The event is in London. We don't live a million miles away, DH often has work in town, but we've booked a hotel to make a proper outing of it. We'd both been looking forward to it.
DH is self employed. He works freelance for a dozen or so companies. Some are much better payers than others so naturally he prioritises them.
The work he does is not particularly demanding for him (he's good at it) so he doesn't work that hard. What is more challenging is keeping busy enough to make a decent living.
So one of the better jobs offered by the good company has come up on the afternoon of our trip. He can earn in a couple of hours what I earn in two days in my junior manager public sector job, plus the market is such that if he turns it down, the company might not call him next time.
The job is in London, but the compete opposite side to where we'll be.
I feel really I need to tell him to take the work. He's said he won't, but I think he should, although I'm obviously disappointed.
We could check into the hotel (early) have some lunch together and he'd go off to work leaving me to travel to the event alone. He'd come and meet me there later, probably missing the first half an hour.
I think that's OK? A friend has told me she'd be furious and wouldn't stand for it, so now I'm questioning whether I'm a pushover....