Snoring on hospital ward. Losing.my.mind.

[Travellingatthespeedoflight]

A moan. I had a baby today (!) and thanks to a some beast snoring at a ridiculous volume in our bay in the postnatal ward, no sleep is happening. I also happen to be in the bay next to the sink, where the light is brighter than the sun.

Send help! I am here until Friday at least.

I take it you don't live in the UK? The men are allowed so they can help esp if c section and so less for midwives/ health care assistants to have to help with. The fact they sleep/ snore through the night is not something they are bothered about as they can dissappear as they 'have support '.

This is why men shouldn't be on post natal wards. Its bad enough having to share with other women and babies so adding loud snoring men too is ridiculous

If my DH told me to “relax” in this situation…. He would be in A&E not the maternity ward.

That’s what nursing staff are supposed to be there for.

Congratulations!
I was the snorer on the ward with my third (that was the only one I had to stay in for). Pregnancy makes me snore like an absolute animal and it doesn’t stop until a week or so after giving birth.
I felt absolutely awful and tried so hard to stay awake all night so I wouldn’t wake all the other mums up.
Hopefully you’ll be out soon xx

I would love that, but private rooms are £1050 a night (!) and sadly that’s out of budget. One more night hopefully :)

I'm really shocked that partners are sleeping overnight on the ward, how is that supposed to help mothers to be comfortable and to get some sleep themselves?

No overnight visitors when I had me now late teen DCs, but some of the daytime ones were grim.

I wet the bed and then dripped blood on the floor on my way to the toilet on my first night.

In a room of women who'd just given birth there was nothing but understanding (except from nursing staff to be honest) but the presence of random men would not have improved the situation.

They would beg to differ and say they are there for medication only and the women have to 'get used to it'. If the men are there they don't have to help when it's obvious a woman can't sit up etc. They don't care that they're not helping or inhibiting the recovery of others. If she complains they can say, 'partner was there'.

Ask to go home today if baby is fine - 24 hour discharge is standard in our nhs trust and honestly, you and baby will sleep like a dream tonight!

I’m glad he’s stopped (or paused at the very least!). I think with staff shortages as they are that it is good that a birthing partner can stay overnight, I was very grateful of this. But it has to be with the mindset that they were there to help the mother and that’s it. It isn’t a hospital stay for them and they really need to respect the space. It sounds like this man hasn’t been capable of that thought process!

I was moved to the delivery room where my DP stayed with me until I was moved to the maternity ward (it was in the middle of the night). They’re not going to make a woman give birth or have a c section on the maternity ward!!

Men shouldn’t be on the maternity ward during the night. This was the policy at the hospital I gave birth at.

It's abhorrent enough that in this country you're expected to share a room with multiple strangers and their babies at probably your most vulnerable time. But to add strange men into the mix? Absolutely not, I cannot fathom why this is permitted, they need to be sent home now! Men have no place on the ward overnight. Nobody is vetting these men who are just permitted with no questions to be on the ward where sleeping women are present.

This could be the best option.
Really make the point that after so many night of not sleeping, your mental health is starting to decline.

About men staying overnight…it’s funny how all assume that this is a male privilege and they are there for their own benefit and should just be told that they sadly have to leave. My DH would have loved to go home for some good sleep rather than spending all night in a chair in a room with several others and crying babies, but he knew that I’d have divorced him had he let me carry for our baby on my own after a c section.

i had a woman on TikTok a full volume all night, solution was a rain track and eye mask I managed to sleep with that

Congratulations on your baby!
I had the same experience when I had my first and this was woman was snoring so fucking loudly she couldn’t hear her own baby crying. I had to keep dinging the midwife to wake her up so she could feed the baby. Nightmare. Had a private room after my second and it was bliss.

Get the man out of there!

I feel that a woman's mum/sister/female friend should be permitted if having someone to advocate for the woman is essential but absolutely no men allowed. If this isn't possible, then unfortunately nursing staff should readily be able to assist new mothers.

This.

Odd enough to have to sleep with random strange men in the same room.

But the staff should definitely tell the male snorer he needs to either stay awake ( he won‘t), or leave. Ridiculous that women who have just given birth have to put up with this.

What shocked me after DS was born was men collecting food trays to take to their partners. I kept seeing them taking food off other women's plates/trays and adding it to their own, for themselves. So the women who came a bit later only got half fed.

Men shouldn’t be allowed to stay overnight on open wards, with maternity patients. It’s bad enough sharing with women.
unsafe and no privacy

You have my sympathy. I experienced the same the night after I gave birth - a woman in the opposite bay snoring like a chainsaw. I was 'saved' by my baby having jaundice and needing to move to a single room.

Frankly, I would be raging if it was a partner snoring. Why the F is that allowed on a postnatal ward?

I remember this. I was 11 days overdue, I had a 5 day antenatal botched induction consultant strike nightmare before eight hours of agonising labour where I never got beyond 3 cm and baby was distressed, then emergency section at 3am 😆 then the post natal ward was so noisy, kids during the day running into my curtained area and peeking under, and as you say, the snoring so loud at night I pushed to leave the next day, could not stay another night.

We had forgotten to ask about an amenity room, and looking back I'd have happily paid £100 a day to get a bit of sleep, don't think I slept for two days straight after having my son and have few memories of those first days at home 😅 has your hospital got amenity rooms?

Aaaaand this is why you shouldn’t have partners sleeping overnight on maternity wards

really dont get it - I had twins in lockdown crash c section no husband allowed on ward - 1 hour visiting - it was bliss

Congratulations op! 🎉
Hospital wards are horrendous! Can you ask your partner to bring you in an eye mask and some ear plugs?