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Can anyone offer any thoughts on my counselling

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Springstarling · 15/01/2026 07:28

I've had lots of CBT in the past,that hasn't helped me ( diagnosed autistic)
Finally I am having counselling but it's causing me anxiety
To be fair everything does cause me anxiety at the moment
But generally what do people get out of counselling?
,we can't change the past
Whatever I tell the counsellor could be wrong

as two people often see situations differently,And i know for a fact my parents would of said they were good parents
.despite me being told numerous times things they did were abusive.
Last week I cancelled it and made an excuse,this week I'm wanting to do the same.
For anyone who had a difficult childhood,did counselling help you ?
Is it literally that the counsellor listens ?
Because she says nothing when I tell her awful things ,so it leaves me feeling uncomfortable
I thought counsellors would offer their thoughts, encourage me to come to terms with the situation and enable me to move on.
In all honesty I've found chat gtp more helpful,as it gives me suggestions and ways to move forward
I'm not sure if I'm being deliberately difficult,or the counsellor who is a trainee is not in her stride,or counselling literally is just listening.
But I'm getting very overwhelmed having to discuss my past ,I don't feel it's helping me ,I feel keep bring up abuse is keeping the situation alive in my head ,where forgetting it and not thinking about it is more likely to help me move on with my life

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Springstarling · 15/01/2026 10:47

therapist78 · 15/01/2026 10:40

You don’t have to talk about your childhood. Maybe you could tell the therapist you don’t want to. Work on processing what happened to you can be done without you telling the therapist anything that happened.
I would guess that this process has gone too quickly for you, and your feelings of not wanting to go are a reaction to that. To be able to process trauma, you need to feel safe, and it sounds as though you don’t. You could walk away and try someone else, or you could see what happens if you share what is happening for you in this process.
Good luck OP.

Thankyou
It's tomorrow
I'm not decided what to do .
So actually,it's to late to cancel now
Maybe it is going to fast ..that would explain a lot x

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Anewrecipe · 15/01/2026 13:43

You have endured this 3 decades @Springstarling

I know you say you have tried ADs but then go on to say that never for longer than 10 days.

It is tough, but the side effects generally pass in a few weeks with setraline for example. It is very very common to feel very rough for a good few weeks but… then the cloud lifts.

Springstarling · 15/01/2026 15:15

Anewrecipe · 15/01/2026 13:43

You have endured this 3 decades @Springstarling

I know you say you have tried ADs but then go on to say that never for longer than 10 days.

It is tough, but the side effects generally pass in a few weeks with setraline for example. It is very very common to feel very rough for a good few weeks but… then the cloud lifts.

I hear what you are saying
All the years of being put on every anti depressants possible,was when the doctors were assuming it was depression.
No one realised I had autism
I was only diagnosed autistic 2 years ago ,and current doctor says I'm not depressed and what I am ,and have been struggling with my whole life was autism,not depression.and as my doctor points out ,you can't mediate autism

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Springstarling · 16/01/2026 03:33

After giving it a lot of thought
I decided to take a break from counselling
I said I'm not in the right place mentally at the moment for it to be successful and I hope to get back to them at a later date when I am in a better place.
I just needed some breathing space to work out if it's right for me
So thankyou to everyone who helped me and commented on this thread
Much appreciated

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Sillygrudge · 16/01/2026 14:03

Are you able to work @Springstarling do you have family that can support you?

Springstarling · 22/01/2026 00:02

No I'm not working and yes have a DH family wise

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Springstarling · 22/01/2026 00:04

Just came back to say ,I have discovered onsen ,an app
Another Mumsneter recommended it to me
Hugely helpful for my mental health

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