Girls at DD’s school cannot wear socks because men and boys feel uncomfortable

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DD’s school has placed a ban on girls wearing socks due to persistent issues with girls wearing skirts that are too short and not the school’s regulation kilts. According to the e-mail sent to parents, girls wearing socks with said short skirts has resulted in some “members of the school community” feeling uncomfortable. When the issue was raised further by some parents, the (male) Deputy made it clear that it was essentially unfair to male pupils, and presumably teachers, to be made to feel awkward when girls undergarments were visible to them. There have also been issues with boys making suggestive comments to girls in short skirts.

I support the school enforcing school uniform policy but hate the fact that 12 year old DD and her friends are already being policed as to what they can or cannot wear because…men. DD hates the thick black tights she now has to wear. She always wore the correct length skirt and knee high socks.

The situation will apparently be reviewed ahead of the warmer months. I just feel this reinforces the view that girls & women need to ensure they dress in a way that doesn’t attract male attention but boys are not learning that inappropriate comments and behaviour towards a girl because of the way she dresses is completely unacceptable.

Wow OP. You’re getting so angry that your daughter has to wear tights.

from what everyone has said it seems sensible to just have everyone in trousers in colder months and option of knee length shorts in summer. They should be set uniform otherwise the girls will be in hot pants and it will all start again.

I don’t think you’re listening to the views of others and are just getting angry.

yes in theory punish the few. But that clearly isn’t working so they’ve had to come up with another idea.

were ask boys to respect women but we’re not asking women to respect themselves. Seems mad that girls want to wear short skirts for their comfort but out of school don’t choose a skirt. Some wear athleisure - whatever that is?! Joggers maybe.

I hate the word entitled. It gets said too often on here. Although one way I agree with it is - everyone is entitled to a safe learning environment. If teachers time is taken up with skirt issues and people are not comfortable seeing underwear - then something has to change.

you’re acting like a child yourself with the whiny comment and then also need to educate yourself that lesbians can seek attraction and attention too! (Weird question).

your daughter is wearing the tights. So no more drama needed.

Oh dear. You need to reply my posts. I have said a half dozen times now that I do not think school girls should wear skirts that reveal their backsides. That is not what my opening post was about. It was about a blanket ban on socks in my DD’s school.

It then became derailed by people falsely claiming that I think girls should be allowed to go to school with their arses hanging out.

Why can’t people read??

This winds me up so much. If it’s anything like our school, half the boys have their pants on show too and nothing is ever done about it, but girls are constantly policed.
if the uniform rules weren’t so strict, they wouldn’t rebel against it. It’s not how they dress when they are allowed to choose

Why are young girls dressing this way then? They want to look cool and pretty to the guys. They should not be dressing this way.

Oh dear.

what do you want from the thread then. It’s not being de railed. The chat is about the key theme and why socks are banned.

many of us agree the messaging isn’t great. But what other solution is there. Punishing the few isn’t working.

I literally cannot believe what I am reading in 2026. I understand some kind of rule on the length of a skirt AND shorts but banning socks is ridiculous. Honestly I would check the dht hard drive. He is clearly seeing the sick school girl fantasy attire and feeling uncomfortable. I cannot believe this is happening.

Exactly.boys should not be wearing trousers hanging off their arse in school or college. But noone talks about that in a sexual way and how it makes girls feel. Uniform policies should apply to all not just one gender. Knee length shorts and skirts that are fastened at the waist and no lower. Banning socks is silly.

Exactly NO boys are wearing their trousers like that at our school. They know it comes from prison culture of advertising being sexually available.

If someone loves schoolgirls in short skirts why would they ban it?

They have already said why they are banning it. Because it makes them feel "uncomfortable". I never said the dht loves it but it obviously is invoking some kind of image in his head that makes him feel "uncomfortable". He needs to work on that instead of placing arbitrary bans on socks for girls. It's pathetic.

I don't care how they do their actual jobs. A rule that applies to all that is designed only to correct the behaviour of the few is inherently the wrong solution to this time old problem.

Not volunteering then. No surprise.

