Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

What reasons would you find acceptable for someone not wanting to have sex with a bisexual person?

I find it amazing that some people have the cheek to ask WHY someone wouldn't want to have sex with a Bi man.....it shouldn't need an explanation, it's called ... choice. 🙄

You're literally calling people bigoted because they don't find certain people attractive. I think the only person that needs to be introspective here is you! If you've ever rejected another human for any reason at all, that would make you a massive fucking hypocrite!

If I were single and found them attractive, yes.

I think this thread shows a lack of understanding about men and sex in general though. I know multiple men who have had sex with other men but consider themselves 100 percent straight. It just so happened there weren't any available female "holes" when they wanted relief. It was entirely circumstantial and/or practical.

I'm female and bi. I imagine most bi men couldn't care less that a percentage of mumsnetters aren't interested. It's certainly never bothered me when people say they don't want to date me because I'm bi (two lesbians...never met a man that cared) because the whole point is mutual attraction.

To those asking for the grim quote.

Yes, I was in a relationship with a bi man for around a year a good while back.i ended it for reasons entirely unrelated to his sexuality. He’s now married to a woman, and we’re still on good terms.

Mumsnet absolutely hates bi men for some reason. But yes I married one.

@Dorrieisalittlewitch which is exactly what would put me off. The thought that a man just thinks about a hole, any hole, to shove his penis in. And, no, I don't believe they weren't bisexual. I've never been attracted to women, there is no way I would have sex with a woman just because a man wasn't available. It would be a complete turn off.

Do you think bisexual women are secretly waiting to dump their husbands for women? I'm not sure you really understand what being bisexual is....?

Has anyone said they hate bi men?
Not wanting sex with them is a bit different to hating them.

Apologies, I suppose I should have have said "Mumsnet appears disgusted by bi men, convinced they're secretly gay and ready to leave a woman for a man at any given moment, and absolutely tie themselves up in knots to say It's Just My Choice!!! I'm Allowed A Choice!!!!! without considering that choices aren't made in a vacuum and their choice - however entitled they are to it - has some really weird ideas about bisexuality, homosexuality and masculinity lurking behind it in a lot of cases".

No, no thanks

Why is it a problem? The thought of having sex with someone who's put his penis in another man's arse disgusts me too, that's one reason I never would have had a relationship with a bisexual person.

I find the whole idea of anal sex stomach-churning so I wouldn't be with a heterosexual man who wanted to do that either.

Not all gay men do anal sex.

There you go again, twisting what people have said.

The majority here (from what I have seen) simply don't want sex with a man who desires other men....it's that simple.

I expect the ones who don't are very very few in number.

And everyone's entitled to that view but I do think you're rather missing my point slightly.

And some posters seem to tie themselves up in knots to please all men, and some posters lose their minds when it comes to keeping bisexual men happy.

There was a thread where a lesbian said she only wanted to date lesbians, having been pressured to date bisexual women in a group she was in. No one told her she was wrong. Quite rightly as this was her preference.

But it seems some people are so keen to be seen as not homophobic, that they feel it’s appropriate to tell straight women who want to date only straight men, that they’re homophobic/biphobic. As if because being straight isn’t the minority group, that they must accept everyone. As I said, some women lose their minds to please bi men! Weird.

Apart from personal taste, there is also health to consider.

"Based on the latest data available in early 2026,
gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (GBMSM) continue to be disproportionately affected by HIV compared to heterosexual men in the UK, though new diagnoses in this group have fallen significantly."

Yes, often have and would again if I were ever single.

There a reason why in healthcare they refer to men who have sex with men — because so many of them identify as straight and are married to women.

Nope

Absolutely not and because it’s really not my “ thing” and neither should it have to be.

Not coercive at all. You do you. Doesn’t mean an aversion to bisexuality as a singular trait isn’t homophobia.

‘I have friends who are gay’ is the oldest line in the book.

That’s not an adequate comparison – the age of your partner has a tangible effect on your life. Someone’s sexuality, given they are attracted to you, doesn’t have a tangible effect on your life.

Do you not think it can be an aversion with regards to a sexual partner but not in general?

So I would have an aversion to a man in his 80s in terms of sex. In general day to day life I don't feel an aversion to people in their 80s.