Thanking someone

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I went to ask for advice on a journey and possibly buy a ticket to go on the jour. It turns out that I can use my bank card so I want to go back and thank the person.Would that be too creepy. I would only do it after the journey. The person works at the train station advice office

But presumably you said thanks at the time when you talked to this person? Why re-thank them?

Sorry, someone who works at the train station advised you on something as part of their role? Did you not say thanks at the time?

If you received excellent customer service then a card or an email to recognise that would be nice. I sometimes get small gifts and cards and it makes my week.

I think that is going over the top

Yes. I have not been entirely honest. I went to the station and queued up to speak to someone. I saw the person behind the counter and thought they looked very nice in an attractive sort of way. I got my query dealt with by thus person and left. J couldn't stop thinking how attractive they were a d wanted to see them again. After a couple of hours I went back prrerending i wanted some train naps someone fetched the maps but really I wanted to see the person who served me earlier. I dont usually become instantly attracted to someone and it was a nice feeling. I havent felt like rhis in years

So you want to ask them out?

Either do it it an upfront way or don't -just accept it was nice having someone attractive serve you and go on your way with a smile on your face.

Don't keep making excuses to see them in a weird stalkery way.

@PerkyOchrePeer, respectfully, I remember your user name from all your other threads, which almost all involve fury about people being bad friends, bad dentists, bad hairdressers, bad GPs, and some fairly demented stuff about a friend of a friend who very kindly showed you around when you were on holiday but whom you thought had ulterior motives because you thought she fancied you.

I’m assuming the person at the railway station is female. Not that this makes any particular difference in this case. Yes, it would be weird to go back and queue up at an information desk to thank someone for giving you information earlier, especially after you’ve already gone back with a fake request to try to see her again. Why not date if you’re interested in a relationship? And/or have some therapy to explore your attraction to women, if it’s not something you’re at ease with?

They won't remember you, so it might make them feel awkward if you go back especially to speak to them. Drop an email to their employer if you think they went above and beyond, but don't do it just because you fancy them.

So you're actually asking for an excuse to see them again without actually having to ask them out?

You want permission to go and harrass someone at work because you fancy them?

I do not date because I cannot find anybody who wants to date me

What makes you think this person at the railway station is fema? I have not said so. So I think you are jumping to conclusions. I most certainly do not identify as a lesbian

I would not ask out a complete stranger.

Just ask them for a coffee. The worst that happens is they say no. If they don't then you start to get to know them, which initially is the point of asking someone out on a date. At least you'll then know.

I never said you would

I said so you're actually asking for an excuse to see them again without actually having to ask them out

Someone had to tell you that you can use your bank card to pay for something?

Oh god, I remember the post about the friend of the friend who kindly showed the OP around, and the OP caused all kinds of unnecessary drama.

OP, was the person at the train station a female? You have said you aren’t a lesbian, but don’t think you’ve stated that it wasn’t a female?

Either way, I think you have to just leave it. I think it would be inappropriate to go back again.

FGS don't! It's weird. They may very well be married or in a relationship and it's deeply creepy to see a stranger manning a railway ticket office and decide that they are attractive and you want to see more of them.

They are a complete stranger to you - as you are to them. Why on earth would you think it's ok to go back and 'thank' them for doing the basics of their job.

This is not a Hallmark Romance Film.

If a complete strangers totally asked me for coffee.I would say no

Please don't. Anyone who's worked in retail will tell you this is creepy, and it's always totally obvious you're letching over them and wasting their time so you can indulge that feeling. It's really unpleasant - the person behind the desk has no choice except to be polite to you, but you'll make them feel really awkward.

Several of your previous posts suggest that you are attracted to women and have complicated feelings about it. I’m not ‘jumping to conclusions’, I’m basing my reading of the situation only on things you’ve said on Mn. I’ve never suggested you ‘identify as a lesbian’.

You won’t ask a stranger out, but going up to a ticket counter two or three times they are still a stranger! They are paid to be polite and helpful. If they did recognise you they might start thinking you are a creep repeatedly asking them for rather obvious information.

Tell that to the person on here who suggested I asked him for coffee because no way would j do that

You can't keep taking up someone's time at work to get to know them though.
There is no other way to talk to them without looking like a stalker.

I don't see the issue with meeting someone for coffee. You can meet in a public place, so it's easy for either person to get away if they need to.
And it's not at the workplace or their house.

A friend t of mine works in a department store and a male customer who kept coming in, asked her out she accepted.And now , there have been married for twenty years