How often do your grown up children call you?

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Just that mine never call really, unless I call them, or they want something then they will call, I appreciate they are young adults with their own lives but I just feel a bit abandoned I guess, is this normal?

Once a week or more if he's worried about something. He doesn't call if he's on holiday or out with friends. I text him if I need to tell him something.
It's not unusual for grown up children not to call. Do you have other children

Yes I think mine would call for something like that, I just mean for a general chat/catch up

DD in second term of Uni. We WhatsApp every few days. She's not a big talker to us on the phone.

I'm glad she's independent but would love longer chats

One will call three or four times a week. One will call every few weeks or if they want something more often. The other is NC sadly.

No only the two both left home

Different families have very different norms. We WhatsApp most days but I call DM about once a month and see her about once every six weeks. Frankly, I often call and she’s too busy with her fab social life to talk (which I’m delighted by, I’d worry if she weren’t busy).

My DS messages me every day. Calls me at least twice a week.

I speak to mine pretty much every day, if not by phone definitely a text or 2 would pass between us, even if it was just a picture in the group chat. I was very close with them as teens and young adults so speaking regularly is very normal for us. I see one of my parents every week but don’t talk in between, the other one can fuck off. My upbringing was massively different to that of my children though.

DH is 50 and phones his mum maybe 4 days a week. He calls his dad nearly daily. His dad was recently bereaved and before that, he called his dad 1-2x a week. Both are fairly quick catch up calls.

My mum lives abroad. I call maybe once a week and email about the same. I might be on the phone for 30mins though.

One once a week and one every three months or so.

One daily - lives with us so has no choice. Second, every 2 -3 weeks, third, weekly without fail. We don't push it and would not do that, as my DH still has nightmares about his own parents who expected a weekly Sunday call without fail (even when working) and if he couldn't the next week would start with a 10 minute lecture, He stopped ringing much at all for a while.

Not often but we WhatsApp most days.

I just don’t think people talk on the phone nowadays - I’m 45 and very rarely telephone anyone.

I pretty much never speak to my parents on the phone. I don't like phone calls, I'll avoid them wherever possible. They feel much the same! We send messages back and forth pretty near daily though.

What I mean is if I didn’t call them, then there wouldn’t be much communication.

Not often unless they are needing something urgently, i do.hear from them through messages most days. We are not a phoning family.

Phone calls -never

Messages 1 to multiple times a day.

Ds1 usually calls daily to update me on little grandson. Ds2 is still living at home

Dd and ds call at least once a week, message frequently.
Ddil also keeps in close contact.
I'm very lucky.

Mine are late 20s, no children.
One messages daily and calls maybe every other week, usually while out for a walk. Lives 90 minutes away and visits about every six weeks.
The other lives nearer and comes over once a week, messages a couple of times a week and sometimes rings on the drive home.

I used to ring my mum every day at the same time for a short chat.

They don’t message either

My an (22) Texts good morning every day. We usually exchange a couple texts but don’t phone much. I see him once a month (he lives about 80 miles away which includes a ferry).
My DD(uni) texts most days and we talk about two/three times a week. Neither have their own families which may be when this stops!

Son in the first instance!

They'll get better as they get older.
Keep communicating even if a quick Hi, how's things.

2 adult lads, 29 and 26
Both have their own homes and have lived away from us for several years.
Both usually ring a minimum of once a day.
We see them a couple of times a week. We usually go out with one or the other at least once a week ( gig, pub quiz, walk, something to eat)

We message most days and chat often.