Things I'm sad I'll never do again

[Sunny54321]

Ride a horse - too old and too many dodgy bits to risk a fall and nervous riders more likely to come off.

I'm sure there are loads of others but this is mine today.

Anyone else have one?

I'm just coming to terms with the fact that standing gigs may be a thing of the past for me. I just can't stand up for that long any more. I'm 64 and standing gigs used to be my favourite thing.

DH and I climbed a mountain last week. He's 66 and said it was his last, due to knee problems. I was sad as I have a few more climbs in me but not with him, as he was in such agony coming back down, even with walking poles.

I’m really puzzled at the age of people on the thread
iI do understand if posters are in their 90s, but I am 64 and don’t feel restricted at all. Skiing another week next week (second this year, has five last winter.
Just come back from a week with lovely man I met last year /lots of good sex and mountain walking. Our 6th holiday together. Taking my boat down the Thames and out on my paddleboard as soon as the rain stops.
No grandkids yet, but hope we’ll get the newborn cuddles with them at some point, or if not then at least younger relatives eventually -and will be cuddles without the night waking etc.
Took up rowing two years ago.
Dance at live music in local pubs.
Waterski on holiday.
Don’t much like horse-riding but would do it off happened to be somewhere with other people who wanted to.
I did change careers in my 50s to be a secondary teacher, and I think that being with young people prompts a much more ‘can-do’ mindset.

This!! Those innocent best-friendships where you did everything together. I've yearned for this for ages. They're impossible as an adult, and friendships come in a different shape now.

Riding for me too but have the GCs ponies to look after so don't miss the riding too much.

Also foreign travel. I doubt I will travel far again, maybe through the tunnel to France etc, but I have decided I hate flying. It's not so much the actual flying, it's the whole airport and aeroplane experience that puts me off.

Feel or be loved
Be anybody's 'first' - girlfriend/love/wife etc

@HappilyFreeNow @BatchCookBabe

Why are people not riding a horse anymore? I am in my mid-late 50s, and still have no problem riding a horse

I’m assuming some people on the thread are either significantly older than you, or physically disabled.

Yes, people in their 40s for whom life has just got in the way can pick it up again when they have more time. A 75 year old who has had a stroke probably can’t. Let’s assume that people are able to correctly assess their own physical limitations, and if they say they can’t do something then they really can’t.

I would like to ride again, hoping to do a trekking holiday for the next big birthday. Hope to still have my health!

Hated flatsharing in many ways, but had some really good friends and we would laugh until we were helpless. I don't often laugh like that any more.

Going out dancing and listening to Adam Ant as a warmup, thinking we were the bee's knees in our outfits! We still go out but more sedately.

Have a baby. I have to accept that with 2 DC my family is now complete.

Go backpacking. I realise I could still pack a backpack and go traveling but I wouldn't fit in with the young backpacker crowd anymore so it wouldn't be the same. Plus, my standards have changed so I doubt I would enjoy cheap hostels as much as I did 20 years ago😅

See you say your first paragraph in a positive way but then judge people who go clubbing after 40. It’s not sad at all.

I’m shocked at how people limit themselves on this thread, apart from people with disabilities etc.

Live the life you want to, we only get one! So many people here who like living in misery and moaning at things they miss but they could still have.

See you say your first paragraph in a positive way but then judge people who go clubbing after 40. It’s not sad at all.

I’m shocked at how people limit themselves on this thread, apart from people with disabilities etc.

Live the life you want to, we only get one! So many people here who like living in misery and moaning at things they miss but they could still have.

Fall in love .... I've kissed too many Princes who turned out to be nasty, cruel, unfaithful frogs.
I barely survived the last one - I won't ever put myself in such a vulnerable position again. EVER.

Roller skating. I still do it in my dreams. I used to bomb around on skates all the time when I was 18. No chance now.
Wearing heels is another one even though they hurt like fuck.

I just can't risk falling due to my osteoporosis and spontaneous fractures.

I'm getting physio though so I hope I am improving somehow!

Sit watching my gran baking whilst enjoying a cuppa and chat together. I would do anything to be sat in her kitchen right now. I miss her terribly. X

Oh god yes. Well I miss the idea of lust, the reality is too, too exhausting!
But yeah, dancing in 80s nightclubs with lithe young men(when I was a lithe young woman), having intense looks followed by intense snogging sessions, getting excited if he actually rang the next day. Giddy fanny gallops in those first few months, having sex absolutely anywhere. Then the realisation you were in a proper grown up relationship and this might actually be it!(and dear reader, it was)

I’m disabled with chronic pain and fatigue. I quite literally couldn’t have a wild weekend, or even a filthy half hour. It’s not lack of desire or anything, I physically can’t.

💐

That comes back with grandchildren if you’re lucky enough to have them and is almost more precious as you have greater awareness that time will pass all too quickly

ride a horse
ride a motorbike
have a baby
have that stage of a romance when it seems completely reasonable to go back to bed for the third time.

Meet up with my lovely Dad for a long walk. I'm still walking with friends and by myself, but there was something really special about walking with him.

Having a toddler. My DD is an only child, she was 2 years 6 weeks going into lockdown, and just becoming really interested in the world. I feel i missed out on something in the 6 months that followed that I'll never get the experience now.

I’m mid 50s and love skiing. I was recently skiing with a mid 60s grandma who was amazing - fast but controlled and such an elegant skier. I kept up just but after a full day on the slopes my knees are tired. I’ve had ops on both knees, a hip replacement and an arthritic toe op. I want to keep going for ever…. Well at least 75 when most French resorts give you a free pass.

Hsppily married, but I do miss flirting and hot sex…

Be the mother of the bride. Two older daughters got married by special licence during the pandemic. DD1 bought her dress from Shein. DD2 bought a dress and I paid for it a week before lockdown. The intention at that time was that she would have a small wedding (only 6 people allowed indoors other than the church) and a proper photo shoot in the dress at some point in the future. Six years on she is pregnant and the dress is still in the shop waiting to be sold.

DD3 had a lovely time choosing her dress - she had tried on three and her godmother suggested one more - it was a real "Say yes to the dress" moment. My jeans and boots feral girl went into the changing room and came out as a princess. She was stunning.

Unfortunately (for me) in the lead up to the wedding I was unwell and needed major surgery and wasn't long out of hospital and struggled to last the day and really wanted to go home and rest. I hid it from all but my husband but every time I pass the dress shop I wish I could do the proper "MOB", helping her dress, smiling and dancing the night away.

I think you are prejudging. No amount of can do mindset will stop my back and knees limiting me. I am as "can do" as fuck about things I can do. My back started to give me troubles when I was in my 50's but I managed to carry on riding until my early 60's. I went to a presentation once by a young quadriplegic GP who had broken his neck during his medical school years playing rugby. He had the (reasonable) anger of someone whose planned life was cut short and said to us "remember, unless you die suddenly, being ablebodied is temporary for everybody"

This!