Snoring on hospital ward. Losing.my.mind.

[Travellingatthespeedoflight]

A moan. I had a baby today (!) and thanks to a some beast snoring at a ridiculous volume in our bay in the postnatal ward, no sleep is happening. I also happen to be in the bay next to the sink, where the light is brighter than the sun.

Send help! I am here until Friday at least.

Congratulations! Hope you’re recovering ok. I really believe that hell is a postnatal ward. There is nothing worse. You’ll be home soon and you can recover properly.

Oh bless you. I didn't mind the babies crying or the gentle chatter but there was always a man snoring on a chair or a woman groan-snoring. I sympathise, it's so rubbish! I wonder if anyone else is awake around you 🤔

Congratulations, what a beautiful blessing. May your sleep come quickly, your recovery smoothly and may your sweet baby be a good sleeper 😉

Rest even if you can't sleep, close your eyes, relax your body x

It’s fucking awful in those places. I had a family visiting some woman, there were millions of them and all spoke at once at a million decibels at all times and seems to be allowed to visit any time of day or night. When their toddlers were playing hide and seek under my bed I lost my shit and yelled that I hadn’t slept for 4 nights, had stiches from arse to who knows where and I have to be up in a minute to feed a baby / so could they shut up and preferably fuck off because some of us were having a hard time? It worked.

try that with your snorer?

and get ear plugs, the wax ones. You’ll hear your baby, but it’ll drown out the snorer.

The man opposite (clearly enduring this hell too) keeps loudly shushing the snorer….

I have decided to make a towel eyemask to drown out the light and see if that helps.

You’re right, this too shall pass and in a couple of days I will be home. I don’t mind the baby noises at all, just the incessantly loud snoring man.

thank you for the kind wishes. After a difficult pregnancy and complicated section, I feel very lucky to have a healthy dd.

Congratulations. Ask for an eye mask and ear plugs (I spend long periods in hospital so a decent set of noise cancelling headphones and a weighted eye mask are essentials). Every ward I've ever been on have a stock of them. It'll help. You'll still hear if baby cries.

yhe snorer is a man?

Fuck that. Buzz the midwives. Get him to go home and snore there. That’s not on.

It’s not a man!

Definitely a man. Every time someone loudly shushes, his partner whispers to him to shh.

How many men are on your postnatal ward? I don’t approve, women need rest and not managing their partners snoring or laughing to some loud randomer.

Gove me the buzzer, I’ll get the midwives. What a nonsense. You need rest, this is not ok.

He needs to be told to go home, that's selfish of him. He's no use to his partner either and his snoring annoying others is probably stressing her too.

listrning to, not laughing at.

it is not funny at all. There is no respect for the rest of women who have had a baby.

im cross on your behalf.

As someone in hospital post surgery I hear you but all mine are old women. We have two snorers, the moaner and the sleep talker. I will be in a while so no prospect of going home to catch up.
Can't forget yesterday's casual racism, body shaming and judgement of other people in general by her and her guests to really add to the vibe. I almost screamed when one insisted on a nurse sort a locker out when they were mid bringing me pain relief and they actually stopped and did it as they couldn't stand the constant whining. Congratulations on the baby, I hope you get home soon. I also think men should be banned at night. I was on my own after a c section and the same man kept snoring and when he was awake, looking through my curtains when I was learning to breast feed.

I’m sorry but if it’s a man the midwife’s and nurses need to send him home. It’s disgusting than he’s been allowed to stay and selfish. My partner snores like a bear and I’ve already told him unless I get a private room he won’t be staying as I won’t be able to sleep and I won’t have him annoy other people.

In a bay of 4 beds, and each person (including me) has a partner staying. All 4 women in this bay have had c sections today and need to recover.

I’ve just complained to DH about the foghorn snoring but he’s told me to relax. I’m going to buzz the midwives and ask for earplugs/ let them hear the noise….

There’s men on the postnatal ward overnight? Where I am that’s not allowed. Awful if it’s a man snoring and keeping everyone awake. I’d ring the buzzer and ask the nurse to do something about it.

I'm so fucking angry on your behalf!!!! Your DH needs to get up and throw something loud on the floor or sth to wake him up.

Yeah no partners were allowed overnight in my hospital either. Which was hard in a different way.

So the man who has not had a baby is ruining the rest of women who have? And there are 3 other men letting him slumber instead of looking after their partners?

what the fuck are men doing there at all then? Be useful or fuck off, dude.

im not even sorry for the swearing. They care more about the bloke than the women, bro code rules

Where I am, no woman, no matter her financial status is expected to share a recovery room with strangers after having a baby. Her partner is considered a vital part of the process and there is a designated space for him to sleep in her room.

The problem isn’t the man there to advocate for the mother of his child recovering from abdominal surgery and his newborn. Neither should be left to fend for themselves in a complex bureaucratic system.

Keep buzzing and keep complaining - he needs to leave if he's causing such a disturbance.

Fuck that, what a selfish prick. Buzzzzzz! Buzzzz! Get him out of there.

I'm that snorer. I can't help it.

I try to stay awake for hours on a hospital ward because I know it disturbs others. There's not a damned thing I can do to stop it.

I do feel for you, OP. I swear if there were any way to not snore like a foghorn I would do it in a heartbeat.

Congratulations on the baby.
Ask the midwife / nurse / husband / whomever is ambulatory and able to do this for you that you need earplugs and and and eye mask. These things are extremely inexpensive and extremely easy to get but possibly not in the hospital setting although they should be, there should be some available at the gift shop if not at the nurses station. Having difficulty sleeping because of noises and lights in a hospital setting is not exactly a unique problem. In fact I would be astounded if they didn't have this extremely easy solution ready to go.

Sorry, you never said anything about anything but I'm already annoyed at your husband. You've just had a baby, you find the noise and the light in this communal setting to be intolerable to you and he told you to "relax?"
How about he says instead, "give me 10 minutes and I'll go out and get you some earplugs dear"... Jesus! Does he have to be told what to do for everything? Not trying to be mean, I just feel angry on your behalf.

I do agree your husband needs to respond differently. If he didn’t bring earplugs and a face mask in his arsenal of care items he needs to go search for them now. Even if the gift shop is closed, there may be some at a nurses station or in a vending machine.

It’s a visiting man snoring though, not a patient in the ward. A patient snoring is annoying but not mucyouvcan do about it. A visitor snoring and keeping everyone awake should leave.