My sister joked about my getting Botox in front of a room full of people

[Hairy396]

I told my sister I got Botox for the first time a month or so ago. Asked her not to tell anyone (my parents are old school and would be affronted). It was my surprise brothers 40th party recently and my sister joked in front of everyone that if it was my birthday you wouldn’t know I was surprised as my fave doesn’t move. Queue everyone looking at me and my mom asking me later on if it’s true. My sister says it was a joke and I’m overreacting but it really embarrassed me and also broke my trust

If you don't want anyone to know you keep it to yourself but others would be able to see anyway so don't really understand the angst. It was a funny joke 😂

This

I suggest you keep doing what you want to do and what makes you feel good - but don’t tell your sister again.
if she comments, say “yes, I did. It makes me happy/feel good/look fab” and change the topic. Let her stand there & feel flat with her non issue.

(I have Botox, mostly my forehead and don’t regret it for a second! Most often when asked I own it. Why not? But if the Q is asked in a negative way (“gawd, I would never do it, but ‘admire’ those who do” or other drivel), I’ll make up some outrageous home remedy I’ve used (“[(totally imaginary] banana skins, coffee grounds & an egg yolk mixed and left overnight. Add a teaspoon of anchovy oil if you really want to see results and can stand the smell. Use blender for best paste results, apply evenly and leave on for 10 mins”) so they can pong at home and wonder why it doesn’t work for them.)

Don’t tell anything in confidence again.

She shared information that she had been asked to keep to herself. And even worse, she shared it to make a joke.

It was an arsehole move by your sister - at least you know you can't trust her at all now. Don't tell her anything you don't want broadcasting to the whole family.

Your sister is a shitty person. Sorry but she knew you wanted it kept quiet and she deliberately blabbed it when she knew there was an audience. Classic cow.

The people saying everyone will have noticed ( they won’t) or why don’t you want to tell everyone anyway are missing the point. She breached your trust in order to make a joke at your expense publicly. Don’t share anything with her in future.

You often can’t tell

Has she got previous form for trying to humiliate and embarrass you? She had a bit of power of you and used it against you.

It’s only funny if both parties are laughing

OP, your sister is a bitch and I’d be furious too

People saying you can tell if someone has had Botox are missing the point, the sister has betrayed the OP’s trust.

Ha ha I did wonder 😂

I don’t understand why you were embarrassed?

People will see you have had Botox. You say you don’t mind people knowing.

Seeing as she said her own mum asked if it was true, I guess not.

Ive had Botox too. I didn’t tell my parents for exactly the same reason - my dad has always been derisive of people putting ‘that rubbish’ in their faces. He’s never once noticed that I’ve had something done and lives in the blissful belief that his daughter is ageing incredibly well (apparently she doesn’t dye her hair or get her eyebrows done either)

What a load of judgy twats on here

Botox has come a long way in the last decade or so. I was surprised at a girls night out recently to find I was one of the few who hadn’t had it done. I absolutely couldn’t tell who had: their faces looked natural and just lacking some lines and wrinkles. It actually made me reconsider getting it myself!

Regardless of what the secret was, I would also be pissed at her. It was a shitty thing to do and I would guess probably stems from jealously.

I think it was very unkind of your sister, regardless of whether other people noticed the difference.

Owning it doesn’t mean you have to announce it to everyone. You get to choose who you tell.

The op expressly asked her sister to keep her trap shut. If someone asks you to do that whether about Botox or if you’ve not cleaned your teeth this morning, you keep your trap shut. Regardless of the topic.

Yes, she was mean. It's not a nice thing to do. A joke isn't a joke if it's at someone else's expense.

As an aside I love that he is a surprise brother.

Bad form from your sister when you had asked her not to say anything. It’s on her that your trust in her may now be broken.
But most people will realise you’ve had Botox, maybe not initially but certainly over time.

I agree with you. It was a nasty thing to announce it in that way in front of everyone.

She sounds mean, and worse it sounds as if she didn’t apologise to you. I would consider what you share with her in future

She broke your confidence. The ‘joke’ isn’t funny. I wouldn’t fall out over it but I’d let her know that I believed I could trust her.

As for the Botox being obvious comments, it’s not always obvious and could be the result of any kind of facial treatment.

As for the Botox being obvious comments, it’s not always obvious and could be the result of any kind of facial treatment

But it is obvious - to a greater or lesser degree. The point of having it for cosmetic reasons is to alter something. There would be no point in having it otherwise.

People saying Botox is obvious. It’s not if done well.

I actually got it done as friends told me they had it and I hadn’t realised they had as it was subtle. They just looked good for their age/fresh. I had no idea. Then I got tempted. Pregnant now so won’t be having any til after I’ve finished breastfeeding.

I think some celebrities like the very smooth/frozen look so aim for that. You can go subtle or lots of Botox, depends who does it.

This! As soon as one says they are going to tell me a secret I say DONT. If they can’t keep their own secret why do they think I can. I hate the burden of keeping someone else’s secret and then later finding they have told loads of people. It worries me that if someone else blabs I might get the blame.