Adam Ramsay Peaty

[Mrsnothingthanks]

And why not? Why is it still seen as so "out there" that a man should double-barrel upon marriage? Nobody would pass one comment if his wife had changed her name to Holly Peaty.
My husband and I both db'd upon marriage. Titles remain unchanged.
It's 2025 ffs!! Stop with the misogyny!

If you didn’t change your name presumably you kept your dad’s family surname? Way to sock it to the patriarchy.

We are also double barrelled without a hyphen. I got married 18 years ago and we have two kids one of whom is a teenager so it’s not a new fangled thing. Professionally as academics we are listed on our Department webpages as Dr/Professor (I am the full professor not him!) Mysurname HisSurname. We tried it both ways and this way was easier to say. My surname is very difficult to pronounce and his is fairly straightforward.

Which is just as much her name as it is her dad's name.

Down which gender line has that name passed historically?

Usually male, everyone knows that.

Doesn't make it any less a woman's name though. Once you have that name, it is yours.

I'm proud to have my name. Where it came from is irrelevant because it is my name and I wasn't ever going to erase it.

I don’t know who either of these people are.
It’s fine though. Can’t understand why it would bother anyone.

@SouthLondonMum22 Absolutely this. The fact that some women still genuinely believe a woman's last name she was born with isn't hers simply reinforces why I also didn't erase it. It is mine in just the same way as my brother's is - always has been and always will be.

You think it’s irrelevant clearly, others would disagree. Many surnames give the game away… Patronyms like Johnson, Anderson, Ferguson, Benson, Davies, McDonald, MacCormac, Fitzwilliam: male name surnames like Henry, Arthur, Charles, Norman, Stanley, Howard, George, Neil, Alexander, Adams, Edwards, Andrews, Peters, Johns, Matthews, Jacobs, Williams; male occupation names like Smith, Miller, Chandler, Taylor, Mason, Baker (vs Baxter), Brewer (vs Brewster) etc.

As does the word surname itself - meaning sire name…

@Aluna Doesn't make it any less a last name for a woman though, obviously.

It’s not that women still think this - women never used to think about it at all, such were patriarchal customs taken for granted. But contemporary feminist perspective highlights that the traditional surname system is rooted in patriarchal history.

Really? Kate Son of John, Claire son of Donald… yes these are really female names..

At least Icelandic has Olafsdottir - daughter of Olaf, and Irish has Ni Neill - daughter of Neill..

I double barrelled- mine and then my husband’s and he has done the same. Also means we all share the same first part of our surname and so initials with my eldest as she is double barrelled with her dad (we were not married so did on my mum’s advice!)

@Aluna My last name has been my last name since birth and it will be the name I die with - its origins are irrelevant.

Irrelevant to you

No one is disagreeing that the traditional surname system is rooted in patriarchal history. Of course it is.

Some simply believe that keeping your last name despite where it probably came from is the better option rather than erasing it for a man. It's my name, my reputation within my industry etc and I wasn't giving it up for a name that doesn't belong to me.

I’ve never considered these origins even though it’s so obvious! Helpful insight.

@Aluna Not sure of your point tbh? Did you change your name upon marriage?

You said earlier you’d changed your name?

@MauriceTheMussel No - I added on. As did my husband. Our daughter is also dbd. Professionally I am still just my name.