Women who can't or won't use a lawnmower!

[Bettercallsalli]

Just cut my lawns. Neighbour in her 40s commented she has asked her husband to do hers forr 3 days.
Woman up and do it yourself! What am i missing?

because some folks division of labour isn’t identical to yours???? Hth

Dunno. I’ve only come across this idea of ‘pink’ or ‘blue’ tasks on here. I cut our grass. Our entire garden is my job. DH does all the food shopping and cooking.

Maybe they have split household tasks and she's stuck to her side of the agreement snd he hasn't?

@Whenindoubthugitout but she wants it done and it's clearly annoying her so rather thsn nag for 3 days, just crack on surely!

Perhaps she does a lot more than he does and she’s tired of doing everything/the majority. Or they have agreed who does what and it’s his job.

I’ve never used a lawnmower in my life. I can’t anyway but even if I could use one I’d still rather have paid someone to do it, and did just that when I had a garden.

A lot of women do most things in the house, she's probably busy womaning up and doing all the fucking laundry, cleaning and cooking.

My son is currently cutting my grass as I can't due to arthritis.

Maybe it's one of his only few jobs and he's still being a dick about it?

I always cut the grass. DH is cutting back the rampant ivy (hence my username).

Thw lawnmower will puck up any stray bits from the lawn.

My neighbour cuts the grass while her husband holds the cord behind her the whole time, does that count as cutting it or not?

Maybe she feels like he does nothing because she always caves in and does it

Lawn mowing was my DH job. He was a bit obsessed with it and had a petrol mower with a roller and he always had nice stripes in it. He died two years ago, so if I didn't now mow it, it wouldn't get done. I got rid of the petrol mower though because it was really heavy and difficult to manoeuvre. It never looks as nice as he did it, but I feel good that I can manage this and other maintenance around the house by myself. I went round and did my elderly mum's lawn today too.

maybe that's all he does, and she doesn't want to.

Having said that, I was at the tyre place the other day, and a woman there was escorting her daughter to get a puncture fixed because her daughter was too nervous to do it alone, except it turned out that she didn't have a puncture, her tyre just needed some air because she (neither the mother, nor the daughter) had ever put air in their own tyres and didn't know how to.

I get division of labour (although with my ex it was that I did everything), but I do think you should know how to do at least the basics of everything - otherwise you get that thing where a widower doesn't know how to sew on a button or cook dinner, or a widow doesn't know how to pay the electricity bill - and that's no good for you as an adult.

I don't cut the grass because we have a stonking great big thing that needs a pull on a long piece of string to start it and I don't have the strength for that. Once started it tends to run away with you, and I can't control it !

I always imagine you as one of those Green Men carvings you see in medieval churches, with foliage sprouting out of your face. (But female).

Cos women do everything else??

Our garden is big and the petrol mower is a beast that i'm a bit scared of so husband does that job.
He is very domesticated and does lots of jobs but then so do i so it balances out and we get along fine about things.

I’ve never used our lawn mower. Also never used the iron or mop since we moved into our house. Those are jobs my husband does. He never dusts or cleans the toilet. I normally do the bins. It is just the way we divide things up, not every task needs to be shared if you’re happy with the overall split.

🤔Hmmmm, not sure.
If it stops her getting electrocuted when she accidentally cuts through the cable maybe it does ?

Thanks for the opinions. My partner works away 8 weeks at a time so i guess i'm just used to doing stuff if it needs doing.
Like now i've done it, i can enjoy a glass of wine in the sun looking at my lovely freshly mown grass, while she is probably still moaning....

I don't have the strength in my right shoulder to pull the start cord on ours; a bit pathetic but there we are. DH is quite happy mowing lawns, so he does it.

Our front garden is my responsibility and the back, his. He wouldn't let me use the petrol mower because it was too heavy, idiosyncratic and difficult. He then got an electric mower and convinced himself I'd electrocute myself or cut the cord or something, so wouldn't let me use it. I'd ask repeatedly for him to cut the front lawn. It never happened.

I then dug most of it up and planted a herb garden and bought myself a strimmer. I can now trim the grass ad libitum. The garden politics are difficult. He invariably starts the season off enthusiastically and plants lots of weeds in pots then doesn't look after them. He tells me he will make plant medicine out of the weeds random plants. They seed themselves everywhere and look a mess. I have to wait until he's lost interest in the garden then I go out and dig them up and throw them out. He has also planted two mistletoes on my apple tree. They're getting too big and he won't let me cut them down. I do it secretly and he then threatens to cut the apple tree's branches off! He's a bloody menace.

I have never mowed our grass, which is completely intentional because DH cannot then evade this being the one routine job that is 100% his responsibility. I don't need the mental load of it or the possibility that I could ever do it "just this once". No regrets about this during 35 years of marriage (and having grass to mow).

I always find this a bit odd. I lived by myself for years and always did it myself. Now live with my partner and ill probably cut it in the week while hes at work.

Offer to do it for her and watch him come running to take over.