Guest says I starved her <shock>

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Had a relative to stay for a few days, she just wanted to eat all time which we did not expect. I had cooked and baked which she ate (way more than us) then she said she wanted to get up in the night as she was so hungry!

Snack v meal debate 🤣🤣

Porridge is a perfectly normal breakfast thus a meal. If you made yourself a small bowl mid afternoon it may also be termed a snack.

Other items one might eat as part of a larger meal may on their own be seen as a snack. So a meal could comprise snacks put together.

Mumsnet really can be hard work.

OP I think it seems fine, she seems to expect a hotel-style spread. I’d be suggesting she brings some nice juicy steaks and a joint of meat with her.

Could there be a medical issue? Hyperthyroidism? I was eating two dinners with Graves Disease

Porridge is a snack, so are scones

I often have a full English for breakfast and a snack for lunch and a large salad for lunch.

How many calories do you think that day was? I reckon under the 2,000 we need

Did she buy any food for herself or contribute, if she's so bloody hungry in the middle of the night I'd tell her to buy her own snacks and keep them in a box by her bed, did she treat you to a meal out or a takeaway.

Well quite, surely if she was hungry it would have been better form to offer to treat the OP at the chippy….

@elviswhorley

whether they are labelled as a meal or a snack is irrelevant, both porridge and scones provide plenty of calories.
most women unless extremely active do not need 2000 calories a day.

You don’t need 2000 every day though, even if that number is correct for you personally. It’s 2000 on average so most people eat more some days than others.

That is an absolute truckload of food - it looks like six meals a day. What more could she want? She must have been taking the piss surely?

Plenty of mega meal takeaway offers are available

Porridge isn’t a snack but o know we have a chronic obesity problem in this country and I guess that’s why

You hear people on here saying that beans on toast is a snack! Crazy

I think you had a greedy pig staying - or is she on some meds that made her ravenous. You provided more than enough. Ignore the "perfect hosts"

I have a friend I used to stay with , she has a very low appetite, will frequently skip meals, so I make sure I have things with me, eat stuff when I was out.

To me, that’s a lot of calories/carbs and I would put a lot of weight on.

Exactly

What you provided is about a normal day for me - but I am overweight and greedy and would certainly not complain about your hosting. That’s on me for eating too much.

people are so different in their eating habits - some little and often, some just a couple of meals a day. And some eat loads! I think it’s hard to get exactly right unless you know someone’s habits well. It sounds like you were generous.

Well how would the OP know?

And if there is, it's still up to her cousin to provide herself with extra food after the more than generous meals and snacks the OP has provided.

Thanks, I am a generous person, maybe just not generous enough for everyone <shrug>

porridge and scone are whatever you want them to be, and a snack if what you want too, or a full meal!

People can have porridge for diner, or a scone for lunch - because they fancy one, and might as well eat something you want.

The less obsessed you are with calories and food, the healthier and slimmer you are.

Who cares what you have and when, as long as it's within a healthy and reasonable diet? Can't imagine wanting any food anytime soon after porridge, unless you have half a spoon.

porridge and scone are whatever you want them to be, and a snack if what you want too, or a full meal!

What size of scone are you thinking about that it can be a full meal?

Depends on what she was given to eat. When I have guests I probably go overboard with cooked breakfasts, lunch and a big dinner as well as snacks and desserts but it also depends on how long they are visiting for. I wouldn’t be able to keep that up or afford it for weeks on end but a weekend is fine. I wouldn’t give them cereal and soup as it’s not really filling enough.
if I went to stay somewhere I would just suck it up and be starving I certainly wouldn’t say they are starving me as I am not staying at an all inclusive restaurant, I would be grateful for the hospitality, but if probably buy snacks to eat myself in my room at night.

If your portions aren't mouse suzed I suggest she was joking about you starving her as your provision sounds good and a lot of food.

Porridge is a great breakfast. Obviously, whether it's a meal or a snack depends on the portion. And it's not just carbs. There is a weird tendency on here recently to suggest that wholegrain foods are just empty carbs. I suppose it's a side-effect of all the aggressive protein marketing we're seeing right now.

If you make porridge up with just 200ml of milk you'll cover roughly a third of your protein requirements for the day - and a third of that from the oatmeal. Fibre too, of course. And that's before toppings.

I think it's worth saying this because porridge is also a cheap meal, and the last thing people need is to be persuaded it's not good enough.

Within the context of the snack/ vs meal argument.. and not the OP feeding her guest (when she was already feeding her more than needed anyway)

most normal people don't have the same appetite every single day. One day you fancy a steak and all the trimmings, one day a scone and a coffee are enough.

My point was that you can have a scone and call it lunch if you feel like it, who cares. Some days it's more than enough.

It's ok not to stuff yourself at every single meal just because someone called it "lunch" or "diner" - which is why I hate people plating for you, no one knows how hungry people are that meal!

I wouldn't worry too much, other people will complain you were over-feeding them and FORCING them to eat too much, when all you did was offering a variety a food, and often 😂

Sounds a lovely breakfast, but I really wouldn't need a big lunch.