Friend told me not to text her …was I in the wrong ?

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My friend and I text daily and she will send me pics of a holiday she’s booked or new things she’s bought or whatever really.
Anyway this weekend me and partner went away.
I have been quite down lately and my health hasn’t been the best so I’ve had a nice time away.
We went in a casino and literally never gamble but spent £10 on the machines.
I won £300 (well partner and I was sharing )
Anyway I showed my friend as I was excited (and didn’t think I was doing anything wrong )
We then won a couple more times and I text friend (we had been continuously texting so it wasn’t just about me winning )
We won another £500 altogether
I was so excited and after a few cocktails didn't think I was doing anything bad.
She replied “please don’t send me any more if you win,I don’t want to know that your winning money..it’s peeing me off seeing you winning”
I was a bit took a back.
Last week was her 30th so I took her out for a meal and spa day ..so I always make sure she has a nice birthday.
Did I do anything wrong?
I wasn’t trying to brag ,I was just excited because I never won anything in my life.

So she’s allowed to send photos of her holidays and things she buys (therefore bragging about finances) and you can’t brag about winning £500 after you’ve had what sounds like a difficult period in your life? She sounds like she likes to be the only one who has something positive going on in her life. A bit of a frenemy type who secretly enjoys watching you fail. She sounds a bit ridiculous. I’m broke, but can honestly say I wouldn’t behave like that if someone won £500.

She's jealous

my sister is liek this. she never wants good thigns ot happen to me.

when I had a psychotic breakdwon and lost everythign she came to see me and was like Nurse Ratched and was bloody gleeful

I hope you had a lovely night

how much did you win altogether ?

She’s jealous and has no manners or grace. It’s that simple. Don’t overthink it.

Hmm I am leaning towards your texts coming across as quite smug and boastful. If you are having a good time and winning cash then good for you but to be inwardly texting about it more than once comes across as crass and quite cringy. What was it you were expecting her to reply with the second time after the first text about winning?

Ah well, there you are then. She really can't stand it when nice things happen to other people, can she?

I'd stop thinking of her as a friend, to be honest. Ditch the bitch.

id be happy fro my friend and squealing!

Genuinely nice people are happy to hear about the good things happening to their friends.

I would distance myself from her.

If she is mad that you're winning money

Then she is not your friend

A real friend will celebrate with you in your joy

Always pay attention when your friends won't celebrate your successes with you. A real friend wants the best for you. I've lived by that and it hasn't let me down yet. Enjoy your wins. Letting her go will create space for new, better friends

She's obviously jealous.

She just asked you to stop instead of bitching behind your back.

Sounds like a proper friend to me. If you can't be honest with friends, you are not real friends are you?

The fact that she said she finds it annoying that you are winning would strongly suggest that she hates anyone having or doing anything that she cant have or do.

I would be questioning if they friendship really is a friendship tbh. Doesnt sound like it. I used to know someone like this, was positively gleeful if things were shit for someone but couldnt STAND it if something good happened to anyone but her.

Next time you're away for the weekend with someone, keep your phone in your bag. Don't be messaging someone else continously, it's really rude.

When I was sectioned my sister screamed and shouted at me repeatedly on the phone. I was having an episode of hypomania - so I’m sure it wasn’t easy - but I’m pretty sure the appropriate response (if she couldn’t bring herself to prioritse me like everyone else in my life did and offer support) is to put the phone down or not answer or call me in the first place and then say afterwards I couldn’t cope…. not verbally abuse the unwell person! Then she text my DH saying she needed the contact details of my medical team because she needed their help. I honestly think she thought it was outrageous I was out of commission and she couldn’t be centred.

Hope life is feeling better for you now.

Don't sweat it. You didn't do anything wrong, but I can empathise with not wanting to hear about someone winning loads of dosh if I'm a bit hard up myself, and good friends should be able to say to each other "hey, could you leave off a bit". Don't take offence, don't worry about it, just respect her request and carry on texting her about other things.

Oh come on. Are we supposed to be grateful that people are being bitchy to our faces as opposed to behind our backs?

If you can't celebrate exciting and happy moments with your friends then you are not real friends.

Op your friend is jealous and people who are jealous of you will never have your best interests at heart because thats not what they want for you, really. I would be loving it if my friend was texting me about her wins, and even when I was skint back in the day, I would have done my best to put my own circumstances to the side. You haven't done anything wrong and I would think about creating some distance from this person, especially given the back story.

I can't think of many people who would find it fascinating to get constant texts all evening from a drunk friend gambling a few tenners

I am glad my friends are having a great night, I'd happily look at all the photos the day after, but I'll mute them during the night if they kept drunk texting me 😂

She sounds like a bit of a bitch

I'd mute them too, maybe even do a thumbs up but I wouldn't tell someone to stop talking about something good that had happened to them. Op won hundreds of pounds! That's great news! I'd love to hear it.

Why are you constantly texting your friend on a weekend away with your partner. It’s just plain weird. Why don’t you just enjoy the moment and fill in your friends when you return.

Someone muting your joy isn’t a friend OP ….Congratulations on the lovely winnings 🥳🥳🥳

I'd be happy for a friend but feel sending a photo of every win is a little excessive. I have friends that I text very often, every day or every second day so I get that, but I would never text them continuously when I'm on a night out or away with somebody else and in your situation I would probably have excitedly sent a pict of the 1st win and then updated them at the end of the night / next day about the total winnings. An update of every win is very excessive and can be annoying.

side note, you said the conversation was going on between the wins so did you talk to your partner at all between the gambling and constant texting someone else?