What is your biggest wedding regret?

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Trying to gather some information on what people regretted most about their weddings (excluding maybe who they married 🤣)

things like, not hiring a videographer, over spending, uncomfortable dress, venue?

what did you regret about your wedding?

Honestly, just that we spent so much money on it. It was an incredible day, people are still talking about it years later and I genuinely had a great day. But I felt like I was going to have a stroke from stress in the lead up to it, we invited SO many people that now I look back and ask why on earth were they even there, we spent a small fortune on flowers and my dress was an eye watering amount. Hindsight is 20:20, and we wish we’d just eloped and saved ourselves all that cash.

Nothing really. Small register office wedding and meal at a local hotel with about 30 guests. Wine from Sainsbury's (red) and Marks & Spencer's (white). My mum made the cake and one of her colleagues iced it. My sister did the flowers and my brother in law the photos. All did an excellent job. No white wedding dress but a grey pin striped skirt suit. Just my sister and sister in law as bridesmaids, both wearing their own choice of clothes. We dug out the bills last year when both our children got married. We spent less than £1000 in today's prices. We have been married for 44 years so must have done something right.

Nothing it was a lovely day. Even when the car broke down.

Saying I do

Our biggest regret was not following our hearts and what we really wanted to do which was have a wedding in Cyprus as I was born there and it was our "go to" place for holidays.

Instead, due to elderly family members, we had it in the UK on a cold/rainy August day, in a church that meant nothing to us. We knew that elderly parents/grandparents wouldn't travel abroad, so "did the right thing" and compromised by having it in the UK at their church!

Damn I wish I’d thought of taking E at my wedding reception that should be standard practice

First one - the groom

Second one - very very little other than spending too much on the dress (but finding anything was proving impossible), and booking a honeymoon starting very very early the next day on the laughable assumption we would restrain ourselves at our reception where we were paying for a free bar and gallons of champagne.

I don't regret not having a videographer or a professional photographer - I knew we only wanted one decent wedding photo so briefed all the guests to take loads and set up a shared online file for them to upload them.

Not helpful if you are looking to become a wedding planner, but to be honest I feel like we could have shaved loads off the guest list, made it much simpler, saved a fortune. It was just a day.

Honestly, nothing! We had a lovely day. Kept it simple, registry office, and a meal in the pub afterwards. There were only 10 of us, including me and DH.

I should habe got the Vera wang.
And getting married at 4pm. The day was so short

My main regret is probably not saying no more often. I wanted the theme from Jurassic Park when I walked down the aisle and got talked out of it, but a decade on, I wish I’d stood up for myself.

I wish I’d have said a firm no to the earnestly romantic-style staged photos because they got immediately deleted from the photo gallery. The best ones are DH & I naturally smiling and having fun, not leaning in various poses with our eyes closed or staring into the distance. Also wish I hadn’t forked out for a physical album, I have no idea where it is.

Glad I didn’t splurge on a videographer, I’d have no doubt obsessed over the angles afterwards. Glad we had a free bar but wish I’d have not added DH onto the list of people who could approved a bar tab value extension as it cost us over £3k

Turning up, seriously though, video was in its relatively early days when we got married, I really wish they’d done some of the reception and not just the actual wedding, additionally, the photographer, whilst ok, didn’t take a single picture of my best man and I beforehand, it was all at my now wife’s house

Our photographer didn't show up, the photos taken by friends and family are OK but they are poorly framed or slightly off focus. I would've loved just one decent photo of a magical day, it was just as lockdown was ending and we didn't get the chance to redo the photos as we didn't even make our first anniversary as DH died 9 months after we married.

Being pressured by family over the guest list. We had to reduce the numbers of our own friends to accommodate our parents’ friends 😵‍💫

Having the bloke who regularly sexually assaulted me in my teens there. He was a family friend, I hadn't told anyone about the abuse and being younger didn't want to cause a terrible storm by telling my parents why he and his wife were not invited. Nowadays I would behave much more assertively.

Apart from that the day was beautiful.

My only regret was not putting the film in my mother in law’s camera before we posed for a photo when we signed the register 😆😆. We didn’t bother with a photographer because we assumed she would take a few pictures, but she had forgotten to put a film in and had no idea how to do it. The registrar was quite irritated while we had to wait for several minutes until someone helped her out 😆😆.

Other than that, we spent £250 on the food and drink for the reception (45 years ago) plus the cost of my dress from the local Indian hippie shop. Our mothers prepared the food, the landlord of our local pub let us use his function room as a wedding present, and we prepared ten hours of heavy metal cassettes for the sound system. It was by far the best wedding Ive ever been to 🤣🤣

Amazing dress but waaaaayyyyy too fitted. Couldn’t eat the dinner and dh had to unzip me slightly so I could breathe😅

Biggest - Shoes, I wish I'd focused more on comfort.

Really the only other thing would be a few more photos.

No regrets - we eloped and it was perfection!

My DH convinced me to have my dad there who I don’t really speak to! He said that having him there and then deleting him from the pics if I changed my mind would be easier than not having him there and regretting it 🫣

It was a great point at the time but now I look at group wedding pics and hate seeing him and his wife who wore the brightest pink dress I have ever seen in my life 😂😒

I’ve got 2 - the first is I had my SIL as a bridesmaid as I felt it was the right thing to do but we had a major fall out the week of the wedding, she ignored me all day (even at my parents house getting ready) and ruined our photos with a face like thunder…. So I would say only have the people YOU want in your bridal party.

Secondly if you’re not happy with your hair on the day then speak up ! I didn’t as didn’t want to make a fuss but it wasn’t as good as the hair trial and I do regret that .

Getting married in a church. It was really to keep both sets of parents happy.

Nothing. It was perfect. Registry office followed by pub lunch then a party in our local that night. Buffet by the local college catering students who were so chuffed to have a wedding buffet to put in their portfolio

Actually, I tell a lie. I should probably have done something with my hair. It was a windy day and in the photos outside I look like a scarecrow 🤣

In hindsight, I think we invited too many people. Obviously, when people go to a wedding they go to some expense to travel, book accommodation, maybe buy a new outfit, get a gift etc and they will want to speak to you to congratulate and possibly share updates etc.

I found it really difficult to get to the bar with my husband to have a drink and a quick chat. Everywhere we went we were interrupted, sidelined etc (by people we love of course, but it grew a bit tiresome).

We had 100 to the day and an extra 60 at night.