To NOT like the evenings stretching...

[IWantNiceNeighbours]

I absolutely adore the dark nights and love it when the clocks go back in October, love driving home from work in the dark. Love lying in bed all cozy at 7pm looking up at the big, bright moon. Love being at home in the warm or going for a night walk and looking at everyone's Halloween decorations.

I don't like the lighter evenings! I find it harder to sleep, feel like I should be doing more or that everyone is doing something sociable and interesting. All the twats come out getting drunk in their gardens or blasting their shit music out and motorbikes revving about everywhere.

Fuck the light evenings... leave me in the winter!

This is me, OP. I love the way everything changes to a lower gear in Sept. I adore autumn and winter. England is so good at these seasons, so crap at summers - esp the heatwaves.

How can you "hate" overhead lights? They are just lights.

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You can definitely hate overhead lights!

My DS gets seasonal depression. Drs always assumed it's SAD but like you, totally hates summer and the long interminable days. I get summer depression as well but I always assumed it was the lack of things to do and my birthday.

I HATE overhead lights

I love the nights drawing in but don’t mind them drawing out either. I don’t like it getting light so early in the summer! I also don’t like it being dark til almost 8am in the winter….

I don't think being introverted and liking the dark nights are linked as much as you think.

I'd say I'm pretty introverted, and I have to be "social" a lot at work because it involves running meetings, collecting information from multiple departments and presenting, so outside of work I tend to recharge.

I love the winter for being able to curl up with a book without any "expectations" to do much else. But I also love it for those bright, crisp, cold days that we get. They're my favourite dog walking days. I love Christmas and the family being round and all the lights. Halloween is great, bonfire night minus the stress is causes the dog, love it.

I love spring for new life and sunnier days, the anticipation of summer and the extra light and warmth. I love summer for the long days and I spend those evenings pottering round my garden or taking the dog for an extended walk. I love autumn for the colours and everything starting to come back to being cosy.

This winter has been hard with all the rain and mud. Even I, as someone who usually enjoys it (as I do every season, I see the positives), have really struggled and felt a bit miserable. But that's nothing to do with whether I'm an introvert or not.

Good to rest too.

People keep saying this, but have yet to provide a reason for this hate.

@BogRollBOGOF In my case it's nothing to do with being an introvert or extrovert. I see just as many people whether it's light in the evenings or not. I don't know why you seem to accuse some people of making an excuse and trying to hide being an introvert.

They cast a hard light on the room, whereas wall lights or table lamps give a 'softer', more welcoming light. They are just too 'in your face'. I have removed all ceiling lights in my house.

One person's softer is another's murky. I've never been in a room lit only by lamps or wall lights that felt adequately lit and not like sitting in gloom.

I would have to add proper ceiling lights to any room that didn't have them to be comfortable.

I prefer our teens travelling to/from college and school in the light, they don’t care but I feel more reassured.
Also they go and hang out with friends more after school when it’s light, and that social aspect is good for them.

As the days lighten, weather warms and should get drier there are more options for many people of all ages to get out, be out and socialise - and some of the time it those days that help form friendships which carry you through the winter (when you enjoy someone’s company enough to have them at home)

We don’t mind the winter nights when it’s clear we are happy to get telescope out. But also see the many benefits of daylight before and after school and work.

Nothing we can do about it, the planet turns and goes round the sun each year. It’s a connection to that journey.

They are harsh and too bright. If you put a lower wattage in they look a bit silly.

We have 5 lamps in our living room and, depending on what we are doing, we might have them all on or none. We like to watch tv in the dark.

I like the lighter evenings , I don’t have the luxury of being able to lie in my bed at 7pm !!!
I am usually finishing up dinner , loading dishwasher, cleaning up kitchen, taking dog for his 2nd walk , helping my disabled daughter, folding dry laundry , general tidying up as with a family here it gets untidy quickly.
I am not as keen on daylight streaming in through my bedroom windows in the middle of the night ( I’m in the north 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿) …but I have added blinds to filter that so waking at 7ish to 7.30 is ideal

@whymadam

heatwaves are brilliant! Hoping we’re going to get loads this summer! 🤞 need to make up for this awful, cold, pissy weather we’ve had for weeks

For me it depends on the time of day, I like over head lights during the day, and use the yellow toned which are not harsh. In the evening I have my side lights on. And dislike a bright room

but everyone is different. A friend of mine keeps her ceiling lights on all the time, even at night, I find it too bright, and my sil has everything really dark at night, she will max have one soft glow corner light, which means when socialising you can’t see each other. Thay doesn’t work for me either, and I even when not socialising I don’t want to sit in the dark at night where I can’t actually see my families facial expressions.

so for me, ceiling lights during the day, soft side lights in the evening. I have dimmable bulbs and dim tnem when watching tv when it gets to about 9pm but we can still see each other and what we are doing. If chatting I have them brighter, and also earlier in the evening.

i think this is one of those things where we all like what we like and find other people’s likes when it differs a bit odd.

Ah I'm the opposite. I love the lighter evenings when I get home from work and it's not like the middle of the night. We can go fishing in the evening and the extra daylight makes me feel happier. Also I hate driving in the dark so there's that!

I’m in Spain at the moment. I’m aware that they’ve had a lot more rain than normal, and it was pretty horrible on Saturday but yesterday it was lovely, some sunshine, around 17 degrees and light until 7 pm. Looks like similar today 🤞

This - l hate winter.

Yes this sounds about perfect

When you say you like overhead lights during the day do you actually mean when it is daylight?

I hate having artificial lights on and never switch any light on until I really need to. The only time I would have a light on during the day is if it is a very very dark overcast day and that happens very rarely.

We have chosen all our houses for how light they are. DH's parents lived in such a dark house that they had to have a light on all day in their living room and I hated spending time there as it made me feel so depressed. I could never live in an old cottage with small windows

The lady on the till in Tesco today was moaning about all the rain “has it stopped? When will it stop?” I don’t know. I love it. People always assume you must hate it because they do. Keep it coming, I say

I have a fairly modern house and the living room has a wall that's basically windows.

However, it faces NW and is set on an incline, so through the winter, when the sun doesn't get very high, it's not murky dark but it's not light enough to get away without the lights on most of the time.

Through the summer it's grand, you only need the lights on in one half of the L shaped kitchen, if you're in there doing something. Really light.

We chose our house for the location and the potential of the plot for extending. If we'd also gone for the way light came in, the location would have been much worse than here.

I hate a 'big light'/overhead light too. Very nasty and uncomfortable. Equally, I appreciate that some people like/need the Big Light/overhead light.