Things I'm sad I'll never do again

[Sunny54321]

Ride a horse - too old and too many dodgy bits to risk a fall and nervous riders more likely to come off.

I'm sure there are loads of others but this is mine today.

Anyone else have one?

Me too most likely. But have you thought about carriage driving instead?
I started last year and absolutely love it.

yes there is a lot that I can still do. garden like a maniac including removing and replacing hedges, pruning trees from the ground because I am not crazy, doing DIY. What I can't do again is ride and I know it.

Thank you. That post, and the other few like it, really annoyed me.

The only PP I think is slightly cutting her nose off is the one who wouldn't go clubbing at 40+, feeling it's inappropriate or something. If you want to and you can, just do it! FWIW, I was going clubbing by myself up to the age of 52, just to dance. Bonus: the hot young people find it charming, and go out of their way to make sure you're safe 😁 Only stopped when my energy departed for good.

The only thing I can think of is having a chat and a big bear hug with my brilliant, funny, kind dad.

He died five months ago and I’d sell my soul to have him back.

Surf

I loved it but I haven’t done it for ages, would look terrible in a wetsuit and my sister in law has ruined it for me anyway (long story!)

I know what you mean about riding. I'm sure John Whitaker would love a word but he's one of the lucky ones I guess.

I used to ride and compete as a kid but even in my late 30s I wouldn't be able to ride at the same level. It's one of the reasons I'm not sure I'll ever go back to it because riding for me was showjumping and XC. Ambling around the local fields just doesn't do it for me.

Holding my newborn at dawn. Felt so special, like we were the only people in the world.
Dancing with fierce sexual abandon at an indie club.
Wearing gorgeous goth make-up and styling my hair (my hair started disappearing in my 50s)
Feeling that sexual heat when you know you are desired.
Eating the spicy food I like (digestion can't take it any more)

He is lucky because he CAN still do it. I am seeing two "threads" on this thread. One is people who don't do something anymore but who actually physically and objectively could. That's a choice, their choice and obviously a reasonable choice. The other is people who either just physically (or psychologically) can't do it or who could do it but there are serious risks to doing it or other serious and unsolvable reasons for not doing it. There is a huge difference....HUGE difference.

Hold my children’s hands and carry them.

Climb a tree

Jump off a cliff, Tomb stoning I was a kid and it was exceptionally foolish. We saw some kids doing it in the summer in Cornwall. DH and our friends were horrified when I said I did it as a kid, myself and my mate were the only girls who did it and much kudos we got for it.

Ice skating

Its too risky for broken bones and I have issues with my back now and need to look after it

Be on a motorbike, haven’t owned one for years and even if you are careful the amount of traffic these days it’s too risky.

Fall in love, I’m with my old fart now for life. If he dies before me that’s it for me.

Dance in hot pants and a bra on stage in a nightclub, I mean in theory I could do this still but probably best not to.

Yes, there’s no amount of PMA or ‘can do’ attitude will make my joints stable, my fatigue resolve or my pain reduce. I already do far more than I ‘should’ because I resent the limits my health has put on me, 5 years ago I was fitter than most 30 year olds(despite my connective tissue disorder), but sepsis and menopause have really done a number on me, and I’m still coming to terms with the fact that I can’t exercise my way back to full health.

My damaged heart will still be damaged if i spend my days with 16 year old's. I still won't be running marathons after hanging out with teens and adopting a can do attitude.

The Queen was horse riding in her 90s

There are riding schools that cater for one to one rides for elderly.

I was riding in my 50s & hope to do some more riding holidays in the future

Lucky queen. I don't want a 1 to1 ride for the elderly just like I don't want someone to "Do" my garden for me. Do you not get it?

Or riding sidesaddle?

I will give up riding when they pry the horse out from under me, but I acknowledge that I've become more nervous of falling off so I no longer ride the absolute off the wall types that I used to.
For me it's never having all my kids under one roof again; that moment when they're all home, fed and in bed and you can breathe a huge sigh that they're all in and safe. I get a few together here and there, but one lives in Australia and two have babies of their own, so I will never again have that 'all my babies together' thing.

I skied until I was 72. I’m now 81 and miss it. I feel on edge and fidgety watching skiers on tv, especially when there are views of beautifully groomed pistes.

I absolutely get that about having all the family together. It’s the best thing in the world.

I tried side saddle in my youth and hated it. I think if you are very used to riding astride it can be hard to make the change.

Why on earth can you not go abroad?

Because we can’t afford it. Not everyone has the funds for foreign travel.

Smoke indoors in a pub. (I haven’t smoked for years and have zero desire to go back to standing in the rain with the other naughty smokers. But indoors, when it was basically a normal acceptable thing… was bliss.)

I won’t downhill ski anymore- I have a double hip replacement, and am risk averse. I still go on our family skiing holidays though; I mostly snowshoe trek, and occasionally Nordic ski. The trails are beautiful!

I hear you.

I don’t want to let my condition dictate what I can and can’t do, but sadly it does.

I still hike, but shorter, gentler distances; I still swim, but in a sheltered cove with people around. I’m trying to build things gently into my routine, but some days I find it difficult just to get out of bed.

It’s shit- it really is.

I was thinking about just these things on my way in to work.

Any form of sexual intimacy. I never had a clue what I was doing, it was awkward, sometimes gross, the guy never knew either. So I don't actually miss it, it was just recognising that's been done a long time now.

I saw a man running for the bus I was on yesterday. His pure athleticism was astounding. All my life I was unsafe doing more than a quick walk because of dodgy ankles and knees.

I've traveled and moved a lot, but now my mortgage is about to be paid off, I'm in a fabulous relationship with the love of my life, and I'm about to retire. I don't want to hasten my death, but it feels like I'm through with all the experimenting and trying things and I've found my peace.

Sex without a UTI after