What very small but vital thing does your partner regularly do for you that means you can never leave?

[CurlewKate]

I have an irrational hatred of even very slightly stale milk-he will always willingly test it for me to save me from the horror, and has done for 40 years. And since we got our new car he always remotely turns the heated seat on if he knows I’m going out-I always forget. Last week he did it from the middle of the Irish Sea!
(because this is Mumsnet, I feel the need to clarify that a. I am perfectly capable of doing these things myself and b. These are not his only virtues!)

Tolerates my shit. has done for over 30 years

Makes the orange lights on the car go away. I just say “there’s a weird light warning me about something” and next time
it’s gone.

Mine is away all week with work but he checks my car at the weekends (air in tyres, fills up the fuel etc) don't think I've ever done those things myself in 15 years 🤣

He strokes my arm while we’re reading in bed in the evening

He brings me a cup of tea to help me wake up

He makes me a coffee mid morning with his fancy machine

Oh, and this

I know this isn't the point of your post but I don't have a partner but I do have a top dad, this man can turn his hand to anything, he cleans, sews and is a the most perfect ironer! I also don't know how but everything he cooks tastes superior to anyone else, even a bacon sandwich. He does everything for my disabled mum without complaint.

We almost lost him last year as he had a cardiac arrest at his doctors surgery and he just bounced back and cracked on again (after 5 weeks in a coma!)...he really is a marvel

This is also why i probably don't have a partner as this is what he has to compare to...but it does mean I am fiercely independent, can absolutely decorate, change plug sockets, plumb stuff in and can make a mediocre bacon sandwich :P

He hoovers the stairs, which is a job I absolutely hate.

However, I could leave, it would just mean having to buy a bungalow 🤣

Makes better tea than I do.
He isn’t even the tea drinker in this house

Give your lovely men an extra hug today and tell them you love them.

I lost my irreplaceable last week in an accident in the mountains and I am on my way to his funeral. After the nightmare of the last week or so, he would approve of my mumsnetting.

He did -

Spider duty
Emptied moustraps
Cobwebs
Always carried my skis
Walked on the outside of the pavement
Could cook butter chicken.
Made me a spectacular birthday cake every year. He just followed the instructions quite literally.
Made me 3D ‘things’
Carried heavy shopping.
Just endless acts of kindness.

Excellent at cunnilingus

All the DIY. He's had no formal training but can do plumbing, electrics, bricklaying, plastering, tiling, carpentry, carper fitting. He seems to enjoy the challenge the weirdo.

I put the bins out

That's my marital velcro right there

Worth his weight in gold. If only I had such a handy man. I keep mentioning the word "spirit level" when my DH is doing any carpentry but he has (misplaced) great confidence that he has no need of one.

That is not trivial !!

Yeah, he's a grumpy old git at times and not terribly romantic but I live in a nice house and he's saved us a fortune over the years so, on balance, I think I'll keep him.

All diy including cars and bikes and all cooking and now he is retired and I am not, all the chores save that I like doing laundry so I still do that.

U could get a step... 😬

Cup of tea in bed on my non-working mornings.
Cooks all meals except those the evening meals on my non-working days (that's good of me). All cooking is adventurous, varied and excellent.
Does the bins.
Goes out every weekend morning for croissants.

If my exdp was like this, we would still be together!

I love and man that can fix stuff.

Does all the "christmas magic" extra stuff with the kids.

Oh I forgot one! There’s always coffee in the pot in the mornings. It just happens each morning when he’s here, to the extent I forget. It’s always almost offensive when he’s away to go into the kitchen and there’s no freshly brewed coffee.

Of course I can make my own coffee. So this is trivial, but if I left him I might end up with a man who drinks tea with breakfast and so didn't put a pot of coffee on each morning. My life would be less pleasant.

Oh goodness I’m so very sorry for your loss. What a terrible thing. Sending you strength to get through today

I am so very sorry. Sending you strength to get through today. It sounds like he was wonderful.

The seat warming thing blew my mind. I so want to believe that men like this exist! Lovely to read about it.

He acts genuinely proud when I get questions right on University Challenge and Only Connect. Monday nights wouldn't be the same without him.