Do you mind if your partner forgets your wedding anniversary?

[Belladog1]

Do you care if your husband/partner forgets your wedding/meeting anniversary? Mine forgot ours today, and initially I didn't particularly care, but as the day goes on I'm feeling slightly irritated

That sounds good then, hope you have a lovely time 😋.

I wondered about stress, because when I was going through a horrifically stressful time a few years ago (my mum had dementia) my poor brain was so overloaded that I could have easily overlooked something which wasn't directly related to that.

Oh and happy anniversary to you both 🌹 🌹

One or other of us often forgets, and some years both of us have forgotten. I always need to check the date anyway, I know the month and year and roughly what the date is but am never certain. We never do much for it anyway except cards.

I don’t actually understand how this happens. Don’t couples talk about plans? If you were cooking a special dinner, wouldn’t you make sure he was not planning a competing activity?

Yes. I mind a lot.

Been married years. I couldn’t give a bugger if my OH forgot.

Well said

‘m more likely to forget than my DH.

It depends on whether or not you normally celebrate it.

I've been married 11 years and I know I got married mid October, either 17th, 18th or 19th, but can't be sure without looking it up. My Dad always remembers and sends a card, but I doubt my husband would know the exact date either. It's not a deal breaker.

Absolutely! We always discuss what we’re going to do, from a meal out to a holiday with the kids …. I wouldn’t bother the ‘let’s see if he remembers’ nonsense

Exactly.

I’d be very upset. But he’s never forgotten and we always celebrate our anniversary. He makes far more of a fuss than I do - always buys me an extravagant gift, for example.

Some couples are more low key, so it wouldn’t be a big deal for them.

Honestly, I forget it most years.

Neither of us really remember.

I never remember it - he does. He's good at dates, I'm not, he understands.

No, I don’t mind. Since we’ve had children we’ve both forgotten on occasion. I know how much he loves me and I feel we have a great relationship.

DH isn't a celebration type of person. He'll organise and put effort into his own significant birthdays so I guess his logic is if you want it you sort it.
I did try in the early years. Now I just give myself a shake and say it's not important.
I was really disappointed at ten and 25 but some of that was hurt pride. It's hard when other people ask about your plans and a earlier discussion has made it clear it's not a priority.

Nope.

Couldn't give a toss.

We both have shit memories and far more stuff going on in our lives to worry about it. We will sometimes remember a few days after the occasion and laugh about it, then on the weekend open a bottle of bubbly to mark the day (or just as an excuse to open a bottle of champers!) 😂

But neither of us are one for 'special days' as we love each other all year round. We will mark the day if we remember but its no deal breaker if we don't (or one of us doesn't) We haven't got each other cards and gifts since I think our first one 😂

No. DH and I have yet to remember it ourselves in 2 decades. One of our bridesmaids reminds us. We do remember our engagement anniversary. I think it might be because we had DD1 by the time of our first anniversary and she was high needs.

It’s totally fine because we both forget.

He’s more likely to remember than me, married for 30 years.

Dh books the day off work every year so yes he remembers and we go out for brunch or lunch together. However sometimes it has coincided with taking a child to university so we have a good laugh about it as the drop off always includes a family meal with both our children.

So yes, he does remember. We don't do cards because I don't want or need them and neither does he. We have been married for over 25 years. I feel loved and cherished every day.

He used to also book off our children's birthdays every year too. He is very sentimental.

My DH and I both remember it every year, we plan in advance how we’ll celebrate it. He’s more sentimental about it than I am, as he is about other occasions like birthdays.

Yes. We make a point of celebrating. Just us.

Doesn't bother me.. I often forget too!