Something you were judged for that was actually a great decision?

[worldshottestmom]

Im interested to know; what is something that you were judged for that turned out to be a great decision?

One of many of mine is having kids! When I fell pregnant with my first child, the people I called friends at the time judged me hard. We were all early to mid 20s and they were all about drinking, drugs and having fun. Compete hedonism, as is pretty normal at that age.

It just felt like at that point in my life i was done with all that (23 at the time). I wanted to be a mum, settle down, and live a healthy and productive life. It soon became clear i was not welcome anymore; no more party invites, not more inclusion in whatever they were doing. Eventually just mostly stopped talking to me and spoke to me as if I was 90 and my life was over.

One of them, my closest friend, genuinely sat me down and tried to convince me to have an abortion. Two others made jokes to me about getting an abortion and how glad they were that they were not pregnant, and what a huge mistake it was.

But here I am today, 2 beautiful, wonderful children that i adore and complete me as a person. They make my heart so full. I couldn't be any happier with my decision.

So let's hear it, what about you? Im trying to demonstrate to others that its not always best to listen to those around you. So frequently people rely on others with their problems, which is fine and it's normal, but sometimes its so important to think and make decisions for yourself.

I bought a flat when I was 21. Lots of my friends said I was being boring and stupid and should be partying and backpacking rather than painting and having early nights because I had a job in the City and got up at 6am.

At 35 those same friends all got a bit chippy because when we started a family we could afford to stay in London and I could give up work.

Not going to university despite outperforming the vast majority of my peers in school and for getting married at 21 years old and only having one child! I have a fantastic life, I’m 42, my marriage is strong, my mortgage is long since paid off, our son is almost 15 and so we have the freedom that comes with it with finances to sustain it. The three of us have seen places worldwide and I wouldn’t live my life any differently!

Having my first at age 26. My friends are very career minded and I got the impression they found it faintly hilarious. Now they’re all 33, a few are struggling to conceive and others can’t find the right man. They’re bored of partying and want some kind of meaning in their lives which they’re struggling to find. I’m not going to say my life has been a bed of roses and I’m going through a tough time with the terrible 2s at the moment, but I’m happy with my decision and find my life very fulfilling.

Having a glass of wine and some biscuits.

Leaving a man of my own age for a man much older than me. Ok that didn’t work out but the relationship gave me my son who I love more than anything.

Wish I was smart enough to buy a property at 21! Good on you. Sounds like your tasting the success of your own good choices, and so are they lol

Not having an abortion at 15

Leaving London.

I seriously mean it when I say i wish I hadn't of gone to uni now! The amount of people that didnt and are now way ahead in their careers from gaining actual life experience in the work place is really telling! Good on you for living your life how you wanted, it sounds like you're doing amazingly!

Ugh stop it that is exactly how my friends reacted. Almost like they were sneering with their words when talking about it. I feel like thats a really common theme with people living it up until theyre 30 then suddenly realising the dating pool is way smaller and conception truly is a miracle.

I feel you with the terrible 2s, have a DD who's 2 and god damn it is showing. But like you say, the fulfilment they bring is worth all the temper tantrums. Keep smashing it @Playingvideogames

Making a big career move. Everyone said it be too much of a leap but I’m thriving.

Working on the relationship with my husband when it got hard. We both lost friends because of it, but working on our marriage together turned out amazing.

keeping the avocado bathroom suite. Our family thought we were mad and it would seriously date our house but it’s perfect for the house, saved us money, saved a perfectly fine suite and allowed us to build a statement bathroom that everyone now says they love

Gettting married after 12 weeks together. Getting pregnant on our honeymoon.
Shock, horror, obviously wasn’t going to last.
Been married 40 years, very happy together and now grandparents.

I know this was probably a joke but its actually so true. Too many people judged for eating and drinking whatever, but life is short, you gotta enjoy it sometimes!

Not having an abortion at 18. Not going to university.

Working in the City and pretending she was my little sister (as knew I’d get fired for being a single mum). Paid my mortgage off in my 30’s.

Leaving a senior job and setting up my own business. Was only bread winner..

Buying a house with DH after a year and marrying after 3.

Going to university.
My best friend was so, so nasty about it, said I was stupid, and basically the last thing she said to me was "you're still going then?" and then she never spoke to me again.
My boyfriend at the time said I must have no self respect to "mooch off the government" (time of student grants) and that I should get a job like everyone else.
It was horrible - but going changed my life. I had the best time, made new friends in a new city and loved student life.
I still think it's weird - like a sort of inverse snobbery.

Moving out of London to the middle of the countryside. Everyone kept saying how much we’d miss London, but I spent my whole life there and I was fed up with it. I’m very introverted and love the peace being away from it all.

Retraining two months after becoming a single parent of two primary school kids. I knew if I didn’t do it then, I never would. Yes my masters was hard and full time placements were juggling acts but now I have a job I love.

Love this one. Sometimes you might not make great decisions, but the most positive things can come from them

Getting rid of my car, although I live in London, everyone was dead against it. Haven't missed it at all and just occasionally take an Uber or hire a car for long trips. Saved a fortune.

Oof some really great ones here! Feels like people are always so quick to hold others back and involve themselves in other people's relationships etc. When you do what you know is right for you, it always seems to work out. You have a brilliant mindset, love it

Same here. I eloped with a man I barely knew, we'd been in a relationship for 4 weeks. Married 32 years...

Marrying DH with no intention of living together in the near future.

Everyone judges us, why would you get married etc...Because we wanted to and as two consenting adults can do what we like. It worked out wonderfully for us both.

Interesting!! Everyone judges me for not having a car as well! I just dont feel like i need one. They're expensive expensive expensive in so many ways. Most places I go are within walking distance or few quid on the bus/train/tram. Not everyone needs a car and paying for them feels like it would be like paying for an extra child, no thank you

Actually, not a joke at all. A now ex friend judged me for this. As well as other more serious things. Obviously why ex friend.

This made me sad, im glad you didn't either. Had a similar situation happen with my older cousin who was sadly convinced to have an abortion at 15, it still really affects her to this day. Not saying its the right choice for everyone, but when there's so much pressure on a child to make such a colossal life decision, the impact can be harrowing.