Im just seeing if anyone has had any positive outcome from what im going through right now because I am so down and stressed and just cant see a positive.
So I was with my ex for 13 years we have 2 children 13 and 5 my mum gifted myself a large depoist so that we could get onto the property ladder (I didn't ask for this) she simply did this so that the children would have a home always.
Anyway we brought a house then sold that after about 4 years and brought another house using what equity was in that house as a depoist for the next house the equity was from the deposit my ex only lived in this house for 3 months when we separated. I took on the bills and paid the mortgage etc and after a couple months we went to mediation regarding child contact and during that mediation the mediator said what about property and finances and my ex said no I have no interest in the house thats for the children. And we said that when I am able to I will take over the house and take him off the mortgage I did try last year but I was 30k short so I said I'll try again when the mortgage is up for renewal in 3 years he was fine with that.
In the last few months he has washed his hands of our 13 year old daughter for absolutely no reason and last saw our 5 year old briefly at Christmas I found out after Christmas that he had moved house so I said to him via message can I please have your new address so I know where our 5 year old will be and he just went crazy and said its got nothing to do with me and that he was going to try and get full custody of our 5 year old and then I get a really nasty solicitors letter demanding that I sell the house and give him 50% i paid for another mediation session in January and he refused I cant afford a solicitor ive managed to get together enough money to spend an hour with one its costing £315. I'll have to represent myself. I just cant cope i cant get my head around this how can he be happy to potentially make his children homeless. And theres also been no attempt to see them. Can I also just add that we didn't have a good relationship he had a bad temper I would never leave the children alone with him. I have an older daughter she is 17 and her and my 13 year old both tell me how he would threaten them and how scared of him they were. He's so controlling. I did call legal aid and they said to speak to national domestic abuse helpline so I did and they were brilliant they said how he is is totally unacceptable and that im suffering emotional abuse from him.
Im just terrified ive been working so hard to keep this house and to keep the children happy and look after there mental health as well as my own. He took everything of value when he left this house including the family car and £4,000 i am now in debt as ive had to replace things I am also 31 weeks pregnant with my current partner.
Sorry to go on i just wondered if anyone else had represented themselves and had any good result.