Friend told me not to text her …was I in the wrong ?

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My friend and I text daily and she will send me pics of a holiday she’s booked or new things she’s bought or whatever really.
Anyway this weekend me and partner went away.
I have been quite down lately and my health hasn’t been the best so I’ve had a nice time away.
We went in a casino and literally never gamble but spent £10 on the machines.
I won £300 (well partner and I was sharing )
Anyway I showed my friend as I was excited (and didn’t think I was doing anything wrong )
We then won a couple more times and I text friend (we had been continuously texting so it wasn’t just about me winning )
We won another £500 altogether
I was so excited and after a few cocktails didn't think I was doing anything bad.
She replied “please don’t send me any more if you win,I don’t want to know that your winning money..it’s peeing me off seeing you winning”
I was a bit took a back.
Last week was her 30th so I took her out for a meal and spa day ..so I always make sure she has a nice birthday.
Did I do anything wrong?
I wasn’t trying to brag ,I was just excited because I never won anything in my life.

Oh, I see. Yes, that's wrong.

I think there's a phenomenon where it can sometimes be harder to celebrate friends good luck because it makes the person compare their lack of it in a way that wouldn't happen with strangers.

I don't think it's envy, but more that it seems so close that it makes the person feel bad or unlucky themselves in a way that wouldn't happen with strangers.

Jealous bitter cow. Kick to the kerb.

She's not much of a friend if she can't even pretend to be happy for you.

It's her problem, not yours. She was rude.

What you're doing wrong is being a bit of a door matt.

You too her for a spa day and a meal for her bday and then she speaks to you like that and you don't immediately hand her her ass?!

Naaah. Part of friendship is telling each other when you're acting like a twat and she needs TELLING!

Breezy OR pathetically appeasing?

She treats you like shit because she knows you will take it and, by the looks of it, apologise even though you've done nothing wrong into the bargain!

Find a spine AND better friends, OP.

You sound lovely and DEFINITELY too good for her!

She's jealous, and that's so sad. Something you wouldn't expect from a real friend, right?

Well, TBH it was rubbing it in a bit, wasn’t it? One excited text about the first win would probably have been all I’d have sent.

As the saying goes, Who needs enemies with friends like that?!

Sending videos of cuddling her bf is odd.

She sounds more like a frenemy.

Shes not a friend. She's a user. I'd pull back from her

Is she the kind of person that's always talking in the conversation and you are listening?

Is she always telling you about her events? Does she listen to yours?

People suggesting she's struggling for money, well she isn't if she's booking holidays and buying stuff

"it’s peeing me off seeing you winning”
I mean, who sends that to a friend? She's either jealous or only wants to talk about herself and how she's doing.

You done nothing wrong. Just be uninterested when she texts her good news.

If my best friend was messaging me after winning money at a casino I'd be so happy for her, and want to hear all about it. Same if she got a new job or won the lottery (although she'd probably share it with me!) Because I care about her and want her to have all the good things. This person isn't your friend.

She isn’t a friend. Why do you make any time for her. Friends are nice all the time. I was on the bones of my arse and a fried won £50000 - I was fucking delighted for her!

I had a friend like this, only wanted to share her good news but was never happy for mines. Always used to go on and on that she couldn’t believe I didn’t drive and would bring it up every single time I seen her knowing it would upset me as I had driving anxiety. When I got my own car and started driving and overcame my fear and began driving everywhere she never once said well done or acknowledged it and has never mentioned driving to me again - but I make sure I do 😂 every single time I see her now I bring it up because she done to to me when she thought it was something that brought me down and she just stays quiet.

This girl isn’t your friend. I bet if you said you lost 500pound and were upset she would be all over it.

I'd say as a good friend she should've replied saying that's great but please quit while you're ahead else you won't have it for long and could lose more.

I'm very anti gambling and would probably say something like that. But not so bluntly.

She's not happy for you being happy but more than happy to rub your nose in it when her life is going well.

Put her on an information diet and step back.
She really isn't your friend.

I'd be so tempted to send a breezy... I'm living on the streets eating gruel today... 😂

She’s a frenemy disguised as a friend. Take a step back from oversharing

Op just do the same back when she shows of her latest thing or don’t comment when she asks why just say oh I realised it’s quite annoying when you gets loads of texts about stuff your not interested in I get it now from when I was winning the money it was boring you. I won’t do it again.

Jealous simple.
She will take your treats but can’t be happy for you . Some friend ahy!

You weren’t doing anything wrong at all. Sounds like your friend has a jealous streak though. Most friends would have been happy for you.

What you're doing wrong is being a bit of a door mat
You took her for a spa day and a meal for her bday and then she speaks to you like that and you don't immediately hand her her ass?!

Yep- your friend is a cunt and a jealous one at that.

After all you did for her and she talks to you like that? I'd be leaving it a week and then telling her I'd won the lottery just to piss her off even more. Vile woman.

Yup, I have a "friend" like that... shes not been jealous of me, but have noticed the jealousy when someone else were doing well or had a bit of luck (even people she seems to like!). Can't see her in the same light again. Weirdly, she only seems to be jealous of other women's luck, I don't recall her making similar comments about men

I find this difficult to articulate, but I find gambling sordid and it just gives me the creeps.

I wouldn't want anyone to share pictures of their winnings with me. It has nothing to do with jealousy.