Things I'm sad I'll never do again

[Sunny54321]

Ride a horse - too old and too many dodgy bits to risk a fall and nervous riders more likely to come off.

I'm sure there are loads of others but this is mine today.

Anyone else have one?

Well, I'm impressed!

Always wanted to try skydiving but have never even parachuted. My ears/sinuses are so crappy that I got thrown off my scuba course, so couldn't have jumped out of any planes, even when I had enough money & energy.

Do another dive for me 😎

Be pregnant, newborn snuggles, breastfeeding, carrying dc - such lovely times.
Soft play, watching nativities etc - all the things you take for granted at the time.

Listen to my parents talking, go to our old family house.

Mid 50s now, and still ski (when money allows), skate, and have good sex (just less often!). Hoping these continue for a while!

Camping

Same x

There was a huge super club in the city I went to uni at. We went every Tuesday night and had the absolute best time. We never even discussed it we were going or not, it was an absolute given. The music was amazing, there was the occasional fancy dress night… I have so many amazing memories in that place. I couldn’t imagine staying out until 3am now and staggering home with my heels in one hand and chips and cheese in the other…but my god it is sad to think I’ll never be in that club again, age 20, with all my uni housemates.

The gap year I did in my 20s.

I’ve been back to some of the places (indeed I am back in one of the places on holiday right now) and it’s not the same at all. Nowhere near. There was something so magical about freely travelling around for a year with no agenda/itinerary and having incredible experiences with other young backpackers.

When people who settled down very young and missed out on this kind of freedom in their 20s say things like “well we can travel when the youngest leaves home and we’re only 45, it’s no different”, I think they’re very, very mistaken. (However I would never say this to them, and I have no doubt that they don’t regret their life choices for a minute.)

The hot sex posters - I totally understand this. Mid 40’s now and I miss intense orgasms. They just aren’t the same anymore.

I’m sad I won’t get to speak to my mum
again. Hold her hand or cuddle her.

Im sad I wont breastfeed again. Someone said they feel an ache - I get this too.

Ditto sailing. Still do that. Age doesn't stop that either!
In my defence Ma'am I was over 70 when my knees called time.

Run, jump, cartwheel, walk on my hands…

Hot sex. I have way less, now I’m married…
Dreamed about a sliding doors guy that it never happened with (but could have!)

Waking up & just… being. All of this CBK stuff is making me yearn for the 90s.
Not to be back there. But to not be here.
With social media, fake news, AI, etc…

Nice clothes. CBK, again! We had such nice clothes. SATC made fashion exciting!
Shopping was fun, and satisfying. You came home from the high street with an armful of bags for not too much £££

The gap year thing, as well. And the hot sex in far-away places with foreign fellas…

Wow that sounds amazing! At least you have those memories!

HNRTFT but just being a child wizzing out at 9am and coming home when hungry! No mobile phones and just enjoying life.
Going to teenage discos ,drinking too much lager and Mum picking me up and giving me bacon sandwich before bed.Happy Days!

Everything pre kids

sex
drugs
all nighters
not needing HRT/supplements and an afternoon nap

i am fit and healthy but just being in a young body was fab. Lack of consequences and loads of mates with no responsibilities and no social media. Amazing times.

Same 😔

Cartwheels, lots of good sex, & the joy at learning I was pregnant again.
The 1st time I found out I was overwhelmed with what was ahead, but by the time I had our last one (a few problems between 1st & last) I knew he was my last & I loved that feeling of growing someone inside me.

Before children too, the freedom too of being able to just get up & go - parties, drives out with friends, work was just a means to my ends so I changed jobs often then.
My older life has come round faster than I expected haha

To be fair, I don't think it's the 'not doing' of stuff for many PPs, as I'm sure they do/could do plenty of new things they enjoy. I think it's the sadness of never being able to experience them through the prism of youth - with intensity, optimism, naivety, good health and stamina. That just can't be recreated, which is OK in many ways because we do daft things when we're young.

Living in a house share, bored.
And then all the ridiculous, interesting and hilarious stories we told each other, or the mad games we came up with.
We had no TV, no Internet, some of us had dumb phones
Not much money, always enough for cheap wine and loads of laughter

Also I'd love to waterski again, but I don't think my body would let me. I used to be really good.

Having a newborn, sadly had stillborn triplets with my last pregnancy so I was never brave enough to try again & it’s to late now.
Everything else I will still have a go at!

Yachting and skiing, I grew up yachting with my brother's, it was always our happy place but we don't live in suitable places or have the means. My late dh and I lived in a ski resort town for years and every winter we would hit the piste. Even if it wasn't for my knees I couldn't afford it.

I wasnt a massive fan of the baby stage but do miss picking up DD at the school gates and see her run out to greet me.

Flat parties in the 80s.

For me it's being pregnant, breastfeeding and having small children. It was bloody exhausting when I had 3 kids under 5 but I miss it so much. One of my favourite things these days is looking back on old photos and videos of the kids. I was really good at pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding so would love to have done it more. If money was no object I'd probably have had 6 kids.

My kids are 15,17 and 19.

i have arthritis and I have had both knees operated at 45. I couldn’t go up a mountain ever again, but last week I made it to Gaping Gill, half way there. It was wonderful.

I might not ride again as I did but I’m working on plans to have a little pony in my life one day.

I’m sad that I won’t pick my little boy up ever again- he’s 26. Now I smile at him as he takes me out for coffee and cake not the other way round.

don’t give up your dreams- let’s try & find different ways to enjoy them xxx

Do you ride?

No horse can be guaranteed to be a steady plod 100% of the time.

I used to jump 7ft hedges. I have osteoporosis in my spine. I will never get on a horse again.

I consider myself very fortunate that after 50 years of total immersion, I no longer want to.

My big loss is no longer having joints that will let me run, I used to use it as stress relief.

Be best friends with someone like at school. I’ve got lovely friends who I can rely on but I miss that sleepover in a double bed whispering secrets till 5am, more important than family, ensconced in your own world devoted type of friendship.

A cartwheel. It just ain’t happening anymore!

Go camping - I know I could, but our tent is old and leaks and I don't think it's worth replacing it, the last few times we went we hired a bell tent instead but it's not quite the same somehow.