Women who can't or won't use a lawnmower!

[Bettercallsalli]

Just cut my lawns. Neighbour in her 40s commented she has asked her husband to do hers forr 3 days.
Woman up and do it yourself! What am i missing?

DH cuts our grass because there's spiders in the shed (Big ones) He's also just hoovered up stairs and done a load of laundry...

Op. Your internalised misogyny is showing. You’ve used highly inflammatory language about a woman whose life you seem to know nothing about. ‘Nagging’, ‘moaning’, ‘ oooh I just get on with it, me..’

guess what? You’re not better than her just because you mow the lawn and she doesn’t. Do you not have anything to say about the useless article she’s married to, who is still refusing to do a simple job after being asked for three days? Or is it just her fault for being a ‘nag’. Hint: it’s not nagging. It’s asking someone to do a job. If he were to avoid doing a job he was expected to do in his paid employment, would you blame his boss? Maybe stop being such a ‘pick me’ and understand that there on who’s avoided doing a job for three days straight is the person with the problem here.

More than happy to use a lawnmower however I cannot physically get our petrol lawnmower to our lawn as there are steps and it's too heavy for me to carry.

Well in my case it’s because we have a stupid old-fashioned petrol mover which I physically can’t lift out of the shed, and even if I could I wouldn’t be able to start it due to my torn rotator cuff.

Back when we had a sensible Flymo, I was very happy to cut the grass myself.

I refuse to cut my grass. My teenage DS do that.
(Single parent).

My DM used to occasionally mow the lawn. Our lawn was massive though, and on a slope, so my DF with much stronger upper body strength mowed it most of the time. He enjoyed gardening, cooking, shopping, feeding the pets, home decor, etc - he more than pulled his weight.

"Women who..."

"Men who can't or won't..." 🥱🤔🤣

I can cut my own lawn, I don't , usually, because I think adult DS should contribute something towards the upkeep of his home. I imagine OP's neighbour feels a similar way about her DH.

Unfortunately in some relationships that can result in one person doing everything. I think people often get so embroiled in the “games “ of their relationships they don’t come up for air and see what a miserable waste of a life they are

I can and have mown the lawn but our petrol mower handle is too high for me to do it comfortably and our lawn is very uneven so I normally end up trying to balance on one leg, pushing it with the other with the handle at chest height. Husband has more weight and height to out behind it however I do all other garden work

I used to cut the grass when we had an electric lawnmower but I can’t start the petrol one we have now (shoulder issues).

I’ve always been able to use the lawn mower and i have a big petrol one that takes a bit of yanking to get going. I don’t like it all that much and once its gone I’ll be getting a rechargeable one like my strimmer.

Ive never had much a choice, ive had to cut my own grass and the only time I haven’t is when dh was alive and he did it for the brief 3 years we had together. I did other things and he sorted out the cars and garden.

Not anymore. I do everything now

Because, for her sins, she does everything else in the fucking house and if she does the lawn once it will be another job she does for eternity.

one wonders why she keeps him around.

I'm with you OP, it's utterly baffling how pathetic some people are. I'm single and if I don't cut my grass no-one will!

I refuse to go anywhere near the lawnmower. I feel I do enough around the house, so I leave the lawn mowing to DH.

You have no idea whether the neighbour is "pathetic" or not.

Like you, I do every home/garden job going because I live alone. If I were living with a partner I'd expect them to take on half of them. And if I did my half in a timely manner I'd expect the same of them.

If I didn't cut the grass wouldn't get done as single for the last 20 years. I had to get to grips with a petrol lawn mower as the back garden was quite large. I just sold the house and sense of relief when I got rid of the lawn mower as new house basically has a small yard. No idea why you get people on Escape to the Country wanting large gardens. Thats the sort of thing you do early in life - not in your 60s/70s!

I have never mowed a lawn and never will, doesn't appeal
DH enjoys it but if he didn't or couldn't I would pay someone to do it

You have no idea what people have going on. I recently had to nag my husband to mow the lawn because I have stitches and twisting my torso side to side pulls them in a painful way. She doesn't owe you a sick note or any other kind of explanation. Take your judgey pants off and stop making assumptions as to why jobs are divided the way they are.

A few reasons

I used to cut my grass when I lived in my own house before I was married.

When DH and I moved in it became his job...if I do ot once I know it will then become my job and that isn't happening. I have enough jobs.

Also im disabled and it has gotten pretty difficult to do.

But as I am disabled I dont work and do more than 50% of the home jobs, he does the ones I cant do and 100% of them when I am really ill

But hell will freeze over, or the whole thing will be tarmac before I cut it and give myself another job

DHL has always cut the lawns, mostly because it's pretty much the only thing he does in the garden, and I refuse to let him get away with doing nothing.

However I cut it for the first time in married life a couple of weeks ago and realised I've been maligning him for years. It isn't that he the worst mow-er ever; it's that we have the worst mower ever. You have to go over and over and it chews the grass up. I suggested we get a new mower, but apparently he likes it.

I always mowed my grandparents' lawn growing up so it isn't as though I can't.

I don't know or lawn, I did it once and hated it. We have an agreement DH will do it and won't ask me and I paint/repaint any walls that need doing. I think I'm winning on this deal but DH hates painting so thinks he is 🤣

Maybe she's allergic to grass pollen? I cut our grass because I'm the only person who will, but it makes me ill for days, so I only do it when I have a couple of free days to recover.

I’m very lucky because my DH does the lawn and all DIY / car maintenance type jobs around the house. I am very capable and work hard but have no interest in cleaning, gardening or cooking!

The grass would be waving above our roof before I would cut it. I hate doing it. In fact I hate outdoor tasks in general, apart from power hosing which is excellent fun. I only mow the grass when DP’s back goes. The good news is that the lawn mower drowns out the sound of him yapping for more tea and toast, so I get some satisfaction from it🤣

Lighthearted by the way, before I’m berated for leaving the poor bed bound man to starve.

husband cuts the grass and I do the rest. He won’t help me with the rest of the garden so I refuse to cut the grass.