Sooo…the afternoon of Christmas Eve and dh still hasn’t sorted his parents a Christmas gift.

[Dontyoulooktired]

I’ll start by saying that he rarely does and I don’t do it for him. It’s not my job to sort out presents for his family.

But something really awful happened to me this year and PIL were really good. They helped so much.

i have asked him, he keeps saying, “I’ll do it.” When, dh, when?

I think I am going to have to step in this year. They have gone above and beyond for us, the least I can do is book them a voucher for a nice afternoon tea somewhere. They are coming over to spend the day with us tomorrow, it would be pretty shitty to hand them nothing (it’s a joint account btw, and I am a SAHM, so it’s not like I’d be using “my” money to get them a gift, it’s just the point that he should probably want to get them something, especially after all the help they have been this year).

Absolute twat.

Your poor PIL. Do you sign your kids presents just from you if he isn’t the one to order them? Anyway its done now if its a true post and I wish you all the best for xmas and new year.

Your poor PIL. Do you sign your kids presents just from you if he isn’t the one to order them? Anyway its done now if its a true post and I wish you all the best for xmas and new year.

That sounds perfect , the people who deserved the gift loved it, the person buying the gift made sure they knew who bought it. The idle grinch shown up for what he is. Happy Christmas @Dontyoulooktired

Good for you, OP! Perfect result.

Not everyone is an enabler for male laziness.

Good for you, OP!

What a disappointment your DH is. Such an ungrateful waste of space.

Surely the kids presents are signed from just the kids otherwise it's a family gift. I have never added my name to their gifts, it would be too weird. Is that what you do?

No I mean that if OP bought the presents for the kids and DH didn’t order them or go with her did she sign them just from herself?

We don’t put tags on the children’s presents. There is usually just is here so no need to. We don’t have a big family or friends who buy them gifts. It’s pretty obvious they are from me and dh. So need for any tags.

This is an entirely different situation.

He repeatedly said he was going to sort out a gift. I would have done it if said he wasn’t. They deserved a gift after putting us first all year. He didn’t, so I did.

PIL are happy, dh didn’t cry about it. No one is upset. There’s no drama.

No drama just an inconsiderate selfish man who couldn't be bothered to show appreciation to his parents after how much they helped out recently by buying them a gift.

😊of course not. They probably didn’t even notice
we’re all different but I wouldn’t do this, especially if I actually like my PIL and think of them as family ( which I personally do) I kind of wouldn’t want to say…’ see your son doesn’t care enough to buy you a present ‘ ( but if you have joint accounts I suppose it’s more ‘he was happy to pay towards it but couldn’t be bothered getting it ’ ) Anyway as you say, no drama . Hope you had a lovely time and best wishes for 2026.

Maybe he doesn’t like them, or he and his family aren’t present givers

Both of those theories are immediately debunked by simply reading all of OP’s posts. 🤷🏻‍♀️

There isn’t any great mystery here. He’s just another lazy selfish bloke who “can’t do presents”. They’re two a penny, unfortunately, and usually facilitated in their slovenliness by women who fill in the gaps. Brava to OP for finding a way to be decent to her PIL without covering for him.

They absolutely do know he's an arsehole. We have one like this in our wider family. His partner no longer bothers to cover for him as she knows we all know what he's like.

Since DH and I have been together I've held firm on the your family your responsibility to remember, you forget you deal with that. I wouldn't expect him to sort my families gifts do why should the reverse be expected. We both work I actually do more hours and am doing a degree on top, I organise all meals and do the food shop, etc. So he can't claim he's got to much to think about. 😆 20 years we've been together and I don't think he's ever forgotten.

Out of curiosity, why comment on this four months later?

Its actually gone onto wrong thread this was meant for another thread. No idea how its ended up here.

The thread it should be on was about buying gifts and cardsfor inlaws. No idea how thats happened 🤔

How bizarre. I did wonder so thank you for clarifying