Would you be annoyed if your partner didn’t help when you felt unwell?

[inkyspells]

So I normally do everything,cooking ,cleaning etc
Since yesterday I’ve had a stinking cold.
Today I woke up and normally I will Make the cups of tea in bed and bring it up to him on Sundays and I feed the cats.
This morning I asked him would he do it this once as I felt terrible.
He moaned and moaned then after a hour got up,he said he wasn’t coming back to bed ,he would Make me a cup of tea but it would be downstairs and we should get up.
Any other weekend he will lie in bed till 11.
Anyway I got up,put the washing on and made us sausage sandwiches then I hoovered (all the while having to blow my nose every 5 seconds and sneezing.
I said “can you please Make tea tonight ,it’s literally chicken in a seasoning bag with mash “
He said no he wasn’t making it,don’t be ridiculous,you only have a cold and I bet you are still going out to the shop tomorrow (i need to go to supermarket)
Anyway I got up and made tea ,whilst he’s on the sofa watching television.
Im literally cutting the chicken and my nose streaming down my face and coughing my guts up.

i was annoyed.

Would you be the same ?

You have 5 dogs that live outside

so what you choose to do with another 8 is not “obvious”

Well when someone has 8 puppies they aren’t keeping them are they, it’s pretty obvious that they are selling them to go to new homes. It’s not rocket science

Put the chicken down.

Go back to bed. With a hot water bottle and a Lemsip.

Snarl 'Fuck off' if he comes up to you.

Don't ever let him take the piss like this again.

Next time he’s I’ll do as he did to you and make him get his own medication. I’d even only have one sachet of leap left so he’d have to go buy more.

You should have told him to fuck off and make his own tea!
You're enabling the behaviour by making him a sausage sandwich for starters!
What you accept is the bar you set for how you want to be treated!

Well I husband isnt an arsehole so this would literally never happen.
Why are you making a martyr of yourself? Slaving away making food, putting on washing, hoovering etc?

It seems that he has always been like this- lazy, selfish, and insensitive. So why all of a sudden are you expecting him to step up today? In all honesty, you have to have this conversation about household chores and respect towards you, when you are healthy and are able to make decisions with a clear head. Take this as a lesson and make changes in your relationship now on, probably by going separate ways.

Unless there's a very good reason (for example he has a severe illness or disability, which you should have mentioned), no.
In the past when women didn't work, maybe it was fair for them to do most of the childcare/housework, but not now. And my grandad, despite having a back-breaking manual job six days a week, still made breakfast for all his girls on Sundays, and took his daughters to the park so his wife could have a rest and meet them later, so don't let your man away with stories about how traditional real men behaved. If his wife had been ill, no way would she be doing it all.

Your first problem is calling it “help.” I wouldn’t fucking dream of asking my partner to “help,” because it’s not just my home and it’s not my job to need “help” with.

Years ago I was mid serious family crisis and my then husband still asked me “what’s for dinner,” I told him to either starve or forage. He’s also now my ex husband, for a litany of reasons including his absolute inability to look after himself.

Never cook that man snotty chicken again, tell him to sort his own food out or starve; and either care when you’re ill or fuck off.

many in the Travelling community , for example, would keep

Not many would have 5 dogs and keep them outside

You do

So what you do regarding dogs is really not obvious to most of us

You only have a cold..whats his excuse for not doing it? I would make my own dinner let him fend for him self

Nobody is keeping 8 puppies so stop acting all dumb.

Well that’s good

but…. Keeping 5 dogs outside is so far out of my realm that who knows… someone who does this could well decide to feel 8 puppies.

Thankfully, you’re not

Why why why did you carry on doing things?
Order a deliveroo for you only , and stay in bed
You have shown him you do not mean what ypu say.
No one needs to go to supermarket

1. I bet you have enough in cupboards to manage to eat something

2 online shopping

Feel? I’m guessing you meant keep? Hell no I wouldn’t be keeping 8 puppies at £2500 a pop

Well if you’re going to pander to this appalling excuse for a man then what the hell do you expect?
FFS grow a backbone. Are you scared of him OP? I can’t think of a single other reason to be such a passive mug tbh

Ah I see

@inkyspells my ex husband was like your partner. Hence why he's my ex because he was a lazy f*cker who let me do everything immediately after my hysterectomy whilst he played video games.

It will not get better.

Get a better husband , no longer make him a cup of tea and take it up to him. He'd have gone hungry tonight .

Absolutely fucking raging, more like.

Backyard breeder. Nice.

I feel sick reading this. How can you sleep with a man who treats you like a slave and has no care for you? Get outraged, get angry!!!!! This is horrible.

Why is your bar on the fucking floor, OP? Jesus.

Do you have kids OP?

I don’t mean this rudely but I feel like you need to be self sufficient and him the same? I have kids so can’t do nothing but if you can you could has just loooked after yourself and got toast and not make a dinner? You can get yourself a lemsip and go back to bed . It would be nice if he helped but he’s a prick so look after yourself and don’t help him next time ?