family time" despite the facts grandparents are family.

Similarly there was a poster who was quite rightly upset saying she had only seen her adult son once in 3 months despite the fact he only lived 30 mins away. There did not seem to be any backstory and the general consensus was this was completely normal and that her son would be busy "living his own life" to make the effort to see his own mother at a weekend more than a handful of times in a year.

Same.

You might think no lasting harm was done…

I used to get hit across the face (and worse) and my family wonder why I don’t see them often now.

It happened once, my son is a fully rounded adult now and he has actually laughed about it in the past.
Obviously your situation is very different, and I am sorry for that.

Yes I have a similar story.....I've known my husband forever....he's been friends with both of my older brothers since they were 4 and 5 respectively (and I was born 3 years later!). My husband even remembers my eldest brother coming to school one day and saying that his mum was going to have a baby (that baby was me!). Crazy!
He mainly hung out with my brothers but I do remember having a crush on him when I was about 8 and he was 16ish lol.
Obviously nothing happened at that age! We both married other people (in my case I didn't marry but lived with my ex)...fast forward to 2006 we had both split from respective partners and both single without kids (me aged 32 and him 40) and got together...married...kids. It was meant to be.... and weird that he's known my parents longer than I have!!!....and feels like a proper brother to my bros after all that time 😃

I had the odd smack as a child and am very close to my mum.

I don't know anyone my own age (36) who didn't get an occasional smack.

I wouldn't and haven't smacked my own kids but back then it was a lot more socially acceptable.

Same here

All of this! I was one of 21 grandchildren on my mums side of which my grandmother didn’t help any of her six children. Why should she? She was too busy volunteering, playing bridge and drinking cocktails. And her husband died young. Similar story on my Dads side with the added problem of distance as his parents shock horror retired to a coastal town.

Have you considered or taken legal advice on what will happen if either of you dies or if you split up? Marriage or civil partnership gives a lot more security.