I felt humiliated today

[pinenuts75]

At work today my manager brought us some treats in for Easter, I had a biscuit and was eating it on the shop floor, she actually told me off I felt like a naughty school girl, she told me to hide it, I felt so humiliated, this isn’t the first time she’s done things like this, is she bullying me?

I think people need to stop giving the OP a hard time. She’s accepted she probably shouldn’t have eaten a biscuit on the shop floor, but it also seems like the manager might have had a disproportionately harsh response to a few seconds of chewing 1 biscuit on the shop floor by pulling her up on it in front of customers. If someone comes on here and says they think they’re being bullied it’s probably best to not start acting like bitchy schoolchildren in response to her. It’s not constructive or kind and it’s immature. Give the OP a break.

im guessing thats down to the fellow colluges or another manager, dont forget we dont know the full chain of command at the moment, this could only have been a manger of sorts but not another manager with more responsiblity etc

best advice people have different ways of managing and everyone has comments sometimes you need to see the tree from the woods and if you did get collegue of the month then keep doing your best and dont quit. yes its easy to say and yes in the middle of war so to speak i too lose control and argue but at times we need to remember the chain of command, no matter how frustrating it is at times

Actually your wrong I got told by another manager I deserved it, every month we write a colleague’s name who we think deserves it, mine got the most votes, so you actually don’t know what you’re talking about.

No, not in this instance. You wouldn’t expect assistants to be eating on the shop floor.

and as much as i dont like to say it, doing the tit for tat does not win in the end

I think we’ve covered that

Don’t approach her and ask her if she doesn’t like you, that’s a terrible idea and it will make you look petty. I’m not gonna give you a hard time for eating on the shop floor. I used to steal the odd chicken nugget in the kitchen when my boss wasn’t looking and I was a shift leader.

She may well dislike you, but unfortunately that’s just life. I had managers I didn’t like, and when I was a manager I had people who I dreaded managing. Your best bet is to just avoid her. If she makes any more nasty comments about waiting for you to leave document them (date, time, who was there) and then you can report her if you want to or need to. If you like your job, stay at your job and just stay away from her as much as possible - not everyone will like you and that’s okay. :)

It doesn’t look very good staff eating on the shop floor.,Especially if there’s clothing in store. You might have only been eating a biscuit. But you will have crumbs on your hands go to sort clothes out after eating it then get crumbs on clothes.

I have seen customers who go into shops with food or drink asked to leave. Supermarkets some people do parents sometimes give children something to eat to keep them quiet. But I never have kids can be messy they spill it then staff have to clean it up.

in general in your management view, people apply to do x job and they agree they have a manger etc so why do they still rebel ?

Fgs stop being a drama queen stop making drama when there is none.
She told not to eat on the shop floor, your making it sound like shes slapped you in the face.

She brang in treats eat them on lunch break, simple.

Wow people’s responses are so over the top, leaving crumbs on your hands and thy will go on the clothes 🤣🤣 no they won’t, she ate a biscuit on the shop floor big deal! Anyone would think she’s committed the crime of the century from peoples comments 🙄😂😂😂😂

its sorted now, I admitted I was wrong, no need to carry it on.

It’s not even a clothes shop

Don’t worry about it @pinenuts75 it’s no big deal,

She’s your manager pointing out standards she wants maintained. That is her job Unless she does it in a particularly teacher-ish or parent-ish voice or the like, it isn’t bullying and there is no good reason for you to feel humiliated by this. It was just a standard she pointed out and you can now follow.

If she was rude in the way she pointed out, rather that matter of fact, then that’ s a different matter. The comment when you got your award seems quite inappropriate, so maybe she is.

But I think it’s bloody obvious you shouldn’t be eating on the shop floor. If you’ve been told not to do obvious stuff before and felt humiliated are you perhaps more in a position of feeling that you have a large gap in your knowledge of work place expectations and it’s your feelings about that that are being “triggered”, for want of a better word, by having it pointed out, even if in reasonable way?

If you’ve won colleague of the month you clearly do well at most of your job. But your excuses on here about eating “it was a biscuit” (that you were eating on the shop floor), “It took 2 seconds” (of eating on the shop floor), “what about customers who bring food in?” (who aren’t being paid to do as they are told), etc. it makes it seem like you are a bit of a nightmare employee if you disagree with a management dictate. So maybe you come across really badly to anyone who actually tries to enforce standards you don’t agree with?

You know she doesn’t need to like you, but she does need to treat you fairly and professionally.

It’s been sorted

People are just being so perfetic and precious, if I was your manager I would have turnt a blind eye to it beings she gave u it for Easter 🐣

I think people on this thread have given @pinenuts75 an unnecessarily hard time. She shouldn’t have eaten on the shop floor and she knows that (and the argument that customers get away with it is a little naive) but a good manager can have a word with a member of staff quietly without them feeling picked on or bullied.

Staff shouldn’t be eating on the shop floor but it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve seen a shop assistant accept the offer of a mint or a nibble from a colleague or friend. She did deserve a word being had but give the woman a break. She’s clearly having a tough day.

Wow are you the manager your really going for it

that is the puzzle give the gift then omg eat it on shop floor

To be honest I’ve had enough now, I couldn’t really care how she treats me.

I worked in Wetherspoons and many people are students (I was) who see it as something to get some pocket money. Some of them don’t take it that seriously because of this. Also a lot of young people all working together sometimes they just mess about, a lot of it isn’t them rebelling it’s just general silliness. I was also guilty of it sometimes for sure, but I did take the job more seriously than most because I wanted my bonus - most people didn’t have that incentive because they were on minimum wage.

I no it’s very odd thing to do, it’s like she set her up to fail