How often do your grown up children call you?

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Just that mine never call really, unless I call them, or they want something then they will call, I appreciate they are young adults with their own lives but I just feel a bit abandoned I guess, is this normal?

One of them about four times a week, the other about that a year monthly or every six weeks. We all WhatsApp too, and I see them in person regularly (maybe because we are child/dogs/random small animals sitters)

There will be a huge variety in the answers as everyone is different!

I am early forties, my siblings late thirties and we all hate phone calls! Never call anyone if we can help it! If my phone rings and it's a family member I wonder who has died! 😱

We all message with our mum though, but not as often as some people on here have mentioned. Meet up maybe once every 4-6 weeks. We all including my mum work, and us grown up kids have kids too. Life is busy.

Eldest dd we typically speak for a chat once or twice a week usually me ringing her but sometimes she rings me. We text inbetween if we want to let the other know something. I see her once or twice a month (lives a hour away.)
youngest I talk to 3-4 times a week and or text. See couple times a week. (Lives 10 min away)

My two are both at university, and they’ll each generally phone once or twice a week, usually for about 30 minutes. Someone will usually post something in our family group chat most days, but we’re not constantly messaging. That balance feels about right for us.

I do a video call with my parents and brother every Sunday. We message every day - sometimes just to exchange Wordle scores (yes, we’re still doing that!) but often with brief updates as well.

My do phones his mum once a week.
She refuses to do any other form of communication.

Why do you prefer no phone calls ?

It depends on their stage in life, their circumstances and how close they live to parents ime. Just moved out, living hundreds of miles from us we heard from them less. They needed to be completely independent of us and we enjoyed new-found roles beyond parenthood. Later in life they live nearby, have children and dogs needing day care so we see them weekly, plus they phone and WhatsApp.
Don’t despair OP. There are lots of new chapters.

Im in my 30’s, living with partner and toddler. My parents are still together and I call each of them individually 2-3 times a week. I try to visit min once a fortnight

Do they have a key ? Id let mine have a key

D 2 or 3 times a day and numerous texts, s WhatsApp’s rather than talking but at least once a day.

Message every day, speak maybe 2-3 times a week

Both daughters call everyday as does 7year old DGD! One son calls roughly twice a week and the other messages more but calls sometimes 10 times a day if he is stressed about, girls,uni,gym, work,sleep,and on it goes😂

This is exactly like my young adult DC (early 20s) ones moved out with GF,another two at uni.
I phone them to chrck in woth them, see how they are, Im their mum ,they arent getting rid of me that easily !
Im hoping as they get older they may start phoning me just for a chat......

Why would that make you 'proud' ?

I have a family group chat every day with my mum and sister.,, my mum works in a prison so doesn’t have access to her phone but when she’s off I call her literally all day 🙈

We text every day. I see one or the other at least once a week.

Mine have sort of insisted we speak once a week. Frankly phone calls are a pain but actually it does feel more connected than messaging ( which I would probably end up doing). My mum doesn’t do much which is sadly not her choice but where she lives so I know she likes a chat.
My son didn’t bother at Uni and doesn’t much now.
It’s easy to just communicate what you are doing as opposed to just keeping connected.

Ds - every day if he needs to offload about his day Dd rarely she needs to be quiet and be solitary in the evening. I’ll call if I haven’t spoken to them in person for a week - we don’t have a set arrangement.

Never 😂

Well, a call back if they miss my call (once a week).

I was the same at their age.

It’ll change as they get older.

How old are they? I send messages on family WhatsApp (usually pictures of grandkids) daily and then usually call twice a week, but when I was in my twenties I probably went ages without calling them! Just a different stage of life

For me (not the poster you were asking) I don’t like phone calls for a number of reasons, the flow (or lack of) of conversation, the lack of being able to add extra info like you can on text without forgetting your train of thought, the silent gaps etc. I’ve never liked making calls even before texting. I can get so many more thoughts down on text.

Ds local to me will pop in every week at least once sometimes twice, then we’ll go out somewhere even if it’s for a local drive, we will sometimes message throughout the week. Ds has a lot of kids and I see them often too, often going to theirs.

we used to do a lot of random stuff like jumping in the car to go and pick up a car part from around the country, we had a great time and made some great memories, don’t do that so much now, none of us have the time or the energy .

dd1 lives in Scotland and will ring every 2 or 3 weeks for a catch up that can sometimes last two or more hours 😆, we will often message in between and we try and see each other at least every couple of months.

Both very different, both very close to me but living their own lives in different ways.

I never call ‘just to chat’. I hate talking on the phone and hate it when people call me too. I’d much rather have a conversation in person.

Maybe once a month DS will facetime but, he always picks a time when one of us has something on about half an hour later 😂. He must think I was born yesterday!

We do chat on messenger several times a week though 😃.

We ring/ text least twice a day and l see them about twice a week. One is 41 working with 3 young adult boys 21 /18/17
2nd daughter age 33 lives with her wife with 3 kids .. sometimes the older ones come visit or call in.. or we go out shopping / to the cinema etc.. they both have their own houses a 15 min walk away. . I'd be so upset if l didn't see them for more than a week.