Have you ever had a birthday card written by your Dad?

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I just realised that after 48 birthdays, my Dad (still with my Mum) has never written my birthday card. I know that’s in line with the stereotypically gendered roles of those kinds of tasks but he’s a very engaged Dad in lots of other ways.

i was thinking about it as I saw a gift which was a loved one’s handwriting as embroidery and I realised I don’t have any examples from my Dad.

if your Dad is still with your Mum has he ever written your birthday card? I’m going to tell mine he needs to do it this year!

Every year. And my children's. Sometimes he made personalised ones with funny pictures specific to the sender. He died in the summer and my mum couldn't be bothered to give one to me or my children, they sat unopened on the side. My dad had bought us some before he died.

Thanka for your post by the way, it's shown me yet another way my mother failed. I've never worked out if it's laziness, trauma, narcissism or depression but she didn't rest fuck all for never my siblings.

My mum used to get my dad to at least sign the card she'd written, so I knew (hoped?) he'd at least read it!

Never! I always make sure that DH and I both write in our children’s cards.

I’ve never thought about this before, my dad has never written in my birthday cards, my FiL has never written in my husband’s birthday cards and my husband never has written in our children’s birthday cards. If anything happened to me, would he think of buying a birthday card, I know he’d get them a gift but I’m not sure about a card? This post has made me think.

Yes, but he spelled my name wrong!

I'm not sure, I don't think so but he's dyslexic so doesn't like to write as he finds it so difficult

Never even noticed who wrote my birthday cards .
Dad was the Christmas Card man !!

Much more important .

Every Christmas we would have an envelope put on the Christmas tree branches (usually from the generic pack bought by my mum for the neighbors!)

But inside that envelope was magical ...real hard core cash ...a real £10 then £20 ...and so on !

When we got up to £50 we nearly fell off our seats 😅😅.

Late '80's and early 90' a that was a lot of money !!

He always rang me on my birthday
which I think is is more important than signing a piece of card .

My dad died a few years ago but every birthday he got me his own card which he wrote in with a message about how much he loved me. My Mum also got me a card which she wrote from both of them. I miss him so much and wish I’d kept them all.

Yes
He also would do his own paintings on the card and did amazing personalised Christmas cards for the kids . eg them standing in the garden and Santa flying over .
Hes not here any more and it’s lovely to have them .

Wow this has made me think. I'm about your age OP.

I don't think I have anything hand written by my dad!

Cards all from my mum. She writes ones to my DC as well. Letters when I was on school trips pre email / text.

It would have been lovely to have things from my dad but I know he cares in other ways.

I usually write my DC cards but DH will write a message / draw funny pictures.

FIL always writes in all our cards! But they're more formal about birthdays.

Yes I have. Mostly written by my mum but sometimes Dad. I lived abroad for a while pre internet and he used to sometimes write letters. My late FIL was a great letter writer as he did not like the phone. He wrote a letter to DH every week from when DH left home until FIL lost his sight.

Our dad never wrote any of our cards growing up or beyond. Our mum used to joke that it was because he had horrible writing and she wouldn't let him. It wasn't something I'd ever thought about too much until I got engaged, and received a card from my parents with the most incredibly thoughtful and heartfelt message that my dad had written all by himself.

Now that I think about it, no 😂 my mum and dad have been married for more than 40 years 🙈

Yes, he often used to write a silly little poem and draw.pictures in our birthday cards. I think his writing was better than my mum's or maybe he enjoyed the creative licence. He is a retired teacher though and always had teacher pens to hand.

No. I remember someone asking him when my birthday was and he didn’t even know. Loser. My mum made minimum effort but she did always write a card.

We both write a message in our children’s birthday cards and both put effort in looking for and buying gifts.

I don't think he did when my parents were together, but it didn't bother me - I didn't even think about it.

Once they separated then yes he did write in my cards.

Yes and he likes to get ones with pages so he he can write long screeds. It’s cute.

Never but DH writes birthday, Christmas, sometimes good luck or congratulations cards individually to dd and always has done which I think is lovely or sometimes we each write one side in the same card.

Oh that's sad. My dad always writes my cards and sends me little notes and letters, he also takes pride in buying interesting presents, he always did. My mum died years ago when I was young, but he has been with my step mum for over 30 years now.

I was an only child with a small extended family so for my birthday my parents gave me a card each .
My dad used to write lovely words in it and I wish I had kept them as he died when I was 25 and he was just 53 .

No. Never ever got a phone call that was just him wanting to know how I was doing either. He was just always in the background.

I ask my husband to write the birthday cards to our adult kids every couple of years. He also has to write the (very few) Christmas cards for his side of the family.

Every year. My parents used to send me separate cards.

He writes "and Dad" 😁

Mum would buy the cards and they’d both write a note on. We do the same. I do wonder if she hadn’t bought the cards though !!