In this particular case in the school it is the girls who are to blame for breaking the rules (unless the boys are wearing ludicrously short shorts too?).

Blame those girls for the fact that your daughter must now wear tights, not the boys please. It is not their fault in this case.

I think the school has made the wrong decision here though. I think they should enforce uniform rules around skirt length instead of making everyone wearing a skirt wear tights.

I did read your posts.

My problem is that you are blaming boys and men for the situation when it is (some) girls who have broken the school rules and consequently caused this extra rule to be put in place. Your thread title puts the blame on boys and men.

Nobody wants to see people’s underwear on display in a school environment. It’s not fair on anyone, not on the young girls themselves either. Peer pressure has a lot to answer for.

Our secondary school everyone wears trousers. There is no option to wear anything else. It’s removed all issues.

At my dd school there is a rule that all skirts have to be below the knee. Every morning the headteacher and two other members of staff stand at the schools entrance and pupils are sent home if their skirt is above the knee and cannot be adjusted, some roll up their skirts at the waistband. This way of ensuring rules are abide by is working well, starting four years ago. If pupils persist breaking the rule it can lead to detentions and not being able to attend the prom. From what l here, there may have been the odd detention, but no one has pushed it as not not being able to go to prom

I think everyone feels uncomfortable seeing school kids with their underwear on display. Probably many of the other school kids too. Male and female.

I agree. There is also the issue that if I, as a middle-aged woman, glance in shock and dismay at a schoolgirl whose underwear or bum cheeks are showing I’m pretty sure I won’t be accused of anything. Not so for the male teachers. They know they’re open to accusations of ‘Mr Smith is a pervert!!’
No wonder they feel uncomfortable. Teaching is difficult enough without feeling unsafe in your workplace.

Agreed.

The odd boy I have seen with their bum out is told to put it away. Just like girls with short skirts.

Problem is the critical mass of girls with short skirts is higher than the boys with bums out.

Oh come off it! You can’t be naive enough to not know- more flesh on show= more attraction from men and yes lesbians too since they are attracted to the female form, yes i do have daughters- 3 infact and i make sure they are dressed APPROPRIATELY, if my daughter is going to school she dresses appropriately ie knee length skirt/trousers if we are going to the beach for the day short skirt/dress great!
Don’t put words in my mouth, i did not say ALL women wear a short skirt to attract attention from men, i said it is these girls intention, otherwise they would leave their skirts at the appropriate school policy length.

@Avie29You’re right. This whole debate is basically one side shouting ‘paedo, paedo!’ at the other.

Teenager girls and boys wanting to look attractive isn’t exactly breaking news. Revealing clothes are not appropriate for school. I think most of us are talking about the micro skirts, not just a few rolls above the knee. Outside of school they can experiment with fashion if they like.

The school should enforce their own rule of decent skirt length, full stop.
I went to an all-girls school and there were still plenty who tried to get away with rolling their skirts up to micro length. Not to attract the non-existent boys, clearly.

But what have socks got to do with it? That is where it gets ridiculous in my opinion. Skirt and short length rules are completely reasonable. Just enforce that. Banning socks is where they have complicated it. What country do we live in where female flesh makes people uncomfortable? Why does it make them uncomfortable? Will the boys have to wear tights in summer too? The OP was very clear they agree that there should be skirt length rules. It is the sock ban that is the issue.

It is the sock ban that is the issue.

Agree with this, the school should enforce the rules rather than make every girl wear tights. Maybe they have had difficulty doing this, but what they’ve done isn’t fair on girls like OP’s DD.

I think OP is wrong to blame boys and men for the issue though, as she has. They’re not the ones breaking the rules in the first place.

No banning socks uncomplicated it, with having to wear tights it doesn’t matter how short these girls are hiking up their skirts they aren’t showing flesh inappropriately at school, of course it would make some people uncomfortable especially young lads who can’t control their erections and get random erections as it is- i have 2 sons one just hitting puberty and one gone through it and i can’t imagine the embarrassment they would feel if they caught a glimpse of some young girls knickers and accidentally got an erection, no the boys wouldn’t have to wear tights in the summer, probably shorts—- which girls can wear too you know.