Friend told me not to text her …was I in the wrong ?

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My friend and I text daily and she will send me pics of a holiday she’s booked or new things she’s bought or whatever really.
Anyway this weekend me and partner went away.
I have been quite down lately and my health hasn’t been the best so I’ve had a nice time away.
We went in a casino and literally never gamble but spent £10 on the machines.
I won £300 (well partner and I was sharing )
Anyway I showed my friend as I was excited (and didn’t think I was doing anything wrong )
We then won a couple more times and I text friend (we had been continuously texting so it wasn’t just about me winning )
We won another £500 altogether
I was so excited and after a few cocktails didn't think I was doing anything bad.
She replied “please don’t send me any more if you win,I don’t want to know that your winning money..it’s peeing me off seeing you winning”
I was a bit took a back.
Last week was her 30th so I took her out for a meal and spa day ..so I always make sure she has a nice birthday.
Did I do anything wrong?
I wasn’t trying to brag ,I was just excited because I never won anything in my life.

Does she have issues with gambling? Was she actually joking?

No no issues we have been to races etc
She deffo wasn’t joking either

Jealous

from her side- maybe not jealousy per say but maybe she’s hard up and struggling so seeing you win makes her feel like shit. Nothing personal to you but resonates her situation right now? Also mine is a touchy subject depending on your relationship? I don’t speak about money to friends

Green eyed monster she is

She probably skint and envious. Bit like someone who is trying to get pregnant and can’t and then someone shoves their pregnancy down their throat. Just don’t send any more texts about winning money.

Yeah, I think the fourth text would have been the one that broke me, too.

I never speak about finances to friends either ..this was just because we were out and won and I’ve never won Anything in my life.
i wouldn’t talk about money in the bank or wages or anything.
I didn’t even think anything of it

maybe finances are very difficult for her at the moment. They can be for a lot of people, and for a lot of people who you wouldn’t consider to be struggling financially.

I would take her request at face value and just continue to speak to her naturally/breezy, but avoid discussing finances or any lavishness.

Christ CBA to work out the hows and whys.

I can’t imagine even if I was struggling financially being mad at someone for having a good streak of luck.

Just text a breezy ‘ok! Sorry’ and leave it til you have some other ordinary news to send.

You didn't do anything wrong but neither did she. She told you she didn't want any more texts about you winning. Close friends should be able to be honest and upfront. It's better than someone pretending they're not bothered then moaning about it to someone else.

Does she particularly enjoy talking to you when you’re having difficulties in your life OP?
Some people are like that…

Do what she's asked and don't text her any more.

@ACatNamedRobinwell this is it,around 5 years ago I had a bad breakup and I was devastated ..she would send me videos on weekends away with her then bf and cuddling him etc ..it’s okay when she’s happy and going well but I’ve noticed she will slag off her family /friends when the do anything fun or holidays etc

Oh I won’t I just replied “oh I’m sorry,I didn’t mean to annoy you,hope you have a nice night and enjoy your wine “
just a breezy text

I dont think you necessarily did anything wrong, but im not sure why you were both texting constantly.
If I was on a night out with someone, I wouldn't spend that much of it texting someone else. Its just a bit rude.
Both to the pwrson you are with, and to her - you are on a big night out, she is maybe at home relaxing watching tv, or with other people, and is being repeatedly interrupted by your texts.

@Foodyliciouswell she we was texting me about her night and I was doing the same
Im not talking about texting every minute
Just a conversation that never ends if that makes sense

If you were a bit pissed you were probably more annoying than you think.

She was snappy, and could have toned it right down as well.

The weirdest thing about this whole thing is you being on a much needed weekend away with your dp and messaging your friend constantly imo.

I hate people who are constantly texting.

She's jealous and not at all graceful. A true friend is happy for you, no matter what their own life is like. It's a lucky streak, nothing more and enjoy it.

First post: you “literally never gamble” but were gambling.

Third post: you “never speak about finances to friends” yet were speaking about finances to your friend.

Okaaaaay.

That said, if the rest of the post is accurate, the friend sounds jealous and unpleasant.

In that case neither of you were in the wrong. You texted her about something, she said not to as it was winding her up and then you stopped.
Problem solved by a good bit of communication!

Not sure why people are dissing her for being jealous, we can't help our feelings, better to be open than to silently seethe and therefore damage your relationship

She's jealous and pretty mean.