Have you ever had a birthday card written by your Dad?

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I just realised that after 48 birthdays, my Dad (still with my Mum) has never written my birthday card. I know that’s in line with the stereotypically gendered roles of those kinds of tasks but he’s a very engaged Dad in lots of other ways.

i was thinking about it as I saw a gift which was a loved one’s handwriting as embroidery and I realised I don’t have any examples from my Dad.

if your Dad is still with your Mum has he ever written your birthday card? I’m going to tell mine he needs to do it this year!

Not until my Mum got dementia in her 80s

58 last Saturday, birthday card written by my mother Love Mam and Dad. He rang me on Tuesday "sorry I forgot your birthday yesterday".

My husband wrote all the cards for our wee ones. He passed away when they were still small. Now as adults those cards are so precious to them.

yes he did. Or he would choose the card and mum would sign it (dad had a very quirky sense of humour, so tended to get cards like the Simon Drew cards).

I have plenty of letters from my late father from my boarding school days. They all finish with a list of the words I had misspelt in my previous letter together with hints about how to remember the spelling. At the time, I never paid any attention but now as an adult I can completely see how he was trying to do a useful thing.

although he has been dead for decades, I still find myself seeking his approval and sometimes get tied in knots trying to impress people who I belatedly realise remind me of him sigh

I’m so sorry that happened to you 💐

Yep. My dad wrote a card every year for Christmas and my birthday.

I invariably buy the cards for dds and Gdcs, but dh will always sign them and write something nice, too.

No. And he died yesterday so won't.

I’m so sorry 💐

Very few.
And my dad is dead now but I found one in a box of cards the other day! It made me bawl my eyes out to see his handwriting. It meant a lot to have that.
I make sure my husband writes in all the kids cards. Tbf he's quite good at taking the initiative himself anyway. But that will be important to them one day.

I have, because my parents split up when I was 9. So every birthday since, I’ve had a card written from my dad. I don’t remember before, but I’d assume my mum wrote do them both.

My parents split up when I was 7, I have never had a card or present from my father.

No never . Nor any of the grandchildren’s cards or anything else. In fact it was his turn to buy me a Christmas present in kk this year and he got my mum to phone me to see what I would like because he didn’t have a clue. He’s a great Dad actually and I’m not bothered .

Both used to sign mine.

My parents have been divorced for 16 years so yes I have. Although usually I just get a text.

This thread really got me. My Dad died when my brother and I were young adults and I don't think I have a single thing in his handwriting. Not a card or a note. You don't think about it at the time. You're just trying to get through the days. And then years later you're looking through a drawer and it hits you... there's nothing there.
Because of this we ended up doing something similar with our Mum. Not birthday cards specifically, but getting her to write down some of her stories. Things about her childhood, about Dad, about her parents. She kept saying nobody would be interested. She was so wrong about that. We are.
I think the OP is right to tell her Dad to write the card this year. It sounds like such a small thing but it really isn't.

@farmlass my.df also did little sketches in mine I've kept them all

My dad is the one to write them all, but that said, I can't remember if he did so when I was a child

I cannot remember birthdays because my Dad died many years ago but I do have letters that he wrote to me when I was in Australia,long before mobiles and texting existed. He was a journalist and his letters were hilarious.

I once received a very moving thank you card from my Dad but he spelt my name wrong, which dampened the sentiment somewhat…

No, but I got several letters from the tooth fairy whose handwriting just happened to be identical to my dad's.

Mum always wrote the card and Dad signed it. He is meticulous in choosing cards with the specific name on the front - eg to Granddaughter and her Fiance this Christmas. My favourite was the first ever note he sent just from him - a compliments slip from his business, with a little picture and 'a note with love from Dad' written on it, stapled to a £20 note. It was the fact he had written to me at university that made us so special - the cash was nice but the note warmed my heart.

No I haven’t, my mum always writes them!

I remember the first birthday I had after my grandmother died and i opened a card written by my grandad for the first time ever and it made me cry

My dad will always give me a card for my birthday, was the first to when I graduated, moved house, got new jobs, had DD……. He bought me power tools when I was renovating my house, and a professional tile cutter when I redid the bathrooms in this house.

My mother will buy a generic card and a pot plant occasionally.