Do you mind if your partner forgets your wedding anniversary?

[Belladog1]

Do you care if your husband/partner forgets your wedding/meeting anniversary? Mine forgot ours today, and initially I didn't particularly care, but as the day goes on I'm feeling slightly irritated

If it was a one off thing I would tease him about it, however if it was a pattern of not caring/ not showing appreciation then no I would be unhappy

I always remind my DH in the lead up to avoid being annoyed😅

He's never forgotten (41 years and counting!) but we plan ahead for where we're going out for lunch to celebrate, so I suppose we're talking about it for about a month in advance. We don't do cards or gifts though.

Sorry to hear that your DH/P forgot, are you going to say something to him? Did you give him a card/gift?

Only once in our 43 years he forgot to get me a card.
We had gone to Rome to celebrate our silver anniversary, should have been a big enough hint!
And no, I wasn't irritated, found it funny

We always both forget, remember a few weeks later, and both laugh about it. It’s just not that important to either of us, but we were already together for over a decade before getting married.

If he shows up for me everyday with love and support I wouldn’t be annoyed that he forgot a card. The cards meaningless, his actions are what count

I have actually cooked a nice dinner for this evening. Fillet steak, nice pudding, bottle of wine, candles.

This morning i wished him a happy anniversary and he looked immediately ashamed. Apologised to me ..... which i accepted. But I can't help feeling slightly narky.

Maybe in future i need to pre-warn him, but maybe he should just, you know, pop it in his diary!!

Hard to answer, as he has never forgot it in over 30 years.

I would be pissed off if he did forget though.

And he would be pissed off if I forgot!

I think in that case my answer would be "it depends". If he was going through a particularly stressful time at the moment, for example, then I would forgive him (eventually!) Is he generally a good man towards you? Respectful? Kind? Loving? Does his share of chores? Again those things would shape my opinion.

Although you say that he'd obviously forgotten this morning - he's had plenty of time since to rectify it I think. Even a trolley dash round the Co-op to get you a couple of bags of your favourite crisps, jar of pickled onions, mini eggs or whatever would be expected by me this evening!

It’s rare for either of us to remember.

Sometimes one of us forgets - sometimes both! Married nearly 30 years.

He is going through a stressful time at work and as a partner .... I have zero complaints. He's a good man.

I'm not grumpy with him .... just slightly disappointed.

He didn't go to the shops today but I have been promised dinner out somewhere special at the weekend 😋

We were together so many years before we married that I only actually remember the month, not the date. Our “real” anniversary is another date- we often both forget it. One year we’d decided it would be nice to go out for dinner at the weekend, it was about halfway through dinner we realised it was our anniversary.

One of us generally remembers the night before just as we’re going to bed and says to the other. We don’t do gifts or cards, tend to go out for a meal. It’s just for us, no one else and we don’t worry about it, haven’t really since getting married.

I can never remember when our anniversary is. Sometimes my DH does.

Nope. although its more likely to be me that forgets.

I forget every year. We got married on my birthday...

My parents celebrated the wrong day for years. They only found out when the dug out their marriage certificate. They weren't even one day out.

Our family aren't very romantic

DH is very thoughtful and romantic all the time but when we got married in 2020 I added the anniversary to his phone the next day. No excuses 🤣

It would bother me. Mainly because he’s never forgotten before so to suddenly forget after all these decades would cause me to worry about what caused the sudden change!

I have never remembered it and wouldn’t expect him to either!!

Yes it would bother me, perhaps less so if I understood why and he was lovely in other ways.

I don't think he's ever forgotten but we don't make a big fuss of anniversaries, we do get each other a card and maybe go out for lunch or dinner. Usually one of the kids or my mum or sister will say 'what are you doing for your anniversary' so maybe that gives him a heads up! I don't think I'd be too bothered if he forgot though - he works very hard and does sometimes get a bit tunnel vision when he's in the middle of a big project!

I’m not even entirely sure what month ours is! I do remember the date we met, but seldom remember to celebrate it.

I was upset and let him know about it .

We often forget it until after it's passed and then have to try and remember how many years it's marking. We've got a meal booked this year so no excuses and it's our silver wedding anniversary next year so we're going to have to remember and celebrate it!