Snoring on hospital ward. Losing.my.mind.

[Travellingatthespeedoflight]

A moan. I had a baby today (!) and thanks to a some beast snoring at a ridiculous volume in our bay in the postnatal ward, no sleep is happening. I also happen to be in the bay next to the sink, where the light is brighter than the sun.

Send help! I am here until Friday at least.

But your husband is a snorer? I wonder why all these miracle cures haven't stopped that...?

<sighs>

Some things can help. You said nothing helps. By losing weight, stopping smoking, limiting booze, side sleeping, using aids one can greatly reduce the decibels.

It can be the difference between blaring like a foghorn all night or the more tolerable odd snore.

Anyway, to get back to the op no visitor should ever sleep in a ward if they disturb others. Surely you agree with that?!

Ah. Some snoring is acceptable as long as you approve of their choices. I see.

What's your issue here? The snoring? Or that he's a man?

I so feel for you!
when I had my baby in April, I had no sleep with contractions through the night and all I wished for once I was in postnatal ward at 8pm is sleep. Yet the loud snoring from fathers I assume and the never-ending chatting on the phone of some woman through the night made that impossible! Thank god I only stayed there one night, couldn’t wait to go home!
I wish I had said something at the time about the lady talking on the phone (she was in fact told off by a midwife at 2am but it made no difference, just don’t see how some people can be so inconsiderate!)
Snoring I suppose is trickier to deal with but it might be still worth to a midwife or a member of staff and see what can be done as you need your rest following childbirth! Congratulations on your baby!

Snoring is a nightmare for anyone sleeping with said snorer but aids and methods can lessen the disruption as I think I might have mentioned.

My issue is he is a visitor disturbing the sleep of patients. He needs to go home.

I’ve escaped! Fingers crossed for a better night at home :).

No issues with partners staying, but I do have issue with visitors (partners) disrupting the recovery of new mums.

You’ll feel so much better at home . I wish they had taken better care of you.

sit and look at your baby. I can tell that’s a lovely one. Congrats

My issue is he is a visitor disturbing the sleep of patients. He needs to go home.

So it's because he's a man on the ward, then? Patients snoring is fine? If it were two patients, one was snoring and the other not, who do you think 'deserves' to sleep?

aids and methods can lessen the disruption as I think I might have mentioned

You did mention it, yeah. It was sort of irrelevant then and it's sort of irrelevant now. You listed a whole bunch of things that might work for some people. Earplugs and white noise can also lessen the problem. But you do understand that people don't have to change their entire (pregnant/postpartum) body or train themselves to (possibly uncomfortably) side sleep for a hospital stay?

'So it's because he's a man on the ward, then? Patients snoring is fine? '

It is because he is a visitor hun as has been pointed out repeatedly. Patient's snoring is not fine no but sadly unavoidable. Visitor's snoring is however avoidable.

Honestly, stop derailing this thread because you’re defensive over your storing! We get it! Clearly the issue is a non-patient being there and snoring.

That's not the issue. It has become about it being a male visitor on a postpartum ward, but that wasn't the point of the thread, if you read it.

Also, this conversation was always about the misinformation and entitlement that snoring can be controlled all the time - so it's entirely on point.

Honestly, stop derailing this thread because you’re defensive over your storing! We get it! Clearly the issue is a non-patient being there and snoring.

That's not the issue.

It is THE issue, read OPs FIRST post again, about the beast snoring opposite (who it turns out is a male visitor), the exact point of her thread is she can't sleep because a male visitor is snoring his head off and has to be loudly shushed by other people!! Oh and he's upsetting people by using the women's only toilet!

But you do understand that people don't have to change their entire (pregnant/postpartum) body or train themselves to (possibly uncomfortably) side sleep for a hospital stay?

the man isn't pregnant or postpartum, HE IS A VISITOR!!! You are projecting your own defensiveness of your own snoring, on a situation that is entirely irrelevant to you, you couldn't help your snoring and you HAD to be there, I can't see anyone complaining about that?

Complaining about a VISITOR disturbing others people's sleep when he doesn't even need to be there is thoroughly justified. He should have done the decent thing and gone and got some shut eye somewhere else.. he's not helping his missus while he's asleep is he, the opposite in fact, and he is preventing other people (including the recovering mums) from sleeping so what is the point of him even being there during those times??

Your situation is so far removed from his I'm not sure why you are comparing the two scenarios and taking it so personally.

The original post wasn't talking about a man, they were deriding the snoring. That's literally in the OP. Plus, as mentioned, my comments that you feel is derailing is in reply to another poster. Are you incapable of following more than one point at a time?

you couldn't help your snoring and you HAD to be there, I can't see anyone complaining about that?

Then read more carefully

Congratulations!

Now that I think about it, I was in a post-labour ward with a loud snorer too. I had forgotten that until now. God it’s so annoying.

Fingers crossed you are discharged tomorrow then. That can take a good few hours to do so definitely get going as soon as you can.

Take care x

Which hospital is this?

I gave birth not that long ago and also no men allowed after 8pm, I was very lucky in the fact the ward was relatively quiet so dh could stay until.10pm but that was the latest!

I also had a c section and was fine without DH, I wouldn't want men i didnt know sat there whilst attempting to waddle past them in a great amount of pain / also breastfeeding baby throughout the night.

A big no no!!!!

It’s a man snoring - in a post natal ward ? I’d mention it to a nurse and ask if he can be told to go home or go to the day room - that's really not fair

I never said you were derailing, that was a previous poster that I quoted, because you replied to them saying it wasn't the issue, when it clearly is, I'm following your points perfectly clearly. from OP:

I had a baby today (!) and thanks to a some beast snoring at a ridiculous volume in our bay in the postnatal ward, no sleep is happening.

The man opposite (clearly enduring this hell too) keeps loudly shushing the snorer….

Definitely a man. Every time someone loudly shushes, his partner whispers to him to shh.

Bottom line, if you have to be there and you snore there isn't much you can do about it at the time it is happening, yes it is annoying to others, but most people on this thread are up in arms because he doesn't need to be there at all, he is a visitor, not a patient!

The woman next to me cried loudly all night the first night we were on the ward and had a full on breakdown around 4am, I had nothing but sympathy for her, she was obviously in pain, and although she was being seen to, she couldn't help it.. if that was a visitor with her crying and wailing all night I would have been furious with them for keeping everyone awake..

There was people snoring, but to be honest you'd have never have heard it over the cacophony of mums and babies crying and me chucking my guts up all the first night after reacting badly to morphine.. some things just can't be helped and are accepted as par for the course. Visitors do not fall into that bracket.

Ask for earplugs and an eye mask,I was surprised too when I found out hospitals provide them.

Congrats on escaping! I hope you got some more sleep last night and good rest in the coming days x

If you're going to join in a thread try and keep up with what's being talked about, not just the exact word you've typed.

The last two sentences you've quoted were not from the original post. And many previous posters have mentioned and derided other mums and patients they had to 'endure' while on the postpartum ward. So, yes, many people have run with the fact that this time it turned out subsequently to be a male visitor, but's sort of by the by - there have been many posts about how awful it is to have to share with other patients snoring and why don't they do anything about it.

If you're going to join in a thread try and keep up with what's being talked about, not just the exact word you've typed.

I'm sure you could be more condescending if you tried.. lol! It's not up to you what people talk about, it's an open forum., you're the one insisting this isn't about a male visitor when it quite clearly is.

But so what if people are complaining about snoring in general too (rather than it being a male visitor)? Are people not allowed to complain about having disturbed sleep?

I specifically mentioned there were things outside of people's control and you have to accept that as part of a ward of people, women crying, babies crying, patients snoring, patients talking or getting distressed, doctors and nurses coming round every 5 minutes.. it doesn't mean you can't privately complain about any of it!?

Why do you think you have any right to tell people what they should THINK?

'So, yes, many people have run with the fact that this time it turned out subsequently to be a male visitor, but's sort of by the by - there have been many posts about how awful it is to have to share with other patients snoring and why don't they do anything about it.'

Yes everything you've said is correct. This time it was a visitor who should not have stayed if they had a chronic snoring issue, it is also awful to share a room with snorers particularly when in hospital and desperate for sleep and many snorers do not do anything to try to help. I'm not quite sure what your problem is here? Has a partner giving you a hard time in the past or something? Chinstraps reduce the decibels, worth a try.

I don't. You've misunderstood the whole conversation. None of what you've written has any relevance to what I was saying.

You can complain about anything you like. It seems that you do.