Guest says I starved her <shock>

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Had a relative to stay for a few days, she just wanted to eat all time which we did not expect. I had cooked and baked which she ate (way more than us) then she said she wanted to get up in the night as she was so hungry!

Apologies, just saw the Op's update.

That's certainly enough food!

When I go to stay in anyone's house I always take a basket of food - cheese, olives, chocolates, a bottle of wine, that sort of thing. When people come to me they always seem to do the same. Also, if I'm staying more than a couple of days, I offer to cook a meal or take the hosts out for lunch.

I thought everyone did that but obviously OP's guest turned up expecting an all inclusive hotel.

That's probaby plenty for most people. Certainly not anywhere near 'starved'!

I always provide a selection of Pot Noodles, on a tray with a kettle, in guest bedrooms for just such an eventuality.
(Rather like they do in those upmarket Premier Inns, although of course theirs are tea and coffee sachet-based.)

Thats more than enough food? Are they obese?

A bowl of cereal & soup for lunch? That wouldn't be enough for my guests!

Cousin has worms.

Breakfast - porridge/granola, greek yog, fruit/ eggs

So why say cereal?

Was the soup blue?

When asked what was served, I doubt the op will have admitted to

no breakfast just coffee
soup no roll for lunch
small chicken salad for dinner

if that had been the case
it would be interesting to hear from the guest

And stringy?

I’m always starving and freezing in other people’s houses 😂

I’ve gone from thinking I’d be starving on cereal and soup for the day from your initial post to think ing Id be sick of food by the end of the day from your update!

relative is rude

Porridge/granola are cereal

That’s loads of food! And if all that was on the table at lunchtime to help yourself from she could have filled up on bread if the soup wasn’t enough. She’s being weird and very very rude, and she must be massively overeating every day to feel hungry with all that on offer.

Very much a case of help to what yo want yourself here

help yourself

Blimey OP I would struggle to eat all that. Its way more than I eat in a day.
I would try my best to eat as much as I could of it because I wouldn't want to appear rude and wouldn't want to hurt your feelings.
Unlike your guest who was rude and obviously did hurt your feelings.

It just shows how eating habits vary so much from person to person.

You were a good hostess. You provided a substantial menu and you told her to help herself if she was hungry. I don't see what more you could have done. Probably whatever you had provided she would have find fault with.

I agree with pp and think you should just say you are sorry she was hungry and remind her she had your blessung to help herself to food. And then move on. But probably think twice about asking her to be your guest again.

It sounds like you were a great host honestly. Is she obese?

Nah that’s enough, your cousin was rude and a bit greedy. If I’d been hungry I’d have taken a trip to the shop ‘for a paper’ and had a cheeky snickers or 2 rather than moan to my host.

How old were they and who did they say they felt ‘starved’ to?

You served loads of food and very healthy, but maybe that was the problem!

Maybe she eats lots of sweets and crisps at home and was missing them.

And i think cereal and soup for lunch is more than enough till dinner. I dont eat that much on a normal day.

I think it depends on portion sizes. Soup and a couple of scones probably wouldn’t be enough for me between breakfast and dinner. Some people make small portions and they rely on calories rather than volume. I am a volume eater so would probably feel physically hungry at your house. I think it also depends on age, at 25 I ate like a horse and my parents were aghast when I visited. At 35 I still eat a lot of volume but less than 10 years ago

When you are a guest and not providing any food/money, It doesn’t matter if the host served enough food or not, it’s very rude to complain about being hungry.

my stepmother was very tight with food. The children never got enough to eat when we stayed, so I would take a large contribution with me so I could feed them extra.

Well you can't let guests be hungry in your home. So next time you'll have to provide more food. Access to bread, butter, peanut butter and beans would be a cheap way for her to top up the regular food you provide. If that's too expensive or inconvenient, don't host her again.