@warmpinkshawl (cosy name!) The ability to look things up is a mixed blessing though. The availability of the Internet can be a PITA for doctors with self-diagnosing patients, but it has helped some people identify problems that rather complacent doctors have missed.
Seems like a bit of listening and respect for the other's knowledge on both sides is the best way forward. I don't know about in the UK now, but Dutch doctors are taught to listen to a mother's gut instinct about her baby as a valuable tool, although not always to take it as the defining factor.