Adam Ramsay Peaty

[Mrsnothingthanks]

And why not? Why is it still seen as so "out there" that a man should double-barrel upon marriage? Nobody would pass one comment if his wife had changed her name to Holly Peaty.
My husband and I both db'd upon marriage. Titles remain unchanged.
It's 2025 ffs!! Stop with the misogyny!

Anyone else thinking this is going to be a very short marriage?!

Yes!

Presumably for the sake of maintaining good relations, his current active role in their son’s life & relationship dynamics - she felt unable to enforce this (or even unaware of her legal rights on it). I’m all for women retaining their names & couples doing what works for them. It’s just in the light of all the public mud throwing about his family problems, so quickly publicly announcing his name to incorporate her side of the family, when his wife has not yet announced her own, seems questionable & difficult to separate from the tit for tat & allegiances & side taking going on, that we’re unfortunately hearing about.
Also it is to be reminded that his Ex & child’s mother has nothing bad to say about his new wife Holly & has nothing but praise for how she is with her son & role as step-parent.

But it is relevant. Even if I had taken my mum's surname, it was still given to her by her dad - in her case she loved her dad very much, so she wouldn't mind, but why was her mum ignored in the whole thing? In fact, until recently mums' names weren't even on wedding certificates!

My mum gave me her first name as my second name, so she did make a point when I was born and that was her name, not her dad' surname that was bestowed on her by dint of him being male.

But my son has no name link to me or my family at all. That only occurred to me recently but in hindsight I would have changed that.

The simple truth is this...Adam's ex-partner CHOSE to give their son his father's surname. More fool her tbh but it was her choice.

Your mother’s name is her name. It is irrelevant that it also held by her father.

It’s all a bit meh though - there’s no way they’ve changed their passports this fast aka 2 business days, so legally their names are still as they were born

If it wasn’t so obviously a dig at his family, I mightn’t have been bothered. But it is, and it’s so cringey as well as cruel, I’m judging him for it.

Well it doesn’t sound that simple - as he refused to include both their names & presumably in a bid to maintaining his involvement in their son’s life etc & their own relationship dynamics - she did not, or felt she could not assert he share both their names. Surely it wouldn’t even be mentioned in the press & him being called hypocritical if it was easy for her to?

@MauriceTheMussel I still travel on a passport in my old name - that is entirely legal.

@Otterdrunk She had the right to chose as all birth mothers do.

Not disputing that.

No, my point is: to change your name, you need to complete paperwork to evidence it - whether that be to change your name in your passport showing your marriage certificate, deed poll paperwork etc.

There is no government office that would have processed their name change paperwork in the sub two business days since they got married.

He's a man that has double barrelled his name which isn't typical and also has a ongoing dispute with family. Of course it's going to be mentioned in the press because they often have double standards.

@MauriceTheMussel But they can still travel on passports that do not have their now legal name on them. I changed my last name legally before I married so plenty of time. Deed poll is not required.

@SouthLondonMum22 Totally agree! My niece married this summer and changed her last name to her husband's. Although it is something I would personally not do, I know categorically nobody would believe that is has anything to do with her falling out with her family. Total double standards!!

I think we’re missing each other here.

It’s not about travel or passports per se. They can’t have legally changed their names full stop. Sure, they can style themselves whatever they like on Twitter, but it’s not their legal name yet.

@MauriceTheMussel Unless they both legally changed it in advance of course.

Nah, I think the press would have uncovered that by now if so

From general knowledge and just now a quick Google, you can only change your name in this country via deed poll, marriage/divorce, so either way, the paperwork would likely be public/filed with an open body.

I don’t disagree. My point was in reply to another poster who was saying that his ex, the mother of his child, was fully able & within her legal rights, to have given him her & his names, as a double-barrelled surname on the birth certificate. My point is that she clearly felt unable to because he objected to it. Hence her saying it was hypocritical of him. I don’t dispute why or how the press are going to pick up on that. And my earlier posts maintain Peaty so quickly publicly changing his name on SM, in light of his family troubles, when his wife hasn’t yet, looks like he’s desperate to be a Ramsay & to dig at his own family in the process. His ex rightly is saying he wouldn’t allow their own child to carry bot their names, so pot & kettle.

Yes I thought feminism gave us the right to choose. Not dictated what we shouldn’t do. I changed my name when I got married. My surname was foreign, even though I’m not, and people would spell it incorrectly or say it incorrectly so I was glad to get one that I didn’t have to keep repeating and spelling. DH did ask me if I was going to double barrel it as he said he would too, if that’s what I wanted to do. But it was my choice. I’d not have been happy if he dictated I shouldn’t change it in the name of feminism!

@pinkpony88 I don't believe feminism is about the right to always "choose" tbh, especially when it further continues to support the patriarchy.
Example: "I am a feminist so choose to give up work permanently once I have a baby whilst my husband works his arse off to support his entire family until he retires." Not feminism IMO.

@Otterdrunk But is utter rubbish that Adam didn't "allow" his ex-partner to do anything re the naming of their baby. That was never his choice to make. She may have bowed down to him, but she wasn’t forced.

Is Holly adding his name a dig at her family?

She could have. He had no ability to fill in the birth certificate, it was all her (legal) decision. If he was abusing her so she felt she couldn’t, that is different.