Have you ever had a birthday card written by your Dad?

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I just realised that after 48 birthdays, my Dad (still with my Mum) has never written my birthday card. I know that’s in line with the stereotypically gendered roles of those kinds of tasks but he’s a very engaged Dad in lots of other ways.

i was thinking about it as I saw a gift which was a loved one’s handwriting as embroidery and I realised I don’t have any examples from my Dad.

if your Dad is still with your Mum has he ever written your birthday card? I’m going to tell mine he needs to do it this year!

Sorry for your loss xx Mine's in his 90s too.

I have one. My dad died when i was 20 and i still have it, its very precious to me. I get DP to write in all the cards for our children

My dad writes separate cards to my mum though they're still together. He also writes actual real life letters on a semi regular basis and sends a morning text message to me and my brother every morning which starts "good morning all my lovely childlers" then tells us about his plans for the day.

However he is autistic so when something is in his routine its there forever which probably is why letters continue.

My Dad is a big card giver. He's susceptible to every occasion touted by Card Factory and will send individual cards to each member of the household at Christmas. Bo message though, just "from Dad". My husband, though, has never sent any kind of card. They're just not on his radar at all.

Never thought about this before but no, except it made me remember I recently found a letter sent to me when I was away on a school holiday or Guide camp - my mum, dad and two sisters each wrote some news. My dad wrote something like “I’ve been at work, the car is running fine, sorry I’ve run out of things to say”. Different generation 😔
Edited to say - only a couple of days ago I was thinking about my dad’s handwriting - I can picture it clearly as he annotates a lot of sheet music.

No, my dad never wrote in our birthday cards. My mum wrote everything that was from both of them - birthday cards, Christmas cards, postcards etc.

I have only ever had one card specifically from my dad in my entire life, which was when I got my degree results in 1998. He wrote ‘From the proudest Dad in the world xxx’ in it.

My mum also wrote all the gift labels for Christmas and birthdays when we were children, except one of my gifts would sometimes be specifically from my dad, usually a book he’d spotted that was obscure and related to one of my more niche interests, and he would write on the label for that.

He was an incredible dad, the absolute best I could have asked for. He died recently and I miss him very much.

Never and I realised this year that he's never actually referred to himself verbally or in writing as 'Dad'. On gift tags it's just 'To Name' with no sign off. It's made me wonder, when coupled with the fact that he's never been fatherly/parental in his actions, whether he's not just completely dissociated from the whole thing in his own mind.

I am pretty certain i've never had done from my mum. My dad hand makes cards and always has.

No ive not and your thread made me realise this. Dd has, however as atleast this year DH wrote the card out as I did the baloon bunches on a cold january night!

My very elderly dad has the most beautiful handwriting I've ever seen ... So he's always been made to do them.

Nope or Christmas card. All greetings cards are very much mum’s department.

Never 😂

He’s fantastic is a million other ways though so I’ll let him off.

No- mum does all cards. I can clearly remember the first time I got a card in my grandad’s handwriting, after grandma passed away.

DH does all the cards in our house, he’s great at writing lovely things and I’m rubbish! I will make an effort to write the kid’s cards myself this year.

Every year until he died last year. My mum hated her handwriting.
The first card that just said Love Dad, after my mum died, hurt. Now obviously there is no card at all.

Get yourself a nice pen. It makes more difference than you think! Nobody's writing looks nice in biro, but a fountain pen can make otherwise spidery writing look much more fluid.**

Yes, l always got separate birthday cards from both my parents. They were still married and lived in the same house.

Once. My mother was hospital following the birth of one of my siblings.

I did find some postcards from my Dad recently (he died 10yrs ago - way too young). We went through a phase of sending each other really boring postcards when I first left home The messages were really amusing. It was a lovely moment e-reading them. Felt like I could hear his voice again.

That is so lovely.

The roles for this can be the opposite way around too, people just pick a thing they do and stick with it often. My dad was good at saying nice things, my mum less so.

Mine always come from Dad. Mum organises buying the cards, he writes all the messages and researches meaningful quotes etc. Between the 2 of them, sending cards is their hobby!

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Some of these are so lovely and some very sad. Nice to hear about all the DFs sending lovely creative sentiments. I think my own parents have just lapsed into habit. I just need to point it out.

My Mum was always the ‘writer of cards’ (she was a teacher whereas he was a manual worker) but she died from cancer at age 51 so ever since then my Dad writes all cards for me (so birthdays and Christmas). Always in block capitals “LOVE FROM DAD”. 😂 He’s now 83 and I treasure those cards as I never know each time I receive one whether it will be the last. This Christmas he also wrote me a Christmas card from each of his cats in addition to the card from him. Obviously “LOVE FROM [CAT’S NAME]”. Bless him, he tries!

Yes on my last birthday, for the first time. My mum passed away last February and always wrote the cards.

Yes he has, not every time but regularly.

Thinking about it, I write all the DC (teens) cards- will change that; have never asked DH to.