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My sister joked about my getting Botox in front of a room full of people

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Hairy396 · 04/11/2025 07:45

I told my sister I got Botox for the first time a month or so ago. Asked her not to tell anyone (my parents are old school and would be affronted). It was my surprise brothers 40th party recently and my sister joked in front of everyone that if it was my birthday you wouldn’t know I was surprised as my fave doesn’t move. Queue everyone looking at me and my mom asking me later on if it’s true. My sister says it was a joke and I’m overreacting but it really embarrassed me and also broke my trust

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StrongLikeMamma · 04/11/2025 08:12

Your sister is a bitch.

SirChenjins · 04/11/2025 08:13

Leaving aside the fact that botox is obvious (which is what you're paying for), you sister shouldn't have said that - you asked her not to and she ignored your request. Had the wine been flowing?

Bernadinetta · 04/11/2025 08:14

pastaandpesto · 04/11/2025 08:06

FFS at the PPs falling over themselves in bringing their personal opinions about Botox to the thread. The fact this is about Botox is completely irrelevant.

OP of course you are not being unreasonable. You told your sister in confidence about something is personal to you that you feel sensitive about. Not only has she broken that confidence, but she did it publicly, for the sake of a laugh. I'd be absolutely furious and deeply disappointed.

This. It’s not about the Botox. Does she have form for undermining you/trying to bring you down, OP? Is she jealous of you?

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Hairy396 · 04/11/2025 08:15

someepeoplearenice · 04/11/2025 08:08

Yeah, she was mean to make you the butt of a joke. Especially as you told her in confidence. Still, at least you found out she is untrustworthy over a minor thing. You’ll know not to confide anything important now.

Have to say, I love the idea of your surprise brother having a party 😀

😂😂 my long lost bother

no, little typo!

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Endofyear · 04/11/2025 08:17

Yea it was mean of your sister to do this when you'd asked her to keep it to herself. I'd be very careful what you tell her in the future.

Ygfrhj · 04/11/2025 08:18

Among my friends it's not controversial to get Botox and I quite happily share that I've had it, maybe your sister is the same and didn't take in how important it was to you to keep it secret.

It's the kind of thing my sibling and I would tease each other about, but I would expect him to knock it off if I'd explained how sensitive I felt about it so YANBU to be annoyed.

Also... It's not obvious at all if it's well done and depending on your age and face. My in laws are extremely judgey about Botox but they have never noticed I get it!

GoldThumb · 04/11/2025 08:18

The Botox is irrelevant, she decided to make you the butt of a joke. Especially when you asked her not to.

But people on here have a thing against Botox, so apparently it’s fine 🙄

Girlking · 04/11/2025 08:20

pastaandpesto · 04/11/2025 08:06

FFS at the PPs falling over themselves in bringing their personal opinions about Botox to the thread. The fact this is about Botox is completely irrelevant.

OP of course you are not being unreasonable. You told your sister in confidence about something is personal to you that you feel sensitive about. Not only has she broken that confidence, but she did it publicly, for the sake of a laugh. I'd be absolutely furious and deeply disappointed.

This ☝🏻

P0PTARTS · 04/11/2025 08:23

Why are you getting it done if you’re embarrassed about having had it done and it’s a secret. Think a bit more deeply about it. Would you be embarrassed about brushing your hair? Shaving your legs?
I wish people would stop pretending this isn’t all about vanity and wishing everyone would believe that they don’t actually age

Devilsmommy · 04/11/2025 08:23

Poor form from your sister but if I was you I'd laugh it off otherwise it will become a big thing that gets joked about because they can see it upsets you. People are shitty like that. Did your mom get affronted when she found out?

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Hairy396 · 04/11/2025 08:26

P0PTARTS · 04/11/2025 08:23

Why are you getting it done if you’re embarrassed about having had it done and it’s a secret. Think a bit more deeply about it. Would you be embarrassed about brushing your hair? Shaving your legs?
I wish people would stop pretending this isn’t all about vanity and wishing everyone would believe that they don’t actually age

I’m not embarrassed about having it done. I’m embarrassed about it being made a joke out in front of 30 people at a party

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jan2310 · 04/11/2025 08:27

pastaandpesto · 04/11/2025 08:06

FFS at the PPs falling over themselves in bringing their personal opinions about Botox to the thread. The fact this is about Botox is completely irrelevant.

OP of course you are not being unreasonable. You told your sister in confidence about something is personal to you that you feel sensitive about. Not only has she broken that confidence, but she did it publicly, for the sake of a laugh. I'd be absolutely furious and deeply disappointed.

Well said.

Ineedanewsofa · 04/11/2025 08:28

It’s a dick move, my sister had done this sort of thing throughout my life whenever I’ve made the mistake of trusting her with something.
I’ve not told her anything I don’t want broadcasting for the last 15 years! It makes me sad that I can’t trust my own sister but that’s the reality.
Fortunately I have great friends so I don’t ‘need’ my sister for anything

Bernadinetta · 04/11/2025 08:28

P0PTARTS · 04/11/2025 08:23

Why are you getting it done if you’re embarrassed about having had it done and it’s a secret. Think a bit more deeply about it. Would you be embarrassed about brushing your hair? Shaving your legs?
I wish people would stop pretending this isn’t all about vanity and wishing everyone would believe that they don’t actually age

Yes OP, because there’s absolutely no middle ground between either not getting it done or being comfortable being mocked about it in front of a room full of family and friends. If you aren’t prepared for your personal cosmetic decisions to be announced and made fun of in front of everyone you know then you should just be resigned to a life of natural aging.
<sarcasm> 🙄

RosesAndHellebores · 04/11/2025 08:33

@Hairy396 I am so sorry.

Your sister not only betrayed your trust buy publicly and at a family celebration shared your "secret" to embarass you and show you up and took the piss a bit.

That's not nice and I'd call it bullying.

Could she afford botox if she wanted it?

dontlikethings · 04/11/2025 08:33

Your sister was a cow. Don't tell her anything again.

AnnaMagnani · 04/11/2025 08:37

Sorry your sister appears to have your relationship stuck at when you were aged 7.

It wasn't a funny joke, you can't necessarily tell when people have had botox, and you probably weren't the only person in the room who has had it.

Back21970 · 04/11/2025 08:41

Some of these replies are just plain stupid, judgemental and turning it round on the OP for getting Botox - of course your sister was bang out of order.

Botox done correctly is not always obvious for a start - I get mine done and all it does for me is softens the wrinkles.

Anyone who thinks otherwise has either never had it done or has had too much which can give a frozen look.

It’s your business who you tell and I totally get feeling it’s ok to say to your sister but not wanting to share with your whole family - more to the point she knew that and still deliberately blabbed which is just plain mean.

She doesn’t sound very nice, to be honest, she embarrassed you on purpose, I don’t think I’d share anything else with her.

Lurkingandlearning · 04/11/2025 08:43

Maybe look at it as a blessing. You now know you cannot trust her and should never confide in her again. You’ve been very lucky to learn that over something everyone could see for themselves. Just think how much worse it would have been if she’d blabbed about a secret.

Beanie567 · 04/11/2025 08:47

I hope you’ve learnt not to tell her anything like that again whether about yourself or dh or dc if that applies. It was a deliberate comment on her part, not an accidental reveal.

No5ChalksRoad · 04/11/2025 08:49

OnlyFangs · 04/11/2025 07:53

Bad form by your sister, yes.

But it's normally pretty obvious when someone has had Botox even when they kid themselves it's subtle.

It changes facial expressions in an unsettling way

Not always. My sister gets it regularly and it’s not at all obvious.

Sevenamcoffee · 04/11/2025 08:50

The issue is not being able to trust her so don’t tell her anything confidential ever again. It’s sad for you.

Tablesandchairs23 · 04/11/2025 08:54

People are missing the point. Its about her sister purposely embarrassing her in front of people. Not if people can tell she's had botox.

TheCorrsDidDreamsBetter · 04/11/2025 08:54

The thing with secrets is that they always get out. Your sister was cruel to announce it, but I think anybody who swears somebody else to absolute secrecy over anything is a fool for thinking it will remain a secret.

Don't tell her anything you don't want broadcasting in the future.

GoldThumb · 04/11/2025 08:56

Lurkingandlearning · 04/11/2025 08:43

Maybe look at it as a blessing. You now know you cannot trust her and should never confide in her again. You’ve been very lucky to learn that over something everyone could see for themselves. Just think how much worse it would have been if she’d blabbed about a secret.

Agree with this. It’s a good thing